SouthernSpankin
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Over the years I've identified two distinctly different kinds of switches.
There are ones like me, and by that I mean those who strongly lean towards one side or another. For instance, I'm a mostly submissive switch. I say this even though my personality is primarily dominant, and I submit to a rare few. My primary relationship will always be with a dominant male.
Although I enjoy secondary relationships with submissives, they can't be my primary relationship b/c (so far at least) I'm not interested in having sex with them. This type of switch may have a dom partner and a sub partner, but they rarely, if ever, switch with the same person.
I think many people are confused by this type of switch; they assume when the right person comes along, the stronger side will win out. I can assure you my dominant side does not mysteriously disappear b/c I'm in a relationship with a dom male.
Then there are those switches who are more top/bottom than dom/sub. They tend to be more middle of the road as opposed to extremely dominant or extremely submissive. The also tend to be more S/M then D/s, although I've known switch couples who had a wonderful synergy and flowed from dom to sub effortlessly. This type of switch tends to hook up with another switch of their kind. I also think they are the most misunderstood, b/c those who strongly identify with one side or the other have difficulty understanding those who. . . .don't.
Are there overlaps to these two type? Yes !!
Now to my questions:
Do you agree that there is more than one kind of switch?
If so do you agree with my switch categories, or do you have your own?
Are there some categories I've yet to identify?
All thoughts are appreciated, although if we can keep this from turning into a "switches should just decide" rant, that would be nice (I'm sure that's been done.)
I think switches are hard to classify. I know a girl that is Domme-only in the context of the overall relationship, but when it comes to playtime in the bedroom, she loves being the bottom. So in the D/s context, she strongly identifies as a Domme, but in the top/bottom context, she strongly identifies as a bottom. In addition to the D/s variable and the top/bottom variable, you've got all kind of other variables that make it hard to classify switches.
Are they bisexual or not? If so, are they only into one role with one sex and another role with the other sex? Or not? I know girls that are sub-only with males and Domme-only with females. And I know girls that are sub-only with females and Domme-only with males.
Are they into just having one relationship at a time, or are they into having multiple relationships at the same time? If they are just into having one relationship at time, are they cool being just sub-only in that relationship? Are they cool being just Dom-only in that relationship? Or do they need a combination of being both Dom and sub (for example, I know a couple where the husband is the Master and the wife is the slave 6 days a week, except for Sundays, when the wife is the Mistress and the husband is the slave)? Are they cool just being bottom-only or top-only in that relationship, or do they need a combination of being both top and bottom? For example, I know a couples that have a consentual agreement that either one of them can spank the other as they see fit.
And if the switch is into having multiple relationships at the same time, then you can get all kind of results. I know a lot of owned slaves that have their own personal slaves. With you, you are sub-only in your primary relatioship, but you are Dom-only in your secondary relationships--and you look at it like your primary relationship is with your Dom, while the secondary relationships with your subs are all secondary (and in fact, non-sexual). I know a girl like this. She loves her Master but she is seeking her own slave, with the understanding that her relationship with her slave will be non-sexual. But then on the other hand, you have switches in multiple relationships where they don't view one as primary over the other. For example, I girl I know that is a slave to her male Master, but a Mistress to her female slave. She views both relationships as equally primary to her.
But again, I think switches are difficult to classify. And, I'd imagine that at least some switches don't like it when people try to classify them. For example, you were saying that a switch that doesn't strongly lean one way or the other is a switch that tends to hook up with another switch of their kind. From what I've seen, the opposite is true... most switches I know that don't strongly lean one way or the other are switches that are most interested in a relationship where they are sub-only or a relationship where they are Dom-only... they don't really care if they are the Dom or the sub, but they just want to be one or the other in that relationship... not both. And I've seen some switches of this type that don't like it when people classify or lable them as people that "tend to hook up with another switch of their kind," like they are too "weak" to commit to a role--like they are flip-floppers. Because of this, I've seen "switches" that say they don't think of themselves as a "switch," but they prefer being called by this new term, which I can't recall off the top of my head.
All in all, it is interesting to think about how one could possibly classify switches. I think it'd be possible for one to sit down and think of all the different variables and put them together in every possible combination to try to come up with a list of classifications of switches... but it would take a long time and it would be a long list.
< Message edited by SouthernSpankin -- 8/28/2009 10:22:24 AM >
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