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RE: What is vanilla? - 9/10/2009 4:23:15 PM

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I just thought vanilla meant plain?

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RE: What is vanilla? - 9/10/2009 4:57:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally

The 'is spanking a fetish' thread has bought up some issues.

My vanilla friend likes spanking, yeah I know vanilla folks involved in kink etc. If those sentences make sense then what the heck is vanilla? See I thought vanilla meant those who didn't engage in anything thought to be BDSM (which in turn kinda means that there are no vanilla people therefore maybe the term is used for those who don't recognise the kink)

Yeah ok it is another define this thread but I thought it was quite interesting.

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RE: What is vanilla? - 9/11/2009 12:33:17 AM

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Interesting discussion. I knew for myself I'd moved past vanilla in general when I took a quiz in a women's magazine (I was getting color on my hair, and I was bored, okay?) and stuck on one question. "If you wanted to push the limits a little you'd....a) have sex outdoors; b)tie someone to the bed; c) wear a costume; d) try anal sex" . Because I realized that that question was about as pointless as "I'm going to push the limits today; normally I have the grilled chicken sandwich for lunch, but today, I'm going to have the fried chicken sandwich!" for me. All of them were liable to happen depending on the mood my then-boyfriend and I were in.

It has its shortcomings as a term, but it's useful as a very quick shorthand way to indicate that making your slave eat off the floor without using his hands or other highly overt power exchange stuff just isn't appropriate. Just as in other settings, I like to know when mundanes are going to be present so that I don't spend the evening boring people into tears with why I can't just use Homarus americanus to do a fourteenth century French brouet and the difficulty in finding cassia buds and did you SEE that dress that Baroness Thus-and-such wore to Coronation! (grin)

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RE: What is vanilla? - 9/15/2009 4:22:07 PM

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i was wondering y like under my name jasada89 on my posts it lists me as vanilla but i dont think i am at all i am into humilation and pain and the dominance of a woman not for the sex but for the power she has over me just curious and i didnt want to start a whole new thread for this little question so i thought this be the best spot

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RE: What is vanilla? - 9/15/2009 4:26:05 PM

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