gypsygrl
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ORIGINAL: abuddingdom
Amen, LadyPact. To each and every word of your OP......
I'm blessed with an obedient submissive. She didn't obey 100% in our earlier days. There were some growing pains , to be sure, but since committing to me she's been consistently and completely obedient. It's a cornerstone of our relationship and I dont see how a successful D/s relationship could even survive for any length of time, much less flourish, without obedience asa cornerstone - expected by one & given willingly and completely by the other (other than negotiated limits, unsafe or immoral orders, etc). I was proud a couple weeks ago when we were out with a Domme we both respect(and, just as importantly, like)who noted to me, privately when I sent my pretty one on an errand, how obedient she is. I replied - sincerely - that I'm not only a fortunate but a proud Sir, adding that she'll do " almost anything I tell her to do". My pretty one occasionally asks for clarification and even now and then disagrees with me, but I honestly cant recall the last time she didnt obey me.........
Yes, its true, I'm obedient. Sometimes to a fault, as when I take directions too literally and follow an order to a T without thinking enough about it. If Sir says do X, Y, and Z I do X, Y and Z without always thinking about whether or not W should be done also. Recently, this has caused us some problems--nothing major; just some hassles that could have been avoided if one of us had been paying attention. W needed to be done. :)
But, and I think this is important, I'm like this all the time with everyone in many different contexts. It's not just a D/s thing for me. To be sure, early in our relationship, when I did refuse to obey some orders because I didn't think they were appropriate to our level of committment, it wasn't easy and caused me a lot of stress. I was self-consciously withholding full submission because I was uncertain about Sir's willingness/ability to accept it and wanted to make sure he was prepared for it. In short, I was being cautious but in being cautious, I was going against my own 'natural' tendency. I have to work not to submit/obey/comply. If someone tells me to do something, I do it and this has gotten me into some trouble.
I know not everyone is like this. At work, it puzzles me to no end when the folks I work with refuse to do their job for whatever reason. They're told to do something and they just don't do it. I don't get it. And, I don't get why they still have jobs not to do.
In years past, when I was much younger, I was something of a social radical, I managed to convince myself that complete obedience was a revolutionary act. In my thinking, if everyone did exactly what they were supposed to do without deviation everything would fall apart. Imagine what would have happened in the late 70's and 80's before they changed the maximum speed limits if everyone did drive 55 mph and no faster. The interstates would have been a mess. The system depends on disobedience/rebellion/resistance. So, I refused all those things and trained myself to comply. (I was already pretty good at it, and have been since I was a child, so it wasn't difficult.) Since then, I've gotten over myself so now obedience is just a habit and a kink. :)
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