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What do you want to be called? - 3/14/2004 5:43:17 PM

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Female Dominants sometimes want to be called Goddess, Queen, etc. Besides "Sir" is there another honorific you prefer. (I doubt "God" is acceptable.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/14/2004 8:32:40 PM

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Well besides Sir, there's the usual masculine honorifics...

Master, Dom, Lord, Owner, Mister, Sire, Father, Daddy, Uncle, Count, Uberman...

- is Godster taken already?

- what about Enchantster?

- a man who would be Kingster?

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/14/2004 8:40:11 PM

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It depends on the context, and how the person addressing me identifies themselves. Usually, for someone not in my collar, my name will do, regardless of whether they identify themselves as submissive. It is up to them, subject to any accepted group protocol, to decide whether they want to use Sir or Master in addressing me. For someone in my collar, Master is required. If I am among Goreans, or interacting with a woman who identifies herself as a Gorean slave, Master is required, even if the slave is unowned or belongs to someone else. Goreans are unusual in the D/s world in that respect because they see slavery as a social standing within the group, not just a specific relationship between owner and owned.

It is common to run across folks online who demand that they be addressed with an honorific by all submissives or slaves, all of the time. In most cases (except the Gorean context mentioned above) honorifics in the D/s world are used more or less in the same way as they are in the outside world; as a show of respect, usually when addressing someone of superior standing. To expect that someone who doesn't know you from Adam, regardless of whether they consider themselves submissive, to address you that way is unrealistic. More importantly, it cheapens the respect implied when the honorific is used genuinely.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/14/2004 9:45:45 PM

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Sir is always nice from a sub or slave. Master from one you own. And sometimes Daddy is fun. Just don't call me late for dinner! Lol

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/15/2004 12:01:15 AM

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I loathe titles.. Lord Of Universe Masterof Allthe World, Grand Pophba of the Kitchenare.. whateverrrr!!!...

Call me Ma'am ... or Ms.. I dont need to be Lordess of The Enternal Darkness, Goddess of The Five Gates of Hell, Queen of Kinkdom... Im just me.. I came built this way.. My parents named me .. good enough...

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/15/2004 5:03:50 AM

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My name is Suz and I do answer to it.

For someone who I do not own I like Ma'am or Ms or Mz, although I never require honorifics (the very requirement would take the honor out of it to my mind).

I found that few people can say "Mistress" without it sounding plastic.

I like those I own to call me Madame, although there are one or two people I don't own who love me, know I like to be called Madame and have adopted it as their own honorific for me.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/15/2004 8:42:24 AM

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I prefer Master or Sir from my property, and my title Lord Lion from a slave that I do not own. I have found that lifestyle names are beneficial if you are active in the lifestyle and interact with others. I follow the Gorean traditions that require such an address.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/15/2004 11:40:48 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Leonidas

It is common to run across folks online who demand that they be addressed with an honorific by all submissives or slaves, all of the time. In most cases (except the Gorean context mentioned above) honorifics in the D/s world are used more or less in the same way as they are in the outside world; as a show of respect, usually when addressing someone of superior standing. To expect that someone who doesn't know you from Adam, regardless of whether they consider themselves submissive, to address you that way is unrealistic. More importantly, it cheapens the respect implied when the honorific is used genuinely.

Leonidas

I totally agree with you Leonidas. To me calling the whole world Sir or Master cheapens the relationship between the two who actually have a relationship. Why do something like that on purpose?
For strangers, I call them by their given name at birth. I don't call anyone Sir or Maam without them first earning respect. I'm not in the military any longer I can do what I want now. I'm not real concerned with people judging me or calling me names. So, frankly I can care less.
My Dom does'nt like to be called Sir..or Master. His name is Doug. He has a pet name..I call him Douglie. That is my name for him. He does'nt want anyone else calling him by the name. It moreless means Master to him.
So, I think its different depending on each and every individual.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/15/2004 1:19:32 PM

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I will call a Dom other than my own whatever my Master wants me to call him, usually it's Sir with his name after it like SirBill.
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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/15/2004 3:24:24 PM

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For me it's more a question of 'when' than 'what......

I like the occasional 'Sir' but wouldn't _insist_ on it always, even from someone I owned. I don't like "master" coming from aqquintances, either.

I a relationship, I like to hear 'sir' from time to time, and 'master' in certain circumstance.

and I once had a girl (or should I say, she once had me....) who'd call me call me 'captain' or 'boss' or 'professor' from time to time, with a sort of respectfully mocking tone, that was really rather endearing.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/16/2004 6:14:52 AM

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I don't believe titles make a difference. There have been many leaders in our past with the titles of President, General, Prime Minister, CEO, etc. and some of them were excellent leaders and some of them were lousy but all had the same title. Call me what you feel you must.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/16/2004 2:05:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: iwillserveu

Female Dominants sometimes want to be called Goddess, Queen, etc. Besides "Sir" is there another honorific you prefer. (I doubt "God" is acceptable.)

I think maybe the question should be... "What don't you want to be called?". I don't want to be called Master by anyone whom I have not collared. I don't mind being called Sir by others, but don't insist on it either. If they feel I have earned it then they are welcome to use the honorific if they want.

Usually I am quite happy being called Shadow, ShadowHawk, or Terry

But then again, that's just me.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/19/2004 5:18:36 PM

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I think it varies, depending on the situation and the relationship. In professional relationships in which one has "earned" a honorific, "Dr., Senator, Sargeant,...whatever" it should be expected, although it has been my experience in the D/s community there are probably more than a few that believe demonstrated, (or believed) expertise or even interest in a facet of the lifestyle would be enough by comparison for them to qualify for the same type of treatment. To them, I'd say "whatever finds your lost remote"! Seriously tho - it probably should be confined to relationship - your own, to be specific. Personally, feeling the air on my earlobe generated by a sub's clenched teeth whisper of "yes!" to an asked question makes me smile, whether or not the 'Sir' is attached....

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/25/2004 9:05:43 AM

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Goddess, Queen, Her Majesty, Her Highness :) , Ma'am, Madam, M'lady, Lady, Owner, Master, Ms.....anything but Mistress *cringes*. I expect my slaves to use possesives (yes, my Queen) and I expect slaves that aren't mine to use respect (yes, Ma'am). Of course, this is all assuming that we are in a kink-friendly place. If not, then Ms. Janai will do.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/26/2004 12:01:39 AM

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Greetings BlackGoddess, and welcome to collarme message board.

This is a similar thread which was posted in both the "ask a Master" and "ask a Mistress" forums, and it appears you have replied to the "ask a Master" honorifics thread. Not inferring your posts are limited to any forum, or forums... they are welcome across the board, but this reply is actually Off Topic here in this thread, but would be On Topic in the other similar thread ("ask a Mistress" honorifics thread).

Your post is appreciated, not discounted or disrespected... just mistakenly posted in the wrong thread (oops!).

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 3/26/2004 9:16:25 AM

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Ah, I see....I misread the original post....I was not aware until after I posted here that there were seperate forums for Masters and Mistresses. Doh!

Carry on, Guys!

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 4/9/2004 12:55:14 AM

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When I'm out and interacting with others in the lifestyle, Daddy Diamond works for me. I'm a Lesbian Daddy. for subs whom I know. Daddy Diamond or Sir is fine but not required. For the ones who belongs to me, Daddy or Sir is required.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 4/10/2004 1:06:51 PM

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I have pretty simple tastes.

Generally, Steve or Stephan works well in informal situations. In a formal D/s setting, I would prefer to be called Sir, and any slave I own simply calls me Master 80% of the time.

I dont get any special kick out of a title, but I believe that formalities and rituals can enhance the experience for all involved.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 4/18/2004 1:05:08 PM

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For a slave in my household it would always be "Master" and "Sir" with reasonable accommodation to those situations involving others where that might be problematic, and I prefer even that accommodation to be only the minimum necessary.

For all others in all other situations, my name (Michael) is just fine although, because I have some roots of the Southern variety, "sir" (and "ma'am" as well) is a more everyday sort of courtesy in speech than it probably is for others with roots elsewhere.

I am entirely respectful of slaves whose Owners have trained them to address all Dominants and Masters in a particular way to show respect and make every effort not to run interference with the comfort zone their Owners have created for them.

I have a strong dislike for those lists and discussion groups that insist that all submissives address all Doms and Masters (sometimes even all men) in a particular way (and get chided for expressing themselves with insufficient deference).

Realizing I'll probably piss some folks off, I just will not address anyone as Lord Anything. Not never. Not unless they can show me a piece of paper signed by the reigning monarch that says they're a Duke or an Earl or the Duke Duke Duke Duk of Earl Earl Earl, or whatever.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 4/20/2004 6:40:40 PM

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Within to context of the lifestyle, Sir is fine by me. Just be consistent with it, and inconsistency annoys me to all hell (and yes, inconsistency within myself, as well). The submissives that I am deeply involved with, they all call me Master as a matter of course, but not just that... to them I am a lot of things, not just Master. Again, its about context to me. If we are talking about something normally, the rules are relaxed, even though they know when I ask a question or make a request in a certain way, that is what I like to call a "Yes, Master" moment, where unless there is a good reason for it, no other answer is going to satisfy me, in that their submission is reflected fully by those words and the tone of voice when they are said to me.

Something that I found interesting (and at times, amusing) during my trip home last week to lay my mother to rest (she passed away after a long fight with cancer) was that I was addressing senior members of my family as Sir or Ma'am. Upon a bit of reflection, I decided that it was a way of giving more respect to the person, as more often than not the person I was speaking to changed my dirty diapers when I was a toddler.

But I digress. Respect between a dominant and submissive should always be there, and on a very very basic level, should always be offered up by those on both sides of the fence. That level of respect should broaden and deepen as the relationship grows.

But as always, these are my opinions. Take them for what you will.

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