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Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/16/2009 3:25:04 PM   
SlutAndi


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Status: offline 		My Master loves nothing more than making me cum as often as possible, trouble is I have difficulty having an orgasm... to the point where I feel like I am disappointing him because I just cant cum.. So many times i get to the point where I am about to but then its just gone. He is doing everything perfectly and i have no complaints in that department.

I worry that because I dont orgasm as often as i could, I feel he may deflate and become "comfortable" with this and just stop trying and just be happy with the odd time that i do. It gets the the point where I get so angry with myself. And Im starting to wonder if im maybe trying to hard and not relaxing enough for it to flow because I WANT to cum for my Master and maybe feel pressure a little.

We could be Playing all night, him teasing me in a number of ways but I will only get to the high point once!!??

I have a done a little test and i feel really dirty even saying this... but one night i was alone and i played with myself. and I actually came 3 times within hal;f an hour??

Is it because I am trying too hard to please him? Can anyone relate?
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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/16/2009 3:43:55 PM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		We all have the keys to our own doors.  You know exactly how to touch yourself to bring you to orgasm and even multiple orgasms (envys women who can do this).   The thing is, penetration is not always what does it - ain't biology a bitch?    

Some females need oral or finger or combined manipulation to orgasm even once...

Make it a game between the two of you and let him go to town on you and give him feedback on what feels best.


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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/16/2009 3:45:38 PM   
sexisubi


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Status: offline 		i dont cum easy... in any department (he he) but what did you do that was different then what he did. i know with me if i dont have clit stimulation chances of me cumming are 0. what ever you did thats what you need to communicate to him.

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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/16/2009 3:58:52 PM   
Eivarden


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Status: offline 		Heh, I have these issues as well, but I'm a guy, so I can't really give input from my experience.

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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/16/2009 4:00:17 PM   
SlutAndi


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Status: offline 		Thanks Otter!

The funny thing is though... Even when he forces me to do it myself infront of him, Nothing.. I cant seem to let go of all inabitions (sp) when with him.I dont know why as generally always I am very comfortable with him. Maybe its my confidence? I dont know.

Your game idea is a good one.. It will help me be more communicative with him in the sense.Will be fun too... hehe

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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/16/2009 4:11:25 PM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		So when my Lady and I first got together, I was really stuffed up...uh...sexually...  Took me nearly 3 months to have an orgasm (don't...just don't  ).  There is a process wherein we become comfortable with someone.  That can take a while if there is trauma, or shyness, etc. 

Give it time, play the game and he should have you happily screaming his name in no time. 


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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/16/2009 4:14:44 PM   
SlutAndi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sexisubi

i dont cum easy... in any department (he he) but what did you do that was different then what he did. i know with me if i dont have clit stimulation chances of me cumming are 0. what ever you did thats what you need to communicate to him.
By him watching me do it the way I do it.. I have notced he has tried it, which is good he is taking notice. but its difficult to explain the finger motion to a heavy handed male..haha

I guess communication is the key and we just need to have a night out of bdsm play and just explore all possibilies! it could be quite funny!

I quess its not a minority issue... and there are ways of getting around it!

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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/16/2009 4:49:45 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		One thing i have noticed is that the orgasms that my Sir gives me and the ones i give myself are different.    Just a thought.

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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/16/2009 4:59:55 PM   
theRose4U


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By him watching me do it the way I do it.. I have notced he has tried it, which is good he is taking notice. but its difficult to explain the finger motion to a heavy handed male..haha

Couple thoughts:
1) get yourself off using his hand, you control pressure, motion and direction (clue phone should go off when you're screaming his name)

2)other is I use my own hand but cover it with his so he can feel the pressure and directionality.

YMMV as it really depends on the guy having an open mind and a common goal of your pleasure. Tell him it's like driving a Ferrari, just because he knows how to shift doesn't mean he's got the finess for horsepower.

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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/16/2009 6:17:17 PM   
Kalista07


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quote:

ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

We all have the keys to our own doors. 


If only that generalization were an absolute.

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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/16/2009 6:38:55 PM   
andreaC


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Status: offline 		i agree with kiwisub12 on this :)

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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/17/2009 7:44:05 AM   
angelikaJ


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SlutAndi

My Master loves nothing more than making me cum as often as possible, trouble is I have difficulty having an orgasm... to the point where I feel like I am disappointing him because I just cant cum.. So many times i get to the point where I am about to but then its just gone. He is doing everything perfectly and i have no complaints in that department.

I worry that because I dont orgasm as often as i could, I feel he may deflate and become "comfortable" with this and just stop trying and just be happy with the odd time that i do. It gets the the point where I get so angry with myself. And Im starting to wonder if im maybe trying to hard and not relaxing enough for it to flow because I WANT to cum for my Master and maybe feel pressure a little.

We could be Playing all night, him teasing me in a number of ways but I will only get to the high point once!!??

I have a done a little test and i feel really dirty even saying this... but one night i was alone and i played with myself. and I actually came 3 times within hal;f an hour??

Is it because I am trying too hard to please him? Can anyone relate?



I think that is likely it; it seems to be the biggest factor for me.

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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/17/2009 8:04:42 AM   
SaharahEve


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quote:

ORIGINAL: theRose4U

quote:

By him watching me do it the way I do it.. I have notced he has tried it, which is good he is taking notice. but its difficult to explain the finger motion to a heavy handed male..haha

Couple thoughts:
1) get yourself off using his hand, you control pressure, motion and direction (clue phone should go off when you're screaming his name)

2)other is I use my own hand but cover it with his so he can feel the pressure and directionality.

YMMV as it really depends on the guy having an open mind and a common goal of your pleasure. Tell him it's like driving a Ferrari, just because he knows how to shift doesn't mean he's got the finess for horsepower.


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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/17/2009 8:46:48 AM   
SlutAndi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SaharahEve


quote:

ORIGINAL: theRose4U

quote:

By him watching me do it the way I do it.. I have notced he has tried it, which is good he is taking notice. but its difficult to explain the finger motion to a heavy handed male..haha

Couple thoughts:
1) get yourself off using his hand, you control pressure, motion and direction (clue phone should go off when you're screaming his name)

2)other is I use my own hand but cover it with his so he can feel the pressure and directionality.

YMMV as it really depends on the guy having an open mind and a common goal of your pleasure. Tell him it's like driving a Ferrari, just because he knows how to shift doesn't mean he's got the finess for horsepower.


Good advice.
agreed! thank you for that!! Im definitly going to give these idea's a go with him and think he will be more than willing to experement.

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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/17/2009 9:05:30 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		maybe have a couple drinks before hand (don't get sloshed) but to ease up on the inhibitions and self-conciousness.

Watch a goofy movie beforehand, be in a goofy mood to start.....no time for reflection sort of thing, how ever you achieve it, and for fucks sake use lots and lots of good self talk (I can do this, he will be so pleased and so on)

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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/17/2009 9:07:33 AM   
Falkenstein


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Status: offline 		Take the pressure of yourself.

Do not start with thinking "I want to cum" or even worse, "I have to". Just enjoy the caresses of your master, relax. Plan not to cum. Tell your master that you love his caresses and cannot get enough of it.

Ask him to play with his hands as the rose told you (find a nice explanation though, the one with the Ferrari can be badly interpreted).

Continue masturbating alone, it is good for you, do it as often as you can. Slowly introduce your master in your fantasies by thinking of his presence when cumming.

Good luck

Henry


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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/17/2009 9:25:18 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		yeah, take the i out of orgasms, in reality and in the title.

I like how that fit in.

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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/17/2009 12:48:01 PM   
windchymes


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

yeah, take the i out of orgasms, in reality and in the title.

I like how that fit in.


That's fucking brilliant.

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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/17/2009 1:23:50 PM   
SlutAndi


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

yeah, take the i out of orgasms, in reality and in the title.

I like how that fit in.
I knew something wasnt right with that spelling

Good play on that one!

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RE: Trouble having orgasims.. - 9/17/2009 1:25:18 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		so get in there and get in some good play, you fuckin' goof, and don't worry about it, orgasims come to us all, you need to practice, no big gig.

all the best,
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