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puella -> Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 5:42:57 PM)

Let me preface this post by stating that I would really appreciate all you kind hearted dearies not taking this post as a shout out for a puella love-fest.... I am not sad or feeling bad about myself... I am just really wondering about stuff as I sit here by myself.

Does anyone else hate, and I do not mean dislike, I mean dread more than anything else, being naked?

I do.. and I cannot figure out why, or how it came to roost so stubbornly within me.... but its a real problem now...

I hate it to the point that even with a person I love and who I know loves me... being naked makes me want to weep...is the worst possible, most cruel punishment and can bring me to the lowest place within myself in the shortest possible time.

I think it is so glorious when people love being naked.. I love to see it, I love to be around it... I love the human body and for women, I especially love fuller figures.... so I do not have a self image problem, I do not think....I mean I can see how beautiful someone like Sunnyfey is and can totally appreciate her nude... but would just LOVE to see someone like Nigella nude lol... (such a perv!)

So anyway...does anyone else share this wierd sort of nudity phobia... and I do think it borders on that kind of irrationality...

If you love being naked... why, and have you always... and wow I am so jealous!

Would love to read a rational discussion about this!

Thanks!



playfulotter -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 5:49:44 PM)

I can understand where you are coming from...I find that even when I was at my ideal weight I was always a bit apprehensive about being nude but a good compliment always changed my feeling about it....now that I need to lose a few I am worse about it but the man I am with likes me how I am but knows i want to lose 15 pounds....I have never really hated it though except when I was in my teens and early 20's...maybe you should explain what goes through your mind when nude that makes you hate it so much?  I have found that having nude photos you like of yourself helps critique yourself..but that is just me!  Remembering there are all sizes and shapes out there that appeals to some and not others might help thinking that way...Have a great weekend....rr



DemonKia -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 5:50:08 PM)

Excellent question . . .. .

Yeah, I've had to do a lot of 'work' around my perception of myself, & still have work to do . . . . . .

I'm looking forward to seeing what goes up in this thread. I'm sure I'll have other thoughts to contribute .. ..



lizi -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 5:54:04 PM)

I'm fine with being nude by myself or with the person I care about. I don't think I'd like to be nude in public though. I've always been pretty much the same...



RavenMuse -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 6:30:37 PM)

Nudity... From My perspective...a non event, neither love nor hate it, if the situation warrants it I have no qualms nor hesitations. Wandering bollox naked through a camp of 2500 pagans to get bodypainted by a bunch of lovely young lady's... not a second thought. It is just a body, surprisingly most people have one and frankly We all look better when at least something is left to the imagination.

It is a leveller though... no hiding behind a style of clothing and when everyone is naked then nobody is giving a second thought to what others bodys look like.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 7:10:26 PM)

Yup, I have always as far back as my days of being able to remember things, loved being naked. I was raised in a nudity friendly home, As a child I frequently wandered about  the house nude, watched tv nude, slept nude, went outside nude in the privacy of my own back yard, ect ect It's foreign to me the concept of having to put clothing on  and keep it on, and I find clothing  even light layers of clothing very constricting and hot and unpleasant and I rather feel the air on my skin than clothing on my skin. I actually do not sleep as well if I have to wear jammies and undies, as I do when I am free to sleep completely nude, and I can feel a huge difference when I finally do get to get naked, it's like this huge sigh of relief, it's palpable for me, mentally and pysically.

this has not changed despite the fact I have not always been fat and being fat is a huge change from how I was for years, because I was always very skinny, up until I was 17, and I just kept getting fatter from there on.
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ORIGINAL: puella

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If you love being naked... why, and have you always... and wow I am so jealous!

Would love to read a rational discussion about this!

Thanks!



GoddessImaginos -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 7:17:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

Nudity... From My perspective...a non event, neither love nor hate it, if the situation warrants it I have no qualms nor hesitations. Wandering bollox naked through a camp of 2500 pagans to get bodypainted by a bunch of lovely young lady's... not a second thought. It is just a body, surprisingly most people have one and frankly We all look better when at least something is left to the imagination.

It is a leveller though... no hiding behind a style of clothing and when everyone is naked then nobody is giving a second thought to what others bodys look like.



*LOVES this response. I have been to nudist and clothing-optional campgrounds, I have seen entire families (with children) and persons of all body types having the most wonderful, non-sexual good times, and My, it was a beautiful thing..
*has been to a 2-week Pagan event where everyone was in some state of undress, I think the most I wore the whole time was a sarong, and by the Gods I still got wicked sunburnt.. [:D]
..which is to say that given the choice, I'd probably only put on clothes if weather or other conditions necessitated it. I would also rather kill than put on shoes..



Sunnyfey -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 7:36:59 PM)

I have a distinct fear almost, of being totally nude in public (say at a play party ect.). I'll go topless, or just bounce around in my panties. But those three square inches covered by my panties are MINE and I'll only give it to the people I am intimate with. I don't even like being played with in public like that, unless my skirt fully covers that area, and even THEN I'm pretty much not too happy about it, and I wont get aroused by it.

Now at home, in our room. Totally ok with that, good luck getting me to put clothes on.



bluefireeyez -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 8:17:26 PM)

Oddly enough, i was exposed to nudity all of the time when i was younger...that is to say my mom didn't believe in wearing clothes. For me, this was enough of a scar that i feel like i should be covered up at all times. It took me a long time to even be able to walk out of my bathroom without clothes on (and my bathroom is in my bedroom haha).

That being said, while i still do not enjoy it...i no longer have the intense hate for it i once did. i still feel weird being naked in front of my significant other, but am getting better at trying to relax.



GoddessImaginos -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 8:20:39 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sunnyfey

I have a distinct fear almost, of being totally nude in public (say at a play party ect.). I'll go topless, or just bounce around in my panties. But those three square inches covered by my panties are MINE and I'll only give it to the people I am intimate with. I don't even like being played with in public like that, unless my skirt fully covers that area, and even THEN I'm pretty much not too happy about it, and I wont get aroused by it.

Now at home, in our room. Totally ok with that, good luck getting me to put clothes on.



I can dig that; for all My admissions above, that's exactly why I'm not at all into public play, even as a Dominant. My most personal stuff and how I use it is My beeswax, and not for public consumption, know what I mean, jellybean?



smilezz -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 8:31:39 PM)

Hi puella...

I have never been thrilled about it. I have always been of mindset that I look better, feel better WITH clothes on. Within the last few months my body has changed drastically.......while it has definately been for the better, I am even MORE self-concious of being naked now than I was then. I am trying to fit into my own skin, I don't like all the new-found attention....it sqwiks me out.

I guess all these years I thought if I changed my body image that the fear and anxiety of being naked would go away. I have to say that it has only escalated. blah!

I hope to get over it.......seems like it will take much time......I'm not a shy person for the most part, I'm just not sure how to deal with this at the moment.

Happy Saturday
(good to see you again)

-smilezz-



DavanKael -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 8:32:14 PM)

In my home, clothing is totally optional, although I will generally, if nothing else, put on a bra as a matter of physical comfort. 
I've come a looooooong way with my body image (Knock-on-wood) and enjoy people I wish to (And, occasionally, if I am with a partner others) seeing me naked, I'm fairly cool with not wearing clothes among people I don't know as long as I feel safe.  I'm pretty groovy with me naked. 
Perhaps some self-exploration in terms of why you dread it so much...writing or talking through your feelings about it, something like that? 
  Davan



silkncarol -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 8:40:50 PM)

I dont' mind being nude.....i go to the nude beaches and the nudist resorts and most of the time when i'm home i'll either wear a sarong or nothing.   It's certainly not a perfect body, but it's the one i have.

One thing that helped me become less body conscious....years ago i had a Mentor who had 4 collared submissives....I'd join the girls for the weekend..sometimes he'd require us to all be naked, or we'd play silly games like naked Twister.  It helped me realize no one was perfect and that no matter what size a woman was, she probably has a part of her body she'd like to change.

Life is too short not to do the things we want because of fear.... ..



DesFIP -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 8:44:46 PM)

As I say, I have no modesty. I grew up on a clothing optional beach where people did everything in public. Weirdest was people going to the grocery store with sandals on and a wallet in their hand and nothing else.

However my experiences are different than RavenMuse, his were that people stopped thinking about their own and others' bodies. On a gay beach, they were all thinking about their bodies, displaying them for best effect and checking each other out. I remember my mother walking the beach one day wondering why these guys looked so much better than the men on the straight beach two miles down. The epiphany came when we realized they shaved their bodies below the neck, and oiled the muscles to show to better effect.

As a female, growing up there was wonderful, nobody bothered to look at me. The adolescent boys like my brother found it very upsetting to be assessed as a piece of meat. But having had it happen to them made them more sensitive to doing it to women they met. Which helped them in dating.

Edited to add: If I'm in the house, I want something between me and the furniture. Being comfortable with my body does not equal wanting stains on the upholstery.



XaviersXian -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/19/2009 11:05:11 PM)

greetings to all,

I am more than comfortable with my own, and other people's nudity.  Years ago, when I'd attend local BDSM events, I'd attend as a dominant, and carry out scenes with people, completely naked (Being clothed while scening would just cramp my style; I got a nickname: "The Naked Domme", and even had a few people join our local scene just to see if it was true that there was a woman who was so comfortable with herself that she'd indeed scene naked).

It has never bothered me that I'm currently overweight (from medical issues) or post baby (as well as covered in stretch marks from said event) or whatever.  I see a body (no matter what its shape) as a natural, beautiful thing, that should be celebrated.

well wishes,



WestBaySlave -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 1:11:04 AM)

  I used to be very, very shy and hated undressing in front of someone. I've never had a good body, and was probably a good forty pounds heavier than now when I was first sexually active. I hate undressing in front of someone, because I'm always afraid of seeing them disappointed in who I am. Their response effects a large part in how I feel naked. If they like it or at least are friendly towards it, I feel happy about being naked, especially if it pleases them. If it's disappointment or criticism, I hate being naked; it makes me truly miserable. So, I guess I kind of have the opposite of the OP - nudity per se I'm fine with, but I'm not very happy with my body.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Edited to add: If I'm in the house, I want something between me and the furniture. Being comfortable with my body does not equal wanting stains on the upholstery.


Very true. Also, the sensation of flesh peeling off a plastic or leather chair is as unappealing as the sweat-stain it leaves behind.



hlen5 -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 1:49:48 AM)

   I love being naked in private. I used to go to a womans' retreat that was clothing optional. I loved walking in the sunshine with just the sun on my back. I haven't been in a nude mixed group, don't know how that would be for me. I do know that I have body image issues.  

  One of the reasons I'd like to get some land out in the country is to be able to be nude outside if I wish.



FelineFae -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 1:56:32 AM)

Nudity equals honesty, imho.

Clothing is a very useful tool for human kind. We can use it to express who we are, or to pretend to be something or someone else. Some people put great care and thought into what they wear, considering the effect each artical of clothing will have on those that see it. We communicate with it.

So, in the absence of this, what is left? When stripped of all this textile propoganda, who is this person?

i love the oppernity to be nude, provided i'm with people that i don't mind seeing me for me.



allthatjaz -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 4:10:27 AM)

I used to run a 70 acre farm which had a water meadow that was totally secluded. I used to take the young horses down to swim in the river and so long as it was warm enough I always swam with them naked.
I have been through stages in my life where I would of been very self conscious naked but as I get older it doesn't bother me nearly as much.
I have only once ever stripped off in a club and that was after wearing a tight corset for most of the evening and being pestered continually by foot worshipers. Suddenly feeling claustrophobic, I stripped off everything except for my shoes and went for a walk round the club. I think someone must of spiked my drink [:)]



subtlebutterfly -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 4:17:56 AM)

Gosh! I can't stand it!!!!
Skimpy bikini no problemo just as long as there's SOMETHING on me I'm all good but being like totally naked out there...fuck no..kinda borders between hate and dislike.. - hate may be a bit too strong but not far from it though.
Part of it may be because I don't believe it's anybodies business but mine and those I choose to see me completely naked, but even with those I choose.. I don't like it.
Why? I do not know.[8|]



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