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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 11:01:45 AM

BellaDominatrix

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Being a Domme means you make the rules. You are a Domme because of who you are as powerful woman. There is no stereotypical right kind of Domme, subs that think that way are really ignorant. Either ignore him or put him in his place. He might be testing the limits like inexperienced subs are prone to do sometimes.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 11:07:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: misstressnew

is there a size limit to being a domme?

Welcome to CollarMe...land of kink and home of the know-it-alls!!!!

I've been told I was too fat to be and do pretty much everything...too fat to be a submissive, to fat to top, too fat to have sex, too fat to be a lady, too fat to work out at a gym (I kid you not on this one, a messed up world we live in)...and if I believed any of it, well, I would only have myself to blame.

Honey you aren't too fat to be a Domme...however, it sounds like you may have been too phat for that particular person to handle! I, for one, would take that as a compliment!

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 11:39:50 AM

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Welcome to the boards misstressnew
You will receive all types of crazy off the wall cmails and if you have a good since of humor, you will laugh. When i was under oceanwynds, i received a cm from a male submissive telling me that i was in the wrong place because of my s/n. i guess oceanwynds isn't bdsm enough:) i chuckled and blocked.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 11:42:14 AM

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With all respect i have to ask whether you really feel you are a dominant woman. If you do, and you have it in your mind and heart that you truly are, then you really should go ahead and present your availability. Some plus size women on CM i have noticed do not show pictures in their ads. At least you have the ovaries to show yourself. As some have suggested here it could be to your advantage. When i came on this site i had in mind the question of whether i was too old to find a Mistress. i didn't ask the question overtly but i had it in mind. Fortunately, i was blessed with the hoped for answer. Ya just gotta try. Sometimes you have to act as if and let the Universe spit out its riches to you. Good luck, Ma'am!

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 11:43:44 AM

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FR:
If you're thin you're thin and if you're fat you're fat, it has got nothing to do with your personality.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 11:47:32 AM

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It's one thing for someone to have a personal preference on body size, but simply telling someone they're too fat is rude and over the line.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 11:53:09 AM

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I'm beginning to think the girl may be a little too skinny for the rigors of kicking boys in the nuts and dressing them up in her panties and yanking a chain affixed to their cocks, lotta calories expended in them sort of endeavors.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 11:53:38 AM

MissCake

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quote:

ORIGINAL: misstressnew

is there a size limit to being a domme?

the reason i ask is that i have received a message from a guy stating im too fat and to give up now

There is no size limit to being a dom, just like there is no stupid or rude limit to being a sub (in ref to this guy in particular).

I use my size as a tool in play. Your personality, attitude, and serious mean streak are going to be the qualities that matter most. If you suffer lack of confidence because of your size, work to overcome it - learn how to dress well for the size you are, accentuate what is beautiful and powerful about you.

As to expensive equipment: think hardware stores, houseware and storage stores, discount stores... (Home Depot, Container Store, Big Lots, Target, 99 Cent Store and Dollar Tree, Toys R Us, Teacher Supply.)

Most of the equipment in my extensive collection was very inexpensive.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 11:53:45 AM

redlux

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omg, what a jerk.
i'm glad he didn't get to you.
he needs to find a hobby aside from insulting someone he isn't good enough for.

oh, and, hi, collarme.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 11:55:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GoDolphins

It's one thing for someone to have a personal preference on body size, but simply telling someone they're too fat is rude and over the line.

Yeah, well welcome to the world of the internet where putzes feel they can say whatever they want behind the armour of their computer screen.

Personally I know I am too fat to be a super model..........beyond that, it's anyone's guess.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 11:56:16 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: misstressnew
the reason i ask is that i have received a message from a guy stating im too fat and to give up now

now im thinking he is just in need of some very firm discipline

If a guy try to insult you and get you to beat him, you're going to serve the bottoms with masochist tendencies very well... You may want to consider charging for all the work you're going to be doing though. M

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 11:58:31 AM

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Welcome to the boards, redlux!!

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 11:59:04 AM

redlux

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ORIGINAL: hlen5

Welcome to the boards, redlux!!

thank you!

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 12:09:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Yeah, well welcome to the world of the internet where putzes feel they can say whatever they want behind the armour of their computer screen.

Oh I know that. It's amazing the things people will say to you on here. I really can't believe most of it would be said in a face-to-face conversation.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 12:10:03 PM

tammystarm

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its like telling me that Master is too old. ummm i dont recall Him having that issue as He was beating my ass. NOPE no problem there. the guy is a douchbag, there are thousands more of them You will encounter. Just be You!

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 12:10:54 PM

LaTigresse

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Actually, I am just as obnoxious in person as I am on here. Moreso even. Which would explain the very small number of close friends I have.........

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 1:02:43 PM

TPEOwner

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quote:

ORIGINAL: misstressnew

is there a size limit to being a domme?

the reason i ask is that i have received a message from a guy stating im too fat and to give up now

now im thinking he is just in need of some very firm discipline

just thought i would check though as i dont want to spend anymore cash than i already have on equipment. most seem great on here.

Forgive me for invoking the grammar police, but it's relavent to your question. There is no such thing as "a domme". Even accepting that "domme" is accepted in the community as an abreviateion of dominant when applied to a female, "dominant" is an adjective. So "a domme" is really doubly abreviated for "dominant woman". Since to the best of my knowledge there is no medical study suggesting that you can be too heavy to be a woman, we can then focus on weight as a determining factor in having a dominant personality. Even then though, there is a difference between having a dominant personality, and desiring to take the dominant role in your play or relationships. I know of many women with dominant personalites who prefer the submissive role in their relationships. I also know of many who consider themselves to be "a domme" who are as dominant as a houseplant. Your question therefore, can be taken two ways. "Does size limit someone from having a dominant personality?", or "does size limit someone from taking the dominant role in a relationship or play".

It is my experience in this wonderful internet driven "BDSM community" that the terms dominant and submissive mean virtually" (no pun intended) nothing. Everyone defines those terms differently, and thus they are essentially useless for anything other than a starting point. That being the case, what anyone else thinks you are or aren't should be totally irrelevant to you. If you can find somone who you wish to take the dominant role with, and who wishes to take the submissive role with you, then you can both live happily ever after, or at least until the next day when they decide you aren't a "real domme", or you decide they aren't a "real subbie", and the search begins again.

And as a couple of parting notes, toys don't make you dominant, no matter how many bags you have of them. If "most seem great on here" to you, then you have either not been here very long, you aren't very observent, or you have very low standards. This site is a cesspool of liars, game players and emotionally broken people. Out in the real world, only castlerealm can compete with collarme for being the most derided and loathed bdsm website. And frankly, the real world bdsm community aint so great either.

Happy hunting.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 1:11:28 PM

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WEll I suppose when someone gets so fat they can't move, or walk or feed themselves or do anything but die slowly then ya might be to fat to be a domme, but then again maybe not since now you'll need to boss that sub around even more since you can't do anything for yourself and he'll do it all.

and yes that's mostly toung in cheek.

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 1:15:06 PM

Highlandsub

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Too fat.....for some yes, for others no. Different things for different people. Does it really matter what one person on the internet thinks? As long as you are comfortable in who you are and what you are doing, what does it matter?

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RE: too fat to be a domme? - 9/22/2009 1:39:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: misstressnew

is there a size limit to being a domme?

the reason i ask is that i have received a message from a guy stating im too fat and to give up now

now im thinking he is just in need of some very firm discipline

just thought i would check though as i dont want to spend anymore cash than i already have on equipment. most seem great on here.

*snort*

You are who you are regardless of body weight, that does not define who you are as a person nor a domme.

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