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LadyPact -> RE: Misrepresentation By Crossdressers Concerning Their Gender And Sexuality (9/25/2009 1:08:35 PM)
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It's entirely possible that the OP is still around and has just hidden her profile. After being called on a couple of points, such as her saying in her posts that she is married, but it wasn't listed on her profile (I'm so tempted to say pot meet kettle) and some of the personal exchanges that were prompted in cmail over this thread, it wouldn't surprise Me a bit if it's either hidden or deleted.
Whichever the case, I read the whole thread and I'm still responding to it. The thread will be on the site long after a lot of folks close their profiles.
For the record, I have never studied gender or sexual psychological issues. I'm a layman on the subject. In fact, I would probably best be described as ignorant. That being said, there are a few comments that I have.
After the long post/rant by the OP, I do agree with one thing. In My personal opinion, it is unethical to misrepresent yourself. If you are male, female, trans, or any other thing that identifies you, that is how you should present yourself. I realize this may not be entirely easy for some with the boxes that are available to check. Yet, that is what a person's profile can be used for. Say for example, a person was born genetically male but is currently in transition, you could click any box. It does seem appropriate to Me to list your circumstances in the body of the profile to say something such as where you are in your transition. I feel that is the most honest thing to do. Granted, this may reduce your chances to be involved with those who have a preference for only those born genetically female. The reality is it that is probably in your own best interest to avoid such situations anyway.
As for the original post itself, it seemed to Me that it was a rather long winded tirade on what boils down to the chromosome debate. In other words, the XX people are and always will be 'more' female than the XY people, no matter whether they have gone through transition or not. Now, that is something that I think everyone is entitled to their personal opinion about. Yet, while you are free to express such an opinion, you can not control whether it is shared by others or not. This is especially true when it comes to their own lives, of which you are not a part. That's as far as you get with that one.
When it comes to society, community, or any other thing, your opinion is only equal to that of any other individual. It is common throughout the BDSM community at female only events that trans females are seen as females and have every right to attend. I'll happily walk in the door with them to see that they are treated the same as any other female and have said so here on theads past. They are female whether they are pre op or post op.
It seems to Me that since the OP has been born with her particular birth defect (I hope that is the right term) that she has had issues with some that she doesn't see 'as female' as her. The opinion that is coming across loud and clear is that she sees those born with the XY deal as less of a female than her. My suggestion would be, don't get involved in a personal relationship with anyone who identifies as such. Problem solved.
As for the silliness that TV/TS/CD folks are a danger to anyone on CM, I would honesly like to know how. Can the OP bring even one instance of where a person was somehow sexually abused by someone else when they were sitting somewhere else on the other side of the screen? Accusing a category of folks of criminal behavior to help substantiate your personal case of hatred for them is nothing more than rhetoric. Unless you can come with reliable sources for facts, I would suggest that you don't throw around such statements.
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