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CaringandReal -> RE: No Limits Slaves Who Say They Won't Do Housework (10/6/2009 6:36:30 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DagnyT
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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress
The word slave is entirly defined by the person using the word.
I think that is unfortunately true and completely ridiculous: I can't think of any other sphere where pivotal words are "allowed" to have vastly divergent and/or contradictory meanings. And often the same people that loudly tout how imperative it is to communicate insist they have the right to define words willy-nilly as they choose: obfuscation, anyone?
To me it is simple: no limits = there is nothing you would refuse to do, "no housework" = a limit; thus, this person should not define themselves as having "no limits".
I don't think having limits makes them "bad" or "lesser" or "wrong": it makes them honest about their needs, expectations, and service.
And I don't think limits are a bad thing, especially at the outset, while searching- lots of things you may think are limits disappear off your "limit list" when you are actually with someone).
Seeing someone who is currently not in a relationship who defines themselves as a "no limit slave" with a list (however small and trivial) of things they won't do makes me think they are either a fantasist, an idiot, or their definition of "no limit slave" equals my definition of topping-from-the-bottom princess (which basically, to me, would mean they are grossly misrepresenting themselves).
God, I'm only on page 6! I'm never going to get through this thread!
About your post: I agree with you a lot that words have established meanings and taking a word with an established meaning and twisting its meaning so that it means something that just magically happens to be flattering to your or someone you like is not cool.
But what do you think about a person who says this in their profile: "I will have no limits, in fact that's the only way I feel comfortable being, with whatever dominant manages to catch me but until that happens I will, for my own safety and sanity, impose limits on who I let get close to me. I will pick and choose. I will be selective. It may not do me any good, as I know the things that entrap a person often have nothing to do with rational, logical decision making, but are more like when, in a moment of brief brilliance, the clouds part and a faint scent wafts to your nostrils and teases them about what might have been or reminds you of something you'd like to remember which leads you to walk down the side path where you might see what it is, but where instead you fall asleep in the poppies only to wake up in chains... but nevertheless, until the magic happens, I will examine, evaluate, judge, compare to past experience, and very cautiously and carefully find out about those who happen my way... and also find many wanting due to my high standards."
Ok. That was kind of long-winded. My question is, Is that the statement of a limited person pretending to be unlimited? And why or why not?
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