Andalusite -> RE: No Limits Slaves Who Say They Won't Do Housework (10/12/2009 8:11:48 AM)
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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero There's a bit of a difference when "slave" is used by someone in a relationship describing the role they feel they play in it (at which point, despite how skewed the application of the term might be, it matters functionally only to the people in the relationship) and when it's used by someone seeking a partner. Unless, of course, (in the latter case) the person advertising themselves doesn't mind losing business due to false advertisement wrought from fixation of applying a term to themselves that isn't going to jive with most window-shoppers. Ah, I hadn't realised from your previous posts that you were only referring to unattached people. I still don't think that someone who has been a slave in the past, and hopes to be one in the future (and presumably is only interested in that dynamic, if they choose that orientation when they are unpartnered) must necessarily be submissive to everyone. If they don't actually have any previous experience as a slave, though, I think that choosing that orientation is misleading. Even if they have been in a M/s relationship previously, if it was strictly online, they need to be up-front with potential partners about it, as experiences and expectations will be *very* different, for obvious reasons. When I was looking, I advertised as a "switch," and still have it listed as my orientation, and I think my profile makes it pretty clear what kind of dynamics I'm involved in. beth, "inspiration" has more than one meaning. I'm not inspired to submit to my Master the way I'm inspired to write a poem, bake a dessert, or decide what to wear for Halloween. I react to him that way, he draws it from me, he pushes my submissive buttons, however you want to put it. Lots of words (including slave) have more than one meaning, and depend upon context.
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