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ORIGINAL: badboy6385

hi, i thought i would reply to this article, i have heard from many Dommes that many of the men into femdom bdsm are
very strange, that often they want bizzare fetishes repeated
over and over again like some endless tape playing in their heads. The fault of men being stilted and weird is not just in men however, the ideal of marriage which crushes so much
sexual expression is to blame as well. Women too are
often frozen sexually and it can take a lot to unfreeze them later in life. I think we are all going throught a chaotic time with the breakdown of traditional marriage arrangements.
Given this i think we should all cut each other a break now and then, but i do understand the frustration of Dommes who can most men on these boards to be weirdos. I guess the player aspect just comes with the territory, a lot of men just use sites like this to fantasize another reality, in reality they are already enslaved to life situations that will not allow them any escpape or freedom

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

I'll let you all in on a little secret. I used to be a member of a number of femdom/matriarch organizations (that's not the secret), and I often heard the exact same type of "lists" to find the right guy who will be exactly what a woman would want. Well, here's the secret: Every time a hot guy came along who didn't happen to fit ANY of the categories, the majority of the women would chase after him, convinced they could change him to their ways, and after months of disappointment, they would come back, angry at the same guys who DID fit those categories because some guy that didn't somehow didn't live up to their expectations.

You see, part of the problem with a lot of these organizations is that the "right" guys are easy to get used to, almost to the point of where it is easy to think ALL men must be like that, so they cast aside the right guys and go after the hot guys, and the cycle keeps repeating itself. After awhile, I started filtering out comments of "why can't these guys be more like you?". I used to complain about this a lot, and it wasn't really very constructive. I've decided the complaint route isn't the right way to go anymore. Now, I find it hilarious and smile knowingly as it happens over and over again. Instead of getting involved, I have long arguments with my stuffed animals who always seem to be smarter than I am. I've discovered it's more fun and just as beneficial.