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RE: a matter of respect?? - 10/15/2009 7:56:55 AM

IronBear

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ORIGINAL: MarcEsadrian

I know I've ruminated openly over the smug ornament type before. There is a sum of women who coyly bank on male interest to make the first gesture, and thereafter assume a principle of least interest from the very first root. Men can be just as guilty in using this idea, and many people overall would rather sweep that little cantrip under the carpet than talk honestly about it too much.

I find it interesting that you use the Scottish term CANTRIP in this post especially as the origins of the term are:

cantrip ['kæntrip] Scot
n
1. a magic spell
2. (often plural) a mischievous trick
adj
(of an effect) produced by black magic

"Cantrip" is an old Scots word for a piece of wilful trickery or mischief, and is another word for a witch's spell. A cantrip can also be a pre-formed spell, a piece of magic already set up in your mind, ready to call on at a moment's notice with a single word or gesture, or even a smell.

Cantrips can be used for any small Working, such as shielding or deflecting or releasing a particular energy, and the keys can be used in combination. The more complex a Working, the harder it is to bind into a cantrip.

Of course this leaves the question "Were you using it to suggest that some people actually do use such things to get a partner?"

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ORIGINAL: antipode

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what are your thoughts?

If this is how he practices, your opinion is irrelevant.

As is the opinions of any of us, unless he (the Dom in question) asks for our opinions.

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RE: a matter of respect?? - 10/15/2009 9:04:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

quote:

ORIGINAL: MarcEsadrian

I know I've ruminated openly over the smug ornament type before. There is a sum of women who coyly bank on male interest to make the first gesture, and thereafter assume a principle of least interest from the very first root. Men can be just as guilty in using this idea, and many people overall would rather sweep that little cantrip under the carpet than talk honestly about it too much.

I find it interesting that you use the Scottish term CANTRIP in this post especially as the origins of the term are:

cantrip ['kæntrip] Scot
n
1. a magic spell
2. (often plural) a mischievous trick
adj
(of an effect) produced by black magic

Of course this leaves the question "Were you using it to suggest that some people actually do use such things to get a partner?"

Well done, IronBear. I like the "mischievous trick" aspect of the word. And I suspect you know the answer to your question.

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RE: a matter of respect?? - 10/15/2009 9:06:47 AM

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Aye I do believe I may. I also know more than a few sub types of various genders who use the odd spell to Domnap a suitable unsuspecting Dom too. Well I know they try anyway.

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RE: a matter of respect?? - 10/15/2009 10:18:41 AM

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Hey, If it works for him and you....

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RE: a matter of respect?? - 10/20/2009 6:23:55 PM

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Probably someone who claims to be Dom so he can have women chasing after him, because it probably doesn't happen in his real life.

Hey, when did that happen? No one told me that rule! I am a DOM, bring on the women!!! LOL!

No seriously, if that is what he wants, great, who are we to judge? If it works for him then so be it. It is not the first time in 20 years I have heard such a thing. While I don't prescribe to this myself, but whatever works for him!

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RE: a matter of respect?? - 10/20/2009 7:36:06 PM

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Kitten, I am curious was this expectation set forward by said "Dom" for real life interactions or for online interactions? I am not sure there is much difference in my opinion... but I am curious.

By the way, good to see you again,

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RE: a matter of respect?? - 10/28/2009 10:08:40 PM

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sounds like a good way to miss out on a potential sub

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RE: a matter of respect?? - 10/29/2009 5:14:16 AM

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I dont see that as respect .

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RE: a matter of respect?? - 10/29/2009 5:29:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: devilishpixie

I dont see that as respect .

Yeah. Upon reflection, I don;t see it as Domly wither.

Picture two men who walk into a bar. Once glances at all the women there and heads off to chat some of them up. The other sits in a corner and nurses his drink, waiting for a woman to approach him. Which one has control of the situation?

OP's friend is either lazy, or insecure, or else likes the idea of styling himself a Dom without having to actually BE one.

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RE: a matter of respect?? - 10/29/2009 6:35:36 AM

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To each his own, but I do know this, if I hadn't taken the initiative, devilishpixie and I may have never met, much less gotten together. she was a perfect example of what weaselwelder was talking about. Even though she was interested in me, her submissive nature stopped her from following through and contacting me on several occasions.

On the other hand, I was actively approached and pursued by the sub who introduced me to this lifetsyle and more often than not, I have been approached by subs, rather than doing the approaching.

It's a situational thing, in my book. That guy waiting for subs to approach him is more than likely going to be sitting all alone in the corner while all the other kids are out playing and having fun

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ORIGINAL: kitten4aDaddy

greetings everyone,
i rarely to ever post in forums but find them to be a good source and variety of good advice and opinions.
some one i use to speak with on this site made a statement recently that i tend to disagree with..... so to see
what the masses believe im bringing it to the boards.

he believes that a it is a matter or sign of respect that a sub always approach him until a "friendship" is recognized.
that the girl should always go out of her way to approach him these are quoted statements.

"As the sub. you should be contacting me till we est. that a friendship is in place."
"It's about the respect I deserve that you approach me for the time being."

what are your thoughts?

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RE: a matter of respect?? - 10/29/2009 6:49:14 AM

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To each his own, but I do know this, if I hadn't taken the initiative, devilishpixie and I may have never met, much less gotten together.

Nubianmuscle,

And that is the crux of it there. A Man takes what is his to take, he doesn't wait for it to come crawling to him. I personally have no problem in contacting a woman I may be interested in for whatever reason. Sometimes women have no idea what is right for them until it is standing right there in front of them.

However as I said in a previous post, to each his own. If this is what he feels he must do to separate the wheat from the chaff, then so be it. I wish him well.

Aramis

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RE: a matter of respect?? - 10/29/2009 6:52:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: MasterAramis

However as I said in a previous post, to each his own. If this is what he feels he must do to separate the wheat from the chaff, then so be it. I wish him well.

Aramis

You wish him well all you want. As for me, I'll be trying to meet the subs he's neglecting.

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