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Malkinius -> RE: Now Accepting Applications For All Positions (10/17/2009 2:20:49 PM)
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Greetings DesFIP....
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
Obey according to your expectations means they have to have a good working knowledge of your expectations and you won't get that from a list of questions they ask you.
Beyond that, the people who keep insisting that this is a good thing to do are not willing to understand that for those of us who do want more than beat and fuck and do his laundry afterwards, we want to know the rest of the relationship is compatible before we talk about sex and play.
Actually, depending on the questions used, you are totally wrong. Remember that the list I use is the last major thing before collaring a slave, not the first. You are confusing people who know what they are doing and more importantly why they are doing it with the people who just copy ideas from the web and think that is how it is done. As I and others have pointed out, questions and their answers can be a part of the enslavement process. I will also note that most of my questions have nothing to do with sex or BDSM play. Many start out with, "What would you do if.....?" Yes, I do often know the answers to some of the questions in advance but even then, re-answering them in a different context can be a learning experience for both people.
I am certain that most of the questions that those of us who use such questions are not what you think they are. They are not your standard BDSM checklists. They are not done without prior knowledge of how they may affect someone. Yes, some questions are content/value neutral. A "List your academic background with graduation dates from high school, college, technical school and other major training classes with certifications and include dates of graduation, specific degree or certification," could come right off of a standard job application. Do I need that information to take someone as a slave? No. Am I interested in it because I am interested in the person? Yes. A key point to remember here is that the asking and the obedience in answering is a part of the enslavement process for those of us who go to that route. A good trainer makes everything part of that process.
I will end with one more example of a question that I always use. "I have said that there are two things that I expect/want from you. Take each one and separately explain what it means to you, how you can implement it and what you believe it means to me." There are a few people who might read this that know the answer to that question. Most people who guess at it will get it wrong. Note that it not only takes things already emphasized, but makes someone think about them, how it applies to them and how it applies to another person. From that answer both of us learn things about each other and learning is important to me.
No, I don't want someone that I can just beat, fuck and have do the laundry. Now....the last two may be a part of what I want.....after all, the laundry eventually needs to be done. <grins>
Be well....
Malkinius
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