lovingpet
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Well, let's see here. *steps up on my soapbox*
OP, you are presuming that anyone carrying extra weight is doing so out of lack of motivation and poor self image. You are presuming that all cases of weight gain has to do with a complete lack of self control, overeating, sitting on the ever growing fat ass, and being too lazy and stupid to change. Congratulations! You are a walking stereotype.
Let's start with some basics. BMI has been debunked repeatedly, but the medical community still holds on to it because it gives them an out when medical problems are too difficult for them to diagnose, treat, or cure effectively. It is a cop out to tell a patient to lose weight and not actively address the issues at hand. Weight loss may be useful as part of a treatment plan and when it is appropriate to even ask it, but it is malpractice to write off a patient in this way. Keeping in mind this is how many patients are treated, it means that many problems that INHIBIT weight loss are never addressed and, therefore, try as they may, the patients will NEVER be able to lose adequate weight to reap the benefits. Keep in mind that many of these health conditions are debilitating. Means of earning an inocme slowly decline along with the quality of food, healthcare, and access to recreational venues. Do you see where this is heading?
I am not going to blame everybody else for my weight. I also will not take blame that is not mine. What I can do is expose myself to those who can look beyond weight and treat me with respect. I have all the control over who I allow to interact with me. I get the choice of family I will bother with, friends I keep, doctors I trust, and lovers that can thrill my heart. This is a very basic matter and the one thing I can always do for myself and only have myself to blame if I expose myself to toxic people and poisonous situations. I have a doctor I am about to fire over this matter. The initial consultations gave me the impression he was ignorant, discriminatory, and already had his mind made up on how he was going to proceed to "help" me. I don't need the "help" of such people and have had a long fight to get away from the likes of him. I am not going to go back willingly as if I don't have options. I will move forward, on my own if necessary, and find the key people I need to propel me forward to better things.
If I expect this from a doctor, what do you think I expect from one who is to hold my everything in his hand? No, you wouldn't be the dominant for me. You really probably aren't the dominant for anyone seeking a healthy relationship. You equate worth to some rather superficial things. You have clearly shown yourself to be one for blaming the submissive for all the ills of the relationship without even thinking to lift a finger to lead her to meeting your expectations and needs. You preach about responsibility and motivation, but you lack any of your own. Why not try working together to help each of you become your absolute best for each other? Oh that's right, because then maybe the outcome of your own life would be determined based on your merits, and we just can't have that!
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dang you. that gave me a headache
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