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TwistedHeart74 -> The need (10/20/2009 9:59:13 AM)
I'm not sure if this is where this goes, but here goes. If you had a friend who was a masochist and they came to you and said "I just need to play, I need to get pain, I need a scene" or anything along those lines...would you do it? Would it in any way cause a conflict to your friendship? This is if you knew them and had maybe played with them in the past or were comfortable playing with them

mnottertail -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 10:01:38 AM)
same sex, different sex?

LadyPact -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 10:27:00 AM)
Absolutely I would. It would be the same as anytime I play with anyone casually. There's no physical sex involved and it's strictly S/m. I actually prefer friends for casual play encounters. People that I already know so we can have good communication about the scene before and after.

Acer49 -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 10:44:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TwistedHeart74 I'm not sure if this is where this goes, but here goes. If you had a friend who was a masochist and they came to you and said "I just need to play, I need to get pain, I need a scene" or anything along those lines...would you do it? Would it in any way cause a conflict to your friendship? This is if you knew them and had maybe played with them in the past or were comfortable playing with them If he is truly a friend then no, why should it?

Azurenightsky -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 11:02:18 AM)
It would greatly depend on several factors, if I had a partner, would she be Ok with it. If it was a man or a woman, what it is they we're after, whether or not I felt like I could treat them how they wanted too while retaining the friendship we had. I don't know if I'd take the risk but at the same time, I don't think I'd pass up the learning opportunity....

TwistedHeart74 -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 11:27:46 AM)
Ron, for you does it matter? I know that for some that matters, but for others maybe not so much. Thank you LadyPact [:)] Well Acer, some people prefer not to play with friends, they feel it conflicts with the established relationship. Thank you azure [:)]

mnottertail -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 11:29:07 AM)
well, it does matter sorta in that sometimes hidden agendas can enter into it........ Ron

TwistedHeart74 -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 11:30:59 AM)
Hidden agendas?

mnottertail -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 11:32:09 AM)
oh, the oh, I just need this and then later it is I couldnt help it I have fallen in love, stickyness.

Viridana -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 11:49:16 AM)
FR It would depend if there was sex involved or not. If it's strictly SM then I'm all game, but if it entails some sexual stuff I'd pass...

AnimusRex -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 12:03:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Viridana FR It would depend if there was sex involved or not. If it's strictly SM then I'm all game, but if it entails some sexual stuff I'd pass... And now a rebuttal from the other gender: It depends if there was sex involved; if not, I would probably pass.... snicker

Viridana -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 12:08:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AnimusRex And now a rebuttal from the other gender: It depends if there was sex involved; if not, I would probably pass.... snicker Hahahaha, well I'm a non-sexual kinkster anyways so I never mix BDSM and sex together. But suppose if I did, I don't think I'd have sex with a friend to fulfill his need. That'd probably change the relationship between us in some or many aspects that I wouldn't want. I don't fuck my friends [:)] , not anymore anyways. Lost a couple of good ones some years ago because the friendship changed post-fuck.

sirsholly -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 12:09:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Viridana FR It would depend if there was sex involved or not. If it's strictly SM then I'm all game, but if it entails some sexual stuff I'd pass... i second this...

mnottertail -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 12:25:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Viridana I don't fuck my friends [:)] , not anymore anyways. You up for fuckin' an enemy? Stand and deliver!!!!!!!

thishereboi -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 12:52:36 PM)
I had a friend come and say that to me, I beat him, he seemed to enjoy it. It was all good.

mnottertail -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 12:55:03 PM)
She came. I beat. She cowered. MasterJuliusCaesar

AnimusRex -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 1:27:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Viridana [I don't fuck my friends [:)] , not anymore anyways. Lost a couple of good ones some years ago because the friendship changed post-fuck. Reminds me of that exchange in When Harry Met Sally- explaining why men and women can't be friends: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zFWGOKuFyjk

Viridana -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 2:25:32 PM)
Well men and women can well be friends. As long as they don't fuck [:D] (at least for me).

TwistedHeart74 -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 2:58:02 PM)
What is it about sex that seems to complicate a friendship? I mean who better to trust than a friend, someone you know? I'd think there'd be a sort of comfort in that. My best friend is a guy. We have had sex. shrugs It didn't change anything between us, we're still best friends.

Viridana -> RE: The need (10/20/2009 3:43:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TwistedHeart74 What is it about sex that seems to complicate a friendship? I mean who better to trust than a friend, someone you know? I'd think there'd be a sort of comfort in that. My best friend is a guy. We have had sex. shrugs It didn't change anything between us, we're still best friends. For me it's the added intimacy of sexual relations on the friendship. That can create emotions that are deeper than what usually happens between friends, and when one or the other starts a relationship on his/her own, jealousy can rear in it's ugly head, both from the friend or the new spouse. I prefer buddies and friends to be buddies and friends without such drama and have clear cut boundaries of the relationship in regards to intimacy. A best friend for me that also has the intimacy of sex is my spouse. If you can do it then all the power to you, but for me it doesn't work.

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