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What Brought You into Bdsm


Watching others?
  2% (4)
Reading about it?
  30% (42)
Word of Mouth?
  7% (11)
Watching a video?
  2% (3)
Born into it?
  46% (64)
Something just on T.V.?
  2% (4)
Other
  7% (11)


Total Votes : 139
(last vote on : 3/14/2006 1:55:41 PM)
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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/12/2005 1:19:20 PM   
BeneathHerFeet


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Status: offline 		Complex answer for me. It was a evolution of many things for me, starting all the way back in my early teens. Basically, though, there was a tall, athletic girl i was attracted to, about a head taller than me.

There was a day on the bus where there was no other seats available but where she was and she seemed to have be quite disinterested in sitting with the "nerd," so she quite literally kicked me out of the seat. i tried to sit again, she pushed me out again with both legs.

Thing was while this was extremely humiliating I never got angry, i was used to being picked on, but i liked the feeling of being overpowered and being nothing to her. In hindsight we were all still rather immature back then and years later she was much nicer to me, nonetheless, that's where the seed was planted and me desire to be submissive began.

Years passed, other fetishs popped up, especially with the rise of the internet. Snowballed from there and here i am.

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/12/2005 1:27:11 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		1: reading about it
2: being approached online and offered reverence
3: examining problems in previous relationships, finiding dissatisfaction in following physically/sexually all the time, and having to censor self not to scare men, lol. M

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/12/2005 1:27:35 PM   
Toggil


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Status: offline 		thinking back to my childhood i guess i have always been submissive, all the games i used to play with my female cousins involved them capturing me, tieing me up, and holding me prisoner.

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/12/2005 5:20:35 PM   
truesubboy


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Status: offline 		I voted for "born into it" because I just plain don't know. I always found myself being turned on by dominant women on TV or movies, or in print. Even when I was very young before I knew anything about sex or what I was thinking. This question comes up from time to time and others seem to have this story where they had an epiphany and they suddenly were kinky. I don't know how I got this lucky :)

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/12/2005 6:10:41 PM   
cd1019


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Status: offline 		The internet's a wonderful thing...LOL...after reading about the whole lifestyle, something about being a Dom just appealed to me, so I began seeking subs online and improving my role and techniques as I went along, as well as discovering what I enjoyed and how to accomodate it to different subs, depending on what they wanted.

And there you have the story of my BDSM "education". :-)

CD

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/12/2005 6:38:19 PM   
Valenia2003


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Status: offline 		I would have to say TV. I watched the first episode of Real Sex and I was absolutely enthralled.

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/12/2005 6:58:50 PM   
cd1019


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Status: offline 		Valenia, thanks for the reminder...I also saw an ep of Real Sex in my early BDSM days (mid-01), and just found it fascinating, especially w/the subjects discussed (food fun, a dominatrix and her 2 slaves, masturbation, etc.). That also furthered my interest, to be sure.

CD

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/13/2005 9:03:16 PM   
bumblebee


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Status: offline 		It's odd to think I could have been born into it when really I had no exposure to the lifestyle to influence me. Like others who've posted it seems obvious looking back on it there were signs. As a little girl my Barbies got tied up with ribbon, dressed as sluts and sexually dominated by Gumby or He-Man (I didn't have a Ken). I was too young to know exactly what sex was even. Also played with cousins and friends it games involving my capture as a slave. But it was all just an embarrassing fantasy with no possible outlet until I stumbled across info online.

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/14/2005 5:37:11 PM   
angelpet


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Status: offline 		When i say born into it, it is because I can remember being around 3-4 (age when I lived in the house where it took place) and crying because the boys tied up another lil girl. I don't know what else someone would describe it as. I followed a friends advice and began looking back over my life to see how I evolved as a person and where the lifestyle fit in. It is an amazing learning experience for me.

angel

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/14/2005 9:57:18 PM   
DiamondDiva


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From: North Carolina
Status: offline 		Actually, I was told that I needed to embrace my Dominate characteristics and I did!

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/19/2005 10:32:51 PM   
MissFem


Posts: 178
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline 		married into was not a choice.....but thats how I did it.......now divorced

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/19/2005 11:50:24 PM   
Dryon


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Status: offline 		I belive it was being board and finding one of John Norman's Gor series back when i was like in 2nd grade (yes i know my spelling sucks it allways has but my reading more than makes up for it and allways has thats why i was allways bored with school the keep teaching me stuff i allready knew) but at the same time some of my earliest memorys was playing with friends and seeing who could do the better job of tieing the other up lol i was a fair escape artist and untill i actually found this life for myself i didnt realise there were times i would WANT to stay tied up lol

< Message edited by Dryon -- 1/19/2005 11:59:25 PM >

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/20/2005 2:37:46 AM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		I said is born into it. But it also has to do with my up bringing and past experiences as I learned about me and my additude. My grandparents on both sides are sadistic. I've always fantizized about tieing up ppl and having my way. But it wasn't till I went to college and realized that ppl where really into BDSM and that the life style existed. I've learned it through friends, TV, and books.

As for my parents, well my Mom is Dom who tries to be submissive and my Dad is a Submissive trying to be a Dom. Can we say my parents have issues?



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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/20/2005 10:06:36 PM   
MadameDahlia


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Joined: 8/11/2004
From: SoCal aka Hell
Status: offline 		When I was very young I played with dolls like any other child might...

But the way I played with them was anything but ordinary.

Alien FemDom Barbie and her hoarde of Amazon guards would entice poor Earth men back to the mothership.

I'd strip them naked, cackling madly and tie them up with anything handy. They'd be thoroughly examined and eventually brought before my favorite doll (Her Royal Highness!) for a last inspection. She would decide who would stay and who would return to Earth, brainwashed - having forgotten his stay on the ship.

I delighted in humiliating the poor Ken doll and his friends, tormenting them with sexy, high heeled Ladies of Mars or whatever other planet they hailed from. I loved finding new ways of tying them up. I'd collar and leash them.

I guess I was born into it. Everyone (T.V., books, peers) told me that a relationship consisted of a male and female of equal standing. But in my head it never worked out that way.

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/20/2005 11:21:21 PM   
LdyAuburn


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Joined: 5/9/2004
Status: offline 		I do know earliest appeal was pre teen. I liked the idea of having a male and female both strapped to their respective steel (that was very important dont ask me why) medical style tables and I would force them to have sex.
The only problem was this was pre my sexual knowledge days..soooo the
The vague recollections I have of this.. (more than a couple of decades ago, sadly) was verymuch the frankestein dungeon but very sterile clean and metal


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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/21/2005 10:34:36 AM   
Bigbossman4u


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Status: offline 		Not comfortable saying it's something I was born into.. I have no idea if it's genetic disposition but I have no knowledge of any previous generations being into kink. Don't really want to think about it either lol

I know that as a 12-13 year old I began masturbating to fantasies that included tying women down and doing naughty things to them. Once I became sexualy active, and got past the awkward first few times - I always enjoyed those furr lined cheapo handcuffs available at any 'nilla adult shoppe and whatever was handy aroud the dorm/apartments. One of my first serious girlfriends introduced me to role playing, anal sex and multiple partners in my early 20's. The dominant role alwasy seeemd so natural to me - though we did take turns then.... I have no doubt that she's a switch now somewere.

After reading this thread, and looking back to my even younger days. I used to play a game with my 3 lovely neighbors (3 sisters each 2 years apart) called Boys Kiss the Girls... lucky me was the only boy in the game. I'd chase the three siters around and when i caught em I had to kiss them.. played from ages 4-7 or there abouts. I used to love tackling them when I caught them.... perhaps an early indication? who knows? My mother began buying me porn mags at 12-13 as she thought it a healthy thing for a teen to masterbate... and I always lvoed the B&D letters/articles.... and began having some frightening( for a young man) fantasies involving forced sex and other things which made me feel like there was something wrong with me.

Anyhow, as I began really exploring my active sexuality in my 20s I started to stop surpressing some of my more mild fantasies and just went with them. I started experimenting with toys, group sex and other fantasies but still kept most of my BDSM (how generic a term IS that anyhow) fantasies underwraps... though i continued using restraints - cheesy handcuffs, neck ties, bothrobe belts etc and mild spankings during some sex sessions. Living in Los angeles at the time, I was well aware that there was lifestyle but I was more intimidated by it than intrigued for some reason... perhaps because the few peope I knew in it seemed very extreme - thugh I rememebr several times fantasizing about some fo the stories they told me.

It wasn't until about 2 years ago that I really began to research this lifestyle after discussing it with a friend who has been a submissive woman for almost 20 years. She thought it was naturally in me and we decided to played once and she confirmed it. After that - perhaps due to the confidence boost- I began researching as much as I could by reading and checking out websites and talking with other friends in the lifestyle - who'm recommended a few lifestyle sites which i currently am active on.... I've since had several playmates and even a D/s relationship in which we became engaged - but thankfully that didn't work out (a nightmare indeed) - but valuable lessons were learned.

So here I am.... making new friends in the lifestyle and learning more everyday :) I hardly consider myself a master of anything.... though I a getting pretty good with this signal whip...hehehe. I see it like flyFishing.. therei s a learning curvebut once ya getth basics down yer golden - and vanilla jsut never seems the same.. like chucking bait ona boobber.. can be fun but no challenge in it. :) as for online D/s play... it doesn't do a damn thing for me... but cyber never really did anyhow. I'm a r/t only kind of guy... not to put down anyone who began their BDSM career online. Different pokes for dfferent folks., or something like that <g>

best
Joshua

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/21/2005 7:01:11 PM   
Mouthy


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Status: offline 		I maybe wasn't "born" into BDSM, but it sure didn't take me long to get there. (I just took an unfortunately long time to recognize how I was oriented and to feel okay about it.) Anyway, when I was, say, 7 years old (I don't really remember), all through my high school years, my parents played bridge regularly with a couple who had a son who liked to play Red-Hooded Rider with me. Red-Hooded Rider was simple and glorious: the boy put on his red sweatshirt, I ran (secretly afraid I might really get away from him), he pursued me in all earnestness and when I got captured and tied up it was a great thing. He was the first person, other than me, to put his fingers inside me. He was always the one who suggested the strip poker games, too. And he was the one whose Dad beat him with a belt. I sure hope that, however his life turned out, it permitted him to heal from the atmosphere of fear that always pervaded his home and find scope and satisfying releases for the desires he began investigating with me so long ago.

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/24/2006 9:00:12 PM   
knees2you


Posts: 2336
Joined: 3/15/2004
Status: offline 		a male recently asked me how does one
become a Slave/Submissive.

I'm wondering if it really can be taught?

Sincerely, Ant

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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/24/2006 9:21:32 PM   
veronicaofML


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From: from iowa..now in wisconsin
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i came into this, to find 'a' woman that would appreciate a nice guy that likes to wait on them hand n foot..and spoil them rotten..w/o any strings.

no vanilla gal ever would.!


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RE: What Brought You into Bdsm - 1/24/2006 10:19:19 PM   
RavenMuse


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Status: offline 		All my early fantasys would definatly class as D/s rather than BDSM, it was it was an early and more experienced partner who first raised the subject of bondage. When I enjoyed her reaction to being tied up she got a little more confident in showing me the rest of her non-vanilla limits.

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