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RE: A lack of etiquette - 3/8/2006 12:08:57 PM

amaidiamond

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I tend to answer most of the email I get even if it is to say thanks but no thanks, the polite emailes get polite response and those of the "kneel bitch" variety get a thanks but no thanks or my sarcastic tounge dependant on my mood.
I have found i get a lot of emails asking me a list of questions, everything from real name to breast size and for me that is not sutiable as a first contact, those kind of emails are the ones most likely to get ignored, another on I get is the *and what do you like your owner to do to you, tell me what you do* not requiring my interests, nothing so simple as that but basically wanting me to send explicit sexual details, those also get ignored. In general though, if people have a genuine interest in talking to me to find out about me the person i am more than happy to chat to them

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RE: A lack of etiquette - 3/8/2006 3:51:18 PM

Nikolette

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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

Things that make me go hmmmmm ...

Several people, usually but not always new to the forums, have made some rather long posts regarding the issues of ignored email. Their words are read, often a thoughtful and detailed reply is offered and yet rarely does the poster come back and answer those replies, even just to take 10 seconds and say 'thank you for the post' exhibiting the exact same behavior which caused them to post in the first place.

Or is it different if you make a post in the forum where you are actually soliciting a response, than sending an email on the other side where you takes yer chances?

::chuckles:: That's.. mostly, rhetorical in nature.

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RE: A lack of etiquette - 3/8/2006 5:53:30 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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I answer all my e-mails..I was raised to be polite and considerate of all..until given reason not too..and even in the case of rudeness on anothers part I was taught to still be polite but firm in my response.I was told when this was done that it would show the other person their ignorance or at the very least to know I maintained my own sense of dignity.So again yes I responded to all e-mails..even the ones of a questionable nature..Because as someone said there is still a person on the other of that e-mail..be well...Tempting..

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RE: A lack of etiquette - 3/14/2006 7:21:16 PM

DragonNphoenix

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ORIGINAL: LordDelmar

Being a dominant, I guess this is kind of hard to understand (even though I have been trained as a submissive to understand the submissive mind better)..

Going through the profiles, and reading all of the written words (sometimes taking up 30 mins or more) that have been included is a very trying experience. I have found that it is not only becoming harder to speak with someone but damned impossible to get a submissive to respond at all. All I ask in my emails to those that I find interesting, is that if they are not interested, then take 10 seconds of their time (since I took sometimes over 30 mins to read your profile) and send a 'No, thank you' or something to that effect, rather than opening the email and hitting the delete button before they have even read it through. It is downright rude to assume that because you might get a hundred emails a day that you can simply delete them all without reading and then turn around and complain because no 'real' dominant ever contacts you here.

I know it cannot be the wording, as rather than assume someone will bow down (which I never do anyway) I am cordial and even respectful until I know the person better. Perhaps some would view this as weak....but then you have those that complain every message they get is a dom assuming they will jump when first contacted.

What I am asking here, is this....Am I asking too much in my emails, for a submissive to take 10 seconds of their life to respond to an email that might have taken a good deal of time to write (including reading the profile)?

I personally think that most of the slaves out there have lost all their etiquiette. I think the slave protocal is out the window. Personally speeking, as a slave, I would have replied even just to say no thank you. But... I have been trained well.

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RE: A lack of etiquette - 3/14/2006 9:21:00 PM

LordDelmar

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Thank you all for your responses on this matter. Honestly, I do not believe it being intentionally rude as I do understand that most subs (and femdoms, dommes) likely get incredible amounts of email a day. While I do understand that it might just not be possible to respond to them all, it is quite disconcerting to find that though yo take the time to truly read a profile, they seemingly could care less. I am hardly whining or even moaning about it, I am just noticing a trend here that is difficult to understand. I am no stranger to netiquette, nor am I one of those typical jerks that demands things before I have even said hello.

I am a well respected member of the community and have found a few people that come here truly did not know there is a local scene, and are quite happy to just talk. Honestly, this is mostly what I am hoping for. To educate and possibly find those lost and wayward subs/doms/switches that need a home is one of the main reasons I was asked by some friends to create a collarme profile. To find that people will put on their journal that they are sick of doms demanding that they bow down (as in my first post) and then not even bother responding to an email that is written eloquently and quite respectful seems to be a double-standard.

My search will continue, as I am sure once I am tired of searching, someone will find the profile. Hehe, such is life :)

Again, thank you all for your responses and remember....some mistakes are too much fun to make only once ;)

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RE: A lack of etiquette - 3/15/2006 10:07:24 AM

plantlady64

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It's not always as it seems. I agree it's frustrating to say the least . It may be there are system issues happening randomly that prevent some of us (ME INCLUDED) from responding to E-Mails and having them show up at the other end. I've been having problems since mid December.

Overall I say keep you chin up & deal with those that do respond. Maybe you should go to hang out at dungeons, munches or society groups to find friends faster.

I think in person is a much better way to meet people you're attracted to.
Sincerely,
Szuzanne

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