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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I am 47 and a half and unless someone belongs to me.......I am totally fine with them using LeeAnn. It is my name and I rather like it. I do not find it disrespectful for someone to use it. If they are owned by me (if and when that ever happens again) it will be different.

nahh you literally ooze Ma'am for some reason.

porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

LOL, call it 48.............


*runs like a motherfucker from the hell of the fury of a woman scorned*

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ORIGINAL: HazelEyes24

While dating ppl in the lifestyle I have found there to be a difference between ppl my age (28) or younger and ppl 45 and up, in the use of titles. The dominants I dated around my age, when I asked what they wanted me to call them did not have a preference of sir or ma'am, just a first name. But the dominant's I have been with in the 45 yrs or old category wanted the title sir or ma'am to be used.

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Titles acknowledge the hierarchy within the relationship. 

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ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

Personally, I prefer names rather than titles. To me, names are more intimate. If my dominant required it, I would use whatever title she wants. However, it would make me feel neither more nor less submissive to her. Likewise, if she chooses to call me "slave", I accept her choice, but it wouldn't make me feel any more submissive at all. In fact, I'd probably respond better to my name.

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Titles acknowledge the hierarchy within the relationship. 

Yes, but so would uniforms with insignia for rank, but they're not necessary.

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

I keep reading the name of this thread as Titties.

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

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ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

Personally, I prefer names rather than titles. To me, names are more intimate. If my dominant required it, I would use whatever title she wants. However, it would make me feel neither more nor less submissive to her. Likewise, if she chooses to call me "slave", I accept her choice, but it wouldn't make me feel any more submissive at all. In fact, I'd probably respond better to my name.

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Titles acknowledge the hierarchy within the relationship. 

Yes, but so would uniforms with insignia for rank, but they're not necessary.

Not necessary for you perhaps but for some situations and occasions they are necessary. In many cases a title like a badge imparts a wealth more information that is reasonable to expect stated when referring to someone. For example, the nomnecladure of "Master" tends to indicate a M/s dynamic although the use of Master has weakened this somewhat. However, to continue; "Master of Bruin Cottage" is a very specific title and states categorically, that the wearer of that title is the head of Bruin Cottage (It also give an indication that Bruin Cottage may be kink and/or involved in some alternative dynamic), Similarly, in Lodge, the Title of Lodge Master or Master of the Lodge states clearly who is the current leader of that branch. Grand Master states who is the Master of the Lodge Organization with all branches answering to him. Other similar titles such as Hierophant, Impirator etc shiow the level of training, practical work undertaken and duties of persons holding that initiation degree. I am aware all this is old fashion and not of interest to many of the younger generations except those who seek such paths, but it still holds that in many occasions it mat well be more than rude to ignore titles and use names. Were I to address someone by their given name it shows we have a friendly and even to some degree an intimate relationship where as it is more than likely we do not. On social occasions I choose to accept being address as others see fit providing good manners apply.

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

My you do have a burr up your arse don't you perhaps the OP and you should get together and start a subby malcontent group. Bruin Cottage is my home lad, insult that and you insult me personally. I specifically stated I was using examples of hierarchy outside BDSM. Obviously you know fuck all about lodges so FYI, some lodges are the places where political and business power brokers are members of and thus such a Lodge wields far more raw power than most people are even aware. Nothing to do with BDSM I grant you that other than some very experienced BDSMers from several nations are members of lodges which is where I have met them. Your comment I originally responded to is quite obviously one of a person why neither understands nor wants to understand some of the more traditional ways some things get done and as such typically of the modern era, dismisses and sneers at such things. You go your way I stay with mine and if you are adult enough, we can amicably agree to disagree if not then we are done . 

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ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

My you do have a burr up your arse don't you perhaps the OP and you should get together and start a subby malcontent group. Bruin Cottage is my home lad, insult that and you insult me personally. I specifically stated I was using examples of hierarchy outside BDSM. Obviously you know fuck all about lodges so FYI, some lodges are the places where political and business power brokers are members of and thus such a Lodge wields far more raw power than most people are even aware. Nothing to do with BDSM I grant you that other than some very experienced BDSMers from several nations are members of lodges which is where I have met them. Your comment I originally responded to is quite obviously one of a person why neither understands nor wants to understand some of the more traditional ways some things get done and as such typically of the modern era, dismisses and sneers at such things. You go your way I stay with mine and if you are adult enough, we can amicably agree to disagree if not then we are done . 

??? No burr up my arse, but obviously you've got a chip on your shoulder.

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

My you do have a burr up your arse don't you perhaps the OP and you should get together and start a subby malcontent group. Bruin Cottage is my home lad, insult that and you insult me personally. I specifically stated I was using examples of hierarchy outside BDSM. Obviously you know fuck all about lodges so FYI, some lodges are the places where political and business power brokers are members of and thus such a Lodge wields far more raw power than most people are even aware. Nothing to do with BDSM I grant you that other than some very experienced BDSMers from several nations are members of lodges which is where I have met them. Your comment I originally responded to is quite obviously one of a person why neither understands nor wants to understand some of the more traditional ways some things get done and as such typically of the modern era, dismisses and sneers at such things. You go your way I stay with mine and if you are adult enough, we can amicably agree to disagree if not then we are done . 

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My guess is that he has earned his chip....

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss


My aunt said to me yesterday, "There are a lot of white pickup trucks in Nashville." (swear she said it)... Now everywhere I go, I notice gobs of white pick up trucks.  Are there more now than there were before?  Nope.  I am just noticing them now.