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LadyPact -> RE: Being new gives regulars the right to be snide..agree or disagree (10/29/2009 8:28:20 PM)
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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19
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ORIGINAL: MarcEsadrian
It depends, but generally, I vote nay.
Where does it depend? Perhaps in how ignorant and scathing the newcomer may sound. Those two ingredients seldom win friends and influence people, or more importantly, help to build the tower of collective wisdom. That said, I've noticed some people place too much value in post count and general popularity. I had contributed here for many years under another alias. When I ditched it and started posting again, nearly everything I shared was poked, prodded or questioned in some way by others. Comparatively, with several paddles under my name, what I contributed in the past was often received very well, so this appears to me to evidence a slight bias in viewpoints shared here in relationship to thread count and recognition.
Humans are pack animals that interpret information based on personal context and social hierarchy, and the evidence of this can be seen in pixel text from time to time, too. Newcomer says something pretty brilliant and thoughtful, and it gets buried in the thread. Then, MasterThunderClaw belches out a bland, cynical truism and it's praised as sage wisdom. Meanwhile, another user's comments in the same thread are attacked due to black sheep syndrome. None of that is very productive. I think it's important to focus on what is written rather than the person or the perception of the person. While that may be impossible for humans to do completely, that turns out to be far more productive for all—albeit perhaps less entertaining in the end, I suppose. Therein lies the rub, I suspect.
Your interpretation of how you were seen is inaccurate. I have always held respect for you and think you and your profile and pictures are pretty HOT. They show someone in complete control. I found your posts and demeanor wise, in control albeit slightly emotionless. Sort of appealing yet scary. But then I love a guy in a suit! [:)]
I agree with the inaccuracy part. In fact, I was rather tempted to send you an email just today after reading the very good response you had posted on the thread that clip put up. I wouldn't have cared if you had one post or if we have disagreed in the past. You had a damn good answer there and it was greatly appreciated.
Edited because the first quote wasn't necessary when it included all three.
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