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Being new gives regulars the right to be snide..agree or disagree

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 11:21:13 AM

DemonKia

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lol

A fat insult? That's the best ya got?

Again, I am underwhelmed by your lack of originality . . .. .

But I do like a good trainwreck, & you're possibly a great one . . . . .

I'll be really 'nice' & point out that fat chicks are relatively desirable within the BDSM context, especially as compared with the 'vanilla' world . . . . A BDSM dungeon or play party is a place I can stroll naked, or nearly so, to many admiring glances . . . . . .

Not to mention that titty bondage just isn't the same without big, pendular, dangly breasts. Those little, socially correct ones, they're just not the same . .. . . .

But you go right ahead & continue displaying what a mature, reasonable, intelligent, thoughtful interlocutor you are, OP . . . . .

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 11:25:11 AM

soul2share

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Kia, Kia, Kia......

When will you learn to stop using the $5 words??? He doesn't understand them....use the KISS formula. Silly little girl!

Ya think that I should explain KISS to him? Or can he figure that one out himself?

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 11:28:37 AM

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I'm new.
I noticed that a few things right away. The most bothersome is listed last:

1. Not many people actually answer the questions that are put forth. They spend more time analyzing the question. (I still find the threads interesting. I'm not complaining, just observing.)

2. It's constantly mentioned that everyone is different. I get it. What's wrong with asking people's opinions to see if something is likely, or common? Why can't anyone answer a question about what they like without a disclaimer. Obviously you don't speak for everyone. You're one person.

3. Some people tended to fill in the details of what they didn't know about me or my personal situation. The things they filled in were pretty negative. I really don't think my posts should be any longer. They don't lack detail. I can't tell my life story all at once. People should just ask questions rather than assuming the worst. I also notice that this is something that happens more in public forums (not just on CM) than one-on-one messages/conversations.

The advice I would give to anyone in a similar situation is, don't feel bad about it. When people fill in details on their own, it's just because they want to keep running with the concept or subject. While you might have been the original subject, they've really ceased talking about you and have started focusing more on making a point. You know they don't know you, so don't take it to heart. If they figured wrong, correct them. It's a good way for them to get to know you.

It was a little disconcerting and I thought about pointing it out at the time. In the end though, I wouldn't want anyone to hesitate to give me their honest perspective because they're now afraid to hurt my feelings. I don't think anyone needs to be told to lay off on my behalf. On the contrary, I think it's good for people to learn to explain themselves and stand-up for themselves... and it's not really much of a discussion when the outspoken people start holding back.
I invite people to disagree with me anytime, and be snide if you think you need to get my attention. I'd rather that than see you hesitate.

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 11:34:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: blacklion

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ORIGINAL: DemonKia

OP, your ability to sniff out secrets is amazing . . . . .

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I am unbelievably impressed with your displayed ability to figure stuff out all on your little lonesome . . . . ..

What conspiracy will you expose next?

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quote:

ORIGINAL: blacklion

I just KNEW MommyEleven was a broad...Behoove and you best gave her away ;) oh the delightful exchange we had for several days in email.

That you beat anorexia?

She can always loose weight if she wants to but I fear you are beyond help ...you have one of the ugliest personalities I have seen in a long time. And while there are many who find BBWs beautiful not many find people with your attitude attractive.

< Message edited by devilishpixie -- 10/29/2009 11:37:27 AM >

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 11:36:12 AM

blacklion

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Thank you.......it really matches my eyes....now get to polling people. I am about to open the hair length poll that was whined about.

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 11:39:51 AM

RapierFugue

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ORIGINAL: devilishpixie

but I fear you are beyond help ...you have one of the ugliest personalities I have seen in a long time.

Be fair though - the forum is "Polls and Other Random Stupidity". He's 2 for 2

< Message edited by RapierFugue -- 10/29/2009 11:41:15 AM >

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 11:41:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: RapierFugue

quote:

ORIGINAL: devilishpixie

but I fear you are beyond help ...you have one of the ugliest personalities I have seen in a long time.

Be fair though - the forum is "Polls and Other Random Stupidity". He's 2 for 2

Yea i think i need punishment though because I showed him how to make polls when I was trying to be nice. Damn.

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 11:42:26 AM

DemonKia

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Excellent stuff there, PainfullyCurious.

quote:

ORIGINAL: PainfullyCurious

I'm new.

<<<clipped>>>>

The advice I would give to anyone in a similar situation is, don't feel bad about it. When people fill in details on their own, it's just because they want to keep running with the concept or subject. While you might have been the original subject, they've really ceased talking about you and have started focusing more on making a point. You know they don't know you, so don't take it to heart. If they figured wrong, correct them. It's a good way for them to get to know you.

It was a little disconcerting and I thought about pointing it out at the time. In the end though, I wouldn't want anyone to hesitate to give me their honest perspective because they're now afraid to hurt my feelings. I don't think anyone needs to be told to lay off on my behalf. On the contrary, I think it's good for people to learn to explain themselves and stand-up for themselves... and it's not really much of a discussion when the outspoken people start holding back.

I invite people to disagree with me anytime, and be snide if you think you need to get my attention. I'd rather that than see you hesitate.

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 11:43:04 AM

MistressLavinia

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My opinion whether it matters or not, is coming, some may like it some my not, it still belongs to me. If you matter to me then it matters what your going to say, if you dont matter I care less if your eating popcorn and watching me throw my little hissy fit or not.

Unless I come into your world and diss you personally, I expect respect, just as I give it. So me whether your new, or whether your old, you get what you give. When you come to my home, I make you feel welcome, when you write to me, Male, Female, Sub, Domme, I give you respect and I expect the same. Theres cliques everywhere, some click better then others, but they deserve the same respect as people, not in the click.

Im happy for the Moderators, I had an issue once, and his rude remarks were removed. He has much more time on the site then I do, but he was wrong. To feed into harsh words to someone for no reason, is bogus bullshit. The lifestyle we "all" are a part of here, has enough going against it. Were Adults and its an Adult site, some will mesh some wont mesh, so what. Everyone doesnt have to like or agree with everyone, but the old saying applies - You meet the same people on the way up the ladder as you do on the way down-

In my opinion, everyone gets my respect, until they dont deserve it. If your not welcome somewhere, or don't get the reaction you so desire, then you either accept it, or move away from it. Just like a home, If I welcome you, you feel great, if I dont, you wont come back.

I on the other hand, will go where I want when I want, some matter and some dont matter to me. So again, new or old, clickie or not clicked together, who cares, we're individuals all under one internet site, that to me is pretty damn good. Some knock it, and some are grateful for it. Im one of the grateful. People have the right to do whatever they want, some do the right thing and some dont.

Lavinia

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RE: Being new gives regulars the right to be snide..agr... - 10/29/2009 11:50:16 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: blacklion

Do you find the same regulars popping up despite your topic choice to offer snide remarks and off topic jabs while patting one another on the rump roast.

Not particularly, no. When I first started posting I found everyone to be very helpful. No snide remarks or off topic jabs as far as I recall. Maybe it depends upon the attitude you enter with. I find that advice that is sincerely asked for by someone new, together with an apreciation for the responses received, is pretty much treated with respect.

< Message edited by ncbabe -- 10/29/2009 11:52:46 AM >

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 12:02:20 PM

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Thank You

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 12:14:03 PM

Lucienne

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ORIGINAL: PainfullyCurious

2. It's constantly mentioned that everyone is different. I get it. What's wrong with asking people's opinions to see if something is likely, or common? Why can't anyone answer a question about what they like without a disclaimer. Obviously you don't speak for everyone. You're one person.

What seems obvious to you and me isn't obvious to everyone. A lot of people seem to think there is a right way and a wrong way to do bdsm. They look for rules and general authorities. The constant refrains of "everyone is different" is for the benefit of those people who are constantly looking for standards.

I don't think there's anything wrong with asking how common or likely something is, but you should be explicit that that is what you are asking.

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 12:26:33 PM

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doublefrosting cuffycakes for Zeph!

ooooo double frosting,I must be speshul

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 12:32:41 PM

VirginPotty

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ORIGINAL: devilishpixie

quote:

ORIGINAL: RapierFugue

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ORIGINAL: devilishpixie

but I fear you are beyond help ...you have one of the ugliest personalities I have seen in a long time.

Be fair though - the forum is "Polls and Other Random Stupidity". He's 2 for 2

Yea i think i need punishment though because I showed him how to make polls when I was trying to be nice. Damn.

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 12:37:50 PM

sunshinemiss

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ORIGINAL: blacklion

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Hello Black Lion,
When a new person - or a seasoned one - puts up inflammatory, insenstitive, ignorant posts / threads, they will be called on the carpet by the folks here. It is true that many of us do not suffer fools well. Your posts have time and again been berating and mean spirited. You choose to be that way, fine. It's a shame becuase you are obviously smart and have something of a sense of humor. If you are foolish enough to think that using those tools to forward your agenda of nastiness, childish name calling, and mean spirited attempts at shaming others will be accepted and that we will kiss your ass and thank you for your wisdom, then you are sorely mistaken.

I am one of the "clique" I suppose. I have met a number of people here. However, new folks (Kia and NZ come to mind) are welcomed when they have intelligent, interesting, worthwhile and humorous things to say. On many occasions, I've disagreed wholeheartedly with other regular posters. By having a cogent argument or anecdotal information (as opposed to just flagrant taunting), we have learned and grown from each other. While I often am the voice of disension, I am still welcomed with open arms... because of the manner in which I conduct myself.

Sure, we act silly and will flame people... when they deserve it. I have been called on the carpet myself a number of times for being down right bitchy with people. I take the criticism, look at it if it is worthy criticism, consider the words (and the person saying the words), and make my own decision. Frankly, if there is a serious problem, the mods will handle it. I have received a gold framed note or two. Most of us have.

Finally, just a little reminder for you. One earns respect. You have not earned it. If you want respect, act like a man rather than a petulant little boy.

Good luck in your search,
sunshine

Does this said carpet have scotch guard? Also who appointed you "regulars" to decide what is "flame" worthy? Tho I did so enjoy your speech more over your 5 dollar words.

You have just proven my point. I never said "regulars" decide what is flame worthy. I have been flamed by newbies. And you know, many of them have a very good point. Heck, my first interaction with Kia was her correcting me on something.

You see, I actually took time to think about what you were saying because I thought the gyst of the question was worthwhile... to me.

By the way, in case you are wondering, your criticism is not worthy to be considered. You have proven you have nothing worth reading.

*CLICK*

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 12:38:15 PM

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VP but my master's hands are so perfect for spankings who needs a whip! mmmm funishment

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 12:39:42 PM

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 12:41:16 PM

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Pots... did you see the size of his arms? No whip is necessary. nope, not at all.

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 12:43:03 PM

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Tho I did so enjoy your speech more over your 5 dollar words.

sheeeeee-it!! I told you to knock off da high-falootin' vocabulary Sunshine!!!!! Us'n classy folk need to tone it down and stop actin' like we is hiiigh-skool gradjets!!

tut tut.

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RE: Being new does not give other the right to be snide... - 10/29/2009 12:43:17 PM

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You should see the size of his...

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