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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 6:53:06 AM   
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HI seniors...great responses..
and it seems 40 is the new 60?or maybe 40 is senior in BDSM?
To all you young whipper snappers...when you hit 50 and 60 you will see 40 is young....just as my grandmother of 100 felt 80 was..

An interesting age story..
I met *fedx 3 years ago..he said he was 59..I was 50..He was loyal..humourous..
;a great sub and HIGHLY sexual..he could "go" all night..
One night I said...
"*fed are you sure you are 59?" meaning he seemed "younger"
"Well" he said.."I'm 73"
 
wow...I asked what he thought his "secret" was to being so sexual..energetic..
creative..healthy..
HE said "It's all in your head..and I don't mean the little one"
I toel him he should be giving workshops.
I had move and he could not.I miss him.
 
AND...
I met a "potential"..from CM for coffee..He arrived on time..well dressed..polite..6'3"..muscular...
We were getting on well and chatting and as he got up to go get a coffee..his knap sack fell and out spilled HIGH SCHOOL books...!!
Upon "interogation" he revealed he was 17.

I have found my age to be an asset in the BDSM world...due to experience in "reading" people...honed intuition and more.
 
IT seemes that after I retired( from teaching) my condfidence about WHO I am in that area increased...
This could be due to no fear of job loss..or reveling in the security I planned for...which still has to do with my age.

GM

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 7:17:37 AM   
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Yo soy el Senor EstebanOscuro.


usted es tan viejo como la lengua y un poquito más viejos que los dientes





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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 7:21:41 AM   
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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 7:27:19 AM   
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Thanks Clumsy but XI definitely knows my profile address but I do so appreciate your willingness to be of service...........**f**king slut****

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 7:29:13 AM   
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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 8:26:59 AM   
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What I find funny is that YOU knew about this thread but had to send ME the link!



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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 8:49:52 AM   
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ARE YOU A SENIOR BDSMer??


ok, if thedark and WyldHrt are going to intimate that 40 is senior territory...then YES!

quote:

How old are you?M..?s?D?

 
43...in 3 days.  definitely s.
 
quote:

How long have you been in the life?

not sure what you mean by "in the life" so, here goes:

this slave has been submissive:
 as long as she can remember...
aware that folks refer to the way this slave has always been as "submissive":
 almost 7 years...
participating in online forums, public dungeons, private parties, conventions, munches, community fundraisers, outreach programs, etc:
 almost 7 years...
participating in a relationship specifically structured on an M/s foundation:
 almost 7 years...

Edited for Merc's Perspective....

ARE YOU A SENIOR BDSMer?? NO
How old are you?M..?s?D? 54 One month from now, but there are many people who are my 'senior'. I only think about my age when someone asks. I typed 52 as my first response until I thought about it. Although there are some 'morning afters' where I'm much older.

What had been your experience as a newbie?I once was 19 and a newbie. My fear exceeded what I experienced. I didn't meet anyone who abused my ignorance other that to point to places, and more importantly people, for knowledge. oldie? As an 'oldie' I don't think my experience changed. I've always been open to everything. The age differential was only an issue when the people involved make it one. We've hung out with people much younger and much older; sometimes at the same event at our house.
How long have you been in the life?I've had a life since 1955. I don't think I had a 'style' of my own until I was 5.

Any interesting age stories to share? NO! I did that once and it turned into the most embarrassing memory I have regarding the 'life'.
Does age matter to you? your subs//D/s? YES - I will not be involved with a 'Roman Polanski' affair.
IS age an issue? in BDSM..?an asset..? YES - A person's mental and emotional age is very important. I have no patience for a 50 year old who is emotionally 6; nor to I care to hang around with a 21 year old who has the mental energy of a 90 year old. How many rings I can count if I cut them in half with my chainsaw to prove that they have 'no limits' isn't an issue.
anything you wish to add..?The hierarchy of needs in a relationship gets so pointed when seeking an ideal match that putting a age number, without consideration of a person's energy or emotional state, is counter productive. Meet people - period. I've met many 'old' people chronologically younger than me, and many young people chronologically older. How many rides around the sun a person's taken are only important to consider when a number is needed to qualify to get into a club or getting social security checks.

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 10:34:04 AM   
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Ok, I'll bite. As it is, every bit of info I'm about to give in already on the CM boards and/or in my profile.....

58.1

Asa newbie, couldn't get enough, NEVER could get enough. as an oldie(I prefer the title "oldster") I"ve of course learned that quality trumps quantity.

40.2 years, active. 37 asa top, and 3 here in the  "lifestyle" - D/s, PX, SSC, etc. Oh, wait - I was having BDSM fatasies since my earliest memories,, right up through to becoming active. Does that count?

age stories? Hmmm.....my first bottom was  17 years older than me - exactly twice my age at the time. My last bottom before starting my adventure with my pretty one was 25 years younger -  exactly half my age at the time, and I've never made that connection until right now so thats the "age story" I'll share. And, in  the almost 40 years between those 2 the pendulum swung all over the place. My pretty one is 16 years younger than me.

No, age doesn't matter, common ground, mutual attraction and  compatibility are what matters.  But, reality does matter. Despite the above mentioned pendulum and the compatibility between my past partners and I (until we weren't compatible anymore),  I know the reality of my being successful with someone much younger or much older than me for anything  other than friendship or more than say a fling is, what - unrealistic? Age hasn't mattered to my bottoms. I'm in the midst of my first real  D/s relationship and age doesn't apparently matter to her.

My age is likely an asset in my D/s life. I'm a youthful kind of  guy but I've been around the block. I've laughed&cried, won&lost, have loved&been loved etc etc.  I've learned the value of honesty. I'm more dependeble and accountable for my actions than when I was younger. My history is checkered but it makes my age an asset. Not to the vast majority of women much younger than me, and I get that, but to the  theoretical women who I theoretically would be involved with I opine that my age  is an asset. But, you'd likely find people who would argue that I'm as dumb as when I was 20, or 30, etc.......

Nope, nothing to add......

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 10:37:40 AM   
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And, an early happy birthday to Beth, 3 days from now. (see 2 posts above). I remember 43, ( ; 

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 11:45:33 AM   
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How old are you?
I will be 63 in about one (1) month...Sighssssss... No question I qualify as a true “senior”

M..?s?D?
I identify and am identified as a slave.

What had been your experience as a newbie?
As a newbie I found I really had to keep my head screwed on to avoid being mentally and physically abused and taken advantage by those who recognized my naivete.

oldie?
As an “oldie” I find younger Dominant’s are quite interested in me, in my proclivity as a pain slut and older Dominant’s are interested in my sense of loyalty, devotion and servitude and my devout practice of those things.

How long have you been in the life?
I embraced who I was born to be quite late in life...at age 50 simply because BDSM was quite taboo in my day.

Any interesting age stories to share?
None I feel comfortable sharing.

Does age matter to you?
Yes, it does. I was married for 27 years to a man who was 12 years older than I was...that became a problem for me sexually the older I got simply because “most”, and I say “MOST” men tend to become less sexually active the older they get. I, on the other hand was beginning to experience a new, uninhibited sexuality.

your subs//D/s?
my Master of over eight years is 10 years younger than I am...and having an older slave was HIS choice and hard for me to accept in the beginning but we have a bond and kinship that I truly believe is hard for others to duplicate and our lifes are entertwined sexually, physically and mentally.

Is age an issue?
For me to say age is not an issue is incorrect...obviously the human body diminishes with age. These are the physical age issues; joints get stiff, skin becomes thin, natural lubrication is no longer as natural as we would like, bones get brittle, skin loses its firmness and all those wonderful attributes like firm perky breasts, tight asses and killer thighs tend to give in to gravity. But if someone were to ask me if my issues with age had anything to do with a generation gap, or ability to engage in any acceptable activity my Master requires I would have to say no.

in BDSM..?
I’d be foolish to say that as I get older my BDSM activities as well as my masochistic needs won’t be affected because we all know it’s simply not true. I’m fortunate enough to have a Master that realizes He too is getting older and there will come a time in His life, a time in our long term relationship that I won’t be the only one with age related limitations...and that’s where the crux of BDSM comes in to play...it’s NOT all about sex, it’s NOT all about kink; it’s a mentality that few can say they understand.

an asset..?
Yes, my age is a definite asset...so many men, vanilla or otherwise seem to be searching for a woman who knows herself well enough to make those commitments that are so important in this life. I’ve been there and done a hell of a lot in my nearly 63 years of life; I KNOW what it is I am willing and capable of giving to someone and I KNOW what it is that I need from someone else to cement the bonds. I know where I’ve been in life and I know where I need to be when I draw my last breath...you may say you too know these things at age 20 or 30 or 40...but take it from someone with some experience...everything will change.



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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 3:38:39 PM   
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ARE YOU A SENIOR BDSMer??

How old are you?M..?s?D?

I am a switch and soon to be turning 49.

What had been your experience as a newbie? oldie?

as a middle aged male, I haven't found the age issue any different then what I face in the LGBT community.

How long have you been in the life?
be going on 4 years since I actively started down this path

Any interesting age stories to share?
Does age matter to you? your subs//D/s?
not as much as it had a few years ago, my own age prejudices are being challenged and am finding the age isn't a great issue unless the person is young enough to be a biological offspring.

IS age an issue? in BDSM..?an asset..?
It can be depending upon a person's preference in another.

anything you wish to add..?

 
 
PICK 1 or more...
 
GM..
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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 5:01:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: abuddingdom

And, an early happy birthday to Beth, 3 days from now. (see 2 posts above). I remember 43, ( ; 


awww, shucks...thank you kindly!!!

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 5:34:16 PM   
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I stopped being a senior when I finally graduated high school!

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 5:34:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: vixenkneels



How old are you?
I will be 63 in about one (1) month...Sighssssss... No question I qualify as a true “senior”

M..?s?D?
I identify and am identified as a slave.

What had been your experience as a newbie?
As a newbie I found I really had to keep my head screwed on to avoid being mentally and physically abused and taken advantage by those who recognized my naivete.

oldie?
As an “oldie” I find younger Dominant’s are quite interested in me, in my proclivity as a pain slut and older Dominant’s are interested in my sense of loyalty, devotion and servitude and my devout practice of those things.

How long have you been in the life?
I embraced who I was born to be quite late in life...at age 50 simply because BDSM was quite taboo in my day.

Any interesting age stories to share?
None I feel comfortable sharing.

Does age matter to you?
Yes, it does. I was married for 27 years to a man who was 12 years older than I was...that became a problem for me sexually the older I got simply because “most”, and I say “MOST” men tend to become less sexually active the older they get. I, on the other hand was beginning to experience a new, uninhibited sexuality.

your subs//D/s?
my Master of over eight years is 10 years younger than I am...and having an older slave was HIS choice and hard for me to accept in the beginning but we have a bond and kinship that I truly believe is hard for others to duplicate and our lifes are entertwined sexually, physically and mentally.

Is age an issue?
For me to say age is not an issue is incorrect...obviously the human body diminishes with age. These are the physical age issues; joints get stiff, skin becomes thin, natural lubrication is no longer as natural as we would like, bones get brittle, skin loses its firmness and all those wonderful attributes like firm perky breasts, tight asses and killer thighs tend to give in to gravity. But if someone were to ask me if my issues with age had anything to do with a generation gap, or ability to engage in any acceptable activity my Master requires I would have to say no.

in BDSM..?
I’d be foolish to say that as I get older my BDSM activities as well as my masochistic needs won’t be affected because we all know it’s simply not true. I’m fortunate enough to have a Master that realizes He too is getting older and there will come a time in His life, a time in our long term relationship that I won’t be the only one with age related limitations...and that’s where the crux of BDSM comes in to play...it’s NOT all about sex, it’s NOT all about kink; it’s a mentality that few can say they understand.

an asset..?
Yes, my age is a definite asset...so many men, vanilla or otherwise seem to be searching for a woman who knows herself well enough to make those commitments that are so important in this life. I’ve been there and done a hell of a lot in my nearly 63 years of life; I KNOW what it is I am willing and capable of giving to someone and I KNOW what it is that I need from someone else to cement the bonds. I know where I’ve been in life and I know where I need to be when I draw my last breath...you may say you too know these things at age 20 or 30 or 40...but take it from someone with some experience...everything will change.




A marvelous post, and your pics are great!! Wow, something for me to aspire to at 63. Thank you.


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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 6:38:41 PM   
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I guess I've officially become a BDSM geezer. Over 50.

Funny thing is I don't feel as though I am over 50. I see 50 year olds and think, jeeze, she/he looks ooooold! ; p

Ah well. I hope I'm aging gracefully, athough I know it's not as gracefully as some I see around me. Maybe I'll win the lotto and head for a plastic surgeon's office. Who knows.

I've already posted My introduction to BDSM elsewhere on this site, so I won't repeat it here.

If life would just get out of the damned way for a change, My best BDSM years would be now, I believe.

Worrying about the economy and retirement consume a great deal of My energy these days. I long for those days when I knew things were going along the right path, when I knew I had a wonderful, secure future ahead......I knew hard work and dedication would ensure a bright future..... and then came politics and the Clinton years...we are reaping the bitter harvest of those years now. It's rather difficult to feel playful when life savings are gone, livelihood is gone, and all that remains is a 6 day a week job 10 to 14 hours a day, just to stay on top of the bills.....egads.....I bemoan the Chinese Invesment firms who own Citibank, Cap One and other US banks, overseas 'investors' who have so gleefully funneled off so many hundreds of billions of our bailout dollars just so they could be spent on Chinese intfrastructure and development, (including military buildup and the purchase of even more US conglomerates), while US employment continues to skyrocket....we, as a people, are so collectively stupid ..... we, as a people, need to wake up and smell the coffee BEFORE Congress allows foreign lobbyists to change our laws to suit foreign investment.....not AFTER..... but then, I digress.

Still, life is funny. In spite of having lost sooo much, I have never been so fulfilled in My BDSM relationship as I am now!

I've been involved in BDSM for over 35 years. I've enjoyed the services of quite a few subs over the years, a few stellar fellows among them, too. But deep at the core of each of those relationships was always the angst, the deep certainty that the sub's actions were motivated only by their individual cravings in hopes of getting what that particular sub needed.

This time it's different; his cravings are certainly there, but he has offered of himself in a way that I have never known before, completely, wholeheartedly, generously, tenderly giving of himself on a daily basis without reservation, without any request. He observes, listens, pays attention to My needs and interests and 'poof' he offers up some token of his esteem by giving of his time, energy, thoughfulness, service, acquiesence: he is, in sum, the perfect, cadillac sub! I cherish every moment with him.

It helps that he is My age, so yes, age matters. He's 2 years My senior, I've had subs both older and younger, but our age compatibility goes hand in hand with our main interests outside WIITWD, namely: music, culinary delights, farming, ranching, travel, and even things like art glass, pottery, fine arts, he's interested in everything that I love. In turn I take interest in machinery, engineering, his ability to problem solve, and we share a passion for current events and pretty lively political and spiritual discourse. On all fundamental levels he is a perfect partner.

Age, too, helps because he is a very masculine and strong willed man. His age and experience have taught him when to hold his tongue, when to back down, when to take a deep breath and avoid a headbutting contest in favor of his figuring out how to finesse Me later instead - by simply asking for My consideration of his point of view - not many willful sub males have figured that out, and certainly not many younger male subs.

It is, for Me, the ultimate relationship, a once in a lifetime experience.

And, most importantly, I believe that the feeling is mutual.

We have a lot to look forward too, both vanilla and BDSM, as our interests and activities evolve in the discovery of each other's wants needs and desires.

Here's an age story for you: manthing and I happen to be about equally oversexed. The other day, we had finished shopping at a local warehouse type store for various sundries and household items and went strolling out to the car. While we loaded up the *new wonderful mini-suv My wonderful sub gave Me*, I stopped a moment to discreetly, but painfully tweak his nipples through his shirt and nibble his neck, nothing drastic, just a nice, covert, brief little tweak and nibble. Evidently I wasn't quite as discreet about it as I had thought. A younger couple walking by stopped, stared, laughed and yelled 'hey! you two! GET A ROOM!' and they walked on, laughing at us. That wouldn't have been so notable if we'd been 20 or so, but at our age it was pretty damned funny, we had such a laugh over it.

All in all, I'm pretty thrilled to be a BDSM Senior! I wouldn't go back in time for nuthin'.

At long last, I have grabbed the proverbial brass ring! I have it all, and so much more...

TM

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 6:59:16 PM   
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Oh, pooooh! You're both just a couple of young pups! ; ) TM

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 7:48:10 PM   
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Have any of my fellow oldsters noticed that AARP magazine usually has cool people on the cover?

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/4/2009 8:23:52 PM   
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Thank you SO much!


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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/5/2009 5:40:47 AM   
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Umm okay maybe i am missing something here but when did 40s and 50s become SENIORS?

Maybe people are just wanting to respond lol but do you seriously see yourself as seniorish in your 40s and 50s? 

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/5/2009 6:45:12 AM   
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people of 40 to 50 are senior since they are older than people of 20 to 30
oh i love to state the obvious...

i presume (because it is so for me) that most people when they hit 40 feel they are mid-life now... infant and junior is definitly over... some people get themselves into a crisis, get their knickers in a twist and grieve over their lost youth... onset of menopause looms quite close...
anyway... after junior there is... ummm... senior? ... i am not aware of anything in the middle...
old junior? young senior? mature person?
did i miss something and is there an official date when seniority starts, like pension age; 65 to 70? and are we officially juniors untill then?

ETA i also read somewhere recently that there is something like munches for TNG apparently -the new generation- do not cater for people over 35 maybe the cut of age is younger than we thought...

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