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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/5/2009 6:52:55 AM   
vixenkneels


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Status: offline 		barelynangel...official senior status differs from state to state but AARP membership is available to anyone who is 50 and over. It's impossible to split hairs on the exact age someone goes "senior" because it is just a number; it's the mentality of most people that determines just who is a senior.

I may be almost 63 and I may or may not see that 63 year old staring back at me in the mirror every morning. Thank the gods I don't see that 63 year old, physically, mentally or spiritually.


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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/5/2009 10:22:38 AM   
ThatDamnedPanda


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ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO

This is in response to another thread...saying there was "nothing "for seniors/older "subs"..on here...

ARE YOU A SENIOR BDSMer??
How old are you?M..?s?D?


52!


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ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO
What had been your experience as a newbie? oldie?


Principally, the deep and unconditional ownership-based dynamic that I need was much more difficult to understand and accept, and to maintain, when I was younger. I think part of that was a function of inherent youthful naivete, and part of it because it just takes a long, long time to learn how to make something that complicated work.


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ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO
How long have you been in the life?


All my adult life. I've never had a serious vanilla relationship.


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ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO
Any interesting age stories to share?


Not that I remember.


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ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO
Does age matter to you? your subs//D/s?


Somewhat. When i was younger, i was typically drawn to women older than myself for their maturity and stability. Now, I tend to be attracted more to women 5 or 10 years younger, because I'm extremely active and with each passing year I meet fewer and fewer people my own age who'd rather be in a canoe or on a bicycle than on a couch in front of a television set. It's not about physical attractiveness at all - it's a question of mindset and approach to life. Most people my age don't seem to want to be as engaged and as passionate about life as i need a partner to be. I'm not saying they aren't out there, but they get harder to find every year.



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ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO
IS age an issue? in BDSM..?an asset..?


Not necessarily. Maturity, on the other hand, is everything. And that typically comes with age. That's not always true - my ex was 15 years younger than I, barely 26 when i met her. And in most ways, she was by far the most stable and complete human being I've ever met. That opened my eyes to the possibilities I'd been ignoring for many years by disregarding younger women, although i also recognize that that kind of wisdom and personal development in a 26-year old is quite rare. But it did teach me that age alone is not a reason to automatically disqualify someone.


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ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO
anything you wish to add..?


When I was 20, I thought 30 was old.

When I was 30, I thought 40 was middle-aged.

When I was 40, I thought 50 was elderly.

I'm 52, and still wondering when I'm going to start feeling as old as I used to think 30 was. My theory is that old age is a rather slow-moving fiend; it can't catch you unless you slow down and let it.



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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/5/2009 11:40:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		When i was in high school i always thought i'd be dead by the time i was 30. i guess i was mistaken lol.

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/5/2009 1:44:36 PM   
hereyesruponyou


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO

This is in response to another thread...saying there was "nothing "for seniors/older "subs"..on here...

ARE YOU A SENIOR BDSMer??
How old are you?M..?s?D?
 
me - 43 D who enjoys bottoming at times   my mate - 49 switch who enjoys sub more than he thought he would

What had been your experience as a newbie? oldie?
 
we've both had ongoing experience for several years. Mine started as bedroom bondage then self bondage before i knew there was a "lifestyle" and all these names out here. My mate has more group and public experience. Together we've explored more in the past 3 years than either of us did in the many years previously

How long have you been in the life?
 
see above

Any interesting age stories to share?
 
when my mate and i met 3 1./2 years ago we did the basic dinner and talk thing with no plans for more. Ended up walking around the beautiful historic town, which just happened to have a bunch nice little alcoves...Of course groping and such ensued. We ended up back at my truck and I was sitting on the seat while he stood there with the door open and we were kissing a bit, nothing THAT bad. Anyhow this older couple walked by and the woman broke off and came yelling at us like we were teens! Luckily her husband realized the truth and grabbed her back letting her know we were a bit old for a lecture....  Nothing makes you feel younger than being "caught out"

Does age matter to you? your subs//D/s?
 
I used to say no one young enough to be my kid...but then a few nice encounters with a 22 and 23 yr old and i decided to alter that to no one under my daughters age (19). Reality is that it is fun to interact with people from all demographics, but developing a lasting relationship is much different. I do admit to having more trouble with someone younger than someone older

IS age an issue? in BDSM..?an asset..?
 
I feel that is totally a personal issue with each person/relationship. Obviously experience can be an asset in knowledge, but may also be a deficit in baggage...

anything you wish to add..?
 
It's never too late to try something new... I mean I NEVER imagined fists could fit in asses, much less both of mine.....

 


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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/5/2009 3:36:35 PM   
submittous


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Status: offline 		We're a Dom/me couple, both 63 so if that isn't a senior we can see it close up... The Dom in this couple went to his first pro dungeon at 21 and has been active one way or another in bdsm groups and organizations ever since.

We don't have much trouble with age but most potential slaves seem to, our age and location (central Mexico) seem to scare most folks away. When we got together at age 40 we didn't consider age at all, now we have to acknowledge that many people think age is important... even if we think compatibility is more about shared needs and goals in bdsm.

We think we are better Owners than we were 20 years ago but don't believe that age or experience alone is much of a gauge of competence in dominants (or submissives for that matter).

We don't really have any great age stories although we have had young slaves in the past, younger than our kids at the time. Once we were asked if our daughter wanted anything else by a waiter.... but we think he had plans of hitting on her.

We like to add that a bigger problem than age in today's online bdsm world is the embarrassment of riches, we all have so many people to talk with and new ones showing up all the time that we tend to reject folks if they aren't 'perfect' ... back in the days when we communicated via snail mail and were lucky to have access to 25 new people a year we all took the time to evaluate and find out if a potential dom or slave was appropriate, now we just say "there are more to look at, why take the time'... to all of our detriment.

Bill and Linda

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/5/2009 4:50:16 PM   
NyDaddysGirl


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Status: offline 		ARE YOU A SENIOR BDSMer??
How old are you?M..?s?D?
I'm sub, and just turned 44.

What had been your experience as a newbie? oldie? 
How long have you been in the life?
I was a newbie at age 17 but got married at 18 to a vanilla.  Stayed married for 14 years.  I only got back into the lifestyle after the divorce but there is sooooo much I have yet to experience!  *Kicks herself for wasting 14 years*

Any interesting age stories to share?
No

Does age matter to you? your subs//D/s?
I actually prefer my partners older than me but a few have been younger than me.

IS age an issue? in BDSM..?an asset..?
I don't know that age is an issue as much as it's a preference.  If the chemistry is just right, I don't think age matters either way.  (It should go without saying that I'm referring to adults of legal consenting age.) 

anything you wish to add..?
Age is inevitable, old is a state of mind.


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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/5/2009 4:53:12 PM   
Politesub53


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Status: offline 		Okay I`m 56 and dont feel a day over 60.

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/5/2009 4:58:51 PM   
a49015Dom4subF


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Status: offline 		Hill?  What hill?  I don't remember any hill?

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/5/2009 5:04:48 PM   
a49015Dom4subF


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Status: offline 		How old are you?M..?s?D? 47 Dom
What had been your experience as a newbie? oldie? I've been at this for about 4 years now with limited success
How long have you been in the life? About 4 years, but lifelong fantasies
Any interesting age stories to share? My last 2 subs were 25 and 19 respectively, the 25 yr old still speaks to me and is respectful and always wishes to help in any way she can, the 19 yr old was a lying whore
Does age matter to you? your subs//D/s? Age?  no, it doesn't matter as you can see from the above answer...attitude is everything.
IS age an issue? in BDSM..?an asset..? Too subjective to call, everyone is different.
anything you wish to add..?

Aw hell, that's what I get for trying to be a smart azz without reading the OP.



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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/8/2009 7:09:54 AM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		It comes from working with 20ish every day. They talk about 'old people' in their conversations and then I learn they're referring to their 40 year old mom!

So yes, I feel pretty 'Senior' in My early 50's.....

; )

TexasMaam

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/8/2009 8:52:20 AM   
vincentML


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Status: offline 		I have enjoyed the BDSM Life as a Submissive in fantasy and reality before Jesus went to carpentry school, so i guess that makes me a senior. Certainly before the Internet and iPods. Remember radio, kids? We do, Howdy Doody, yes we do.

My profile says i am 64 and i usually am. Most days i feel like 44. Ocasionally 84 lol!

Forty four?? You kids!

All of my Dominants and wives have been younger than me. The narrowest age gap was nine years with one wife, 18 years with another. Both marriages lasted more than a dozen years each and produced a son from one. Mistress age gap has always been greater.

Something very special about being dominated by a bossy, self-assurred young woman who is bright and savvy and knows how to hide my walker. You know, the one with the little green cut-out tennis balls on the bottom of the aluminum pipes. And who can reach out and touch me and make me HARD.

Dommie young ladies, gotta love em. Fu*kin YUMMY ~~smiles~~

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/8/2009 9:13:01 AM   
Imman9


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Status: offline 		Greetings sweetsub,
I'm a married Dom age 55.
I prefer My subs to be mature, meaning at least age 40 or older. In fact 50's and even 60's are perfect. Oh and they must be female lol
I welcome those who are either new to the lifestyle or experianced.
And you are right, there are alot of"whackos" out there as well as many b.s ers., so you must be careful in your quest for knowledge and or experiance.
Please feel free to contact Me or ask any questions.

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/8/2009 2:29:05 PM   
ResidentSadist


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Status: offline 		ARE YOU A SENIOR BDSMer??
Senior … as in over 65? No.

How old are you?
I invented dirt . . . over 50 years ago.

M..?s?D?
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What had been your experience as a newbie? oldie? How long have you been in the life?
My brief history: http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=2312971

Any interesting age stories to share?
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Does age matter to you?
No… 20,53 or 67 is ok.

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/9/2009 6:27:58 PM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		53 here and now a member of National Seniors so i guess that qualifies me! However Master is 15 years younger at 38 but very mature for His chronological age and now tickled pink that through me He gets an NS card too! Our age gap isn't a barrier at all, we have so much in common. Having been previously married to one 4 years older and another the same age as me, neither of whom had as much in common as Master does with me, i can safely say age isn't the defining factor for a successful relationship with me!

As a Domme I am still looking for subs and will consider quite a wide range of ages, especially for play and knowingly short term encounters. However for a 24/7 permanent sub, a younger male will have to convince Me (as Master did!), that he really doesn't want children, and that he knows what he is letting himself in for. Master met my Mother and as i seem to be her genetic clone, He knows that sooner or later, He might be doing more taking care of me physically than i of Him. So far He's coped wonderfully with my various medical issues, the latest of which being new ears! On the other hand, an older male will have to convince Me that he is ok with regarding Master (at His young age) being the head of the household, so there will be issues to be dealt with either way.

I first found bdsm about 9 years ago ... no regrets there at all! I am reasonably experienced but also aware there is much more out there too and want to keep learning. I'm intending to grow old just a little disgracefully!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]



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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/9/2009 8:29:38 PM   
leeann61


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Status: offline 		My body did not tell me i was a senior until 58 when the creaky joints started.  I'm 62 and I am still playing.  Some days I can't play because my back won't let me, but my brain is always looking to find some new fun thing to try.  I play with my Dominant who is my age.  I also play with Doms who are 49 years, 50 years, 55 years old.  Some younger Doms do not seem to understand my back/joint issues.

I am having a great time much to my surprise.  My age has given me such freedom.  It is a great time to look forward to if you are younger.  It's only up hill from here!   

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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/9/2009 9:15:55 PM   
CNJDom


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO

This is in response to another thread...saying there was "nothing "for seniors/older "subs"..on here...

ARE YOU A SENIOR BDSMer??
How old are you?M..?s?D?
What had been your experience as a newbie? oldie?
How long have you been in the life?
Any interesting age stories to share?
Does age matter to you? your subs//D/s?
IS age an issue? in BDSM..?an asset..?
anything you wish to add..?
 
 
PICK 1 or more...
 
GM..
I am 54.6
 

How old are you?M..?s?D?
I'm going to be 50 this coming May 2010 (sounds old, but really it's only HALF a century....)

What had been your experience as a newbie? oldie?
When I was a newbie, I didn't know jack...since then, I've met jack and I would say just be careful around jack.  Actually, I started out back in my teens officially (if you don't count those times I played Doctor...and I was ALWAYS the Doctor), and I've never stopped learning or wanting to learn more.  I have respect, and like to respect others who are either newbies or oldies; since we are all part of a larger whole/community.  I was immature in my approach, but eager when I was younger, but tried to remain true to the SSC code always.  When I got older and started to mature in my wants, desires, and approach to others; I felt more at-ease with myself.  This took many years to realize where I was at not just with others, but with myself as well. 

How long have you been in the life?
I will admit to my first experience was at a very young age.  But I've also taken breaks from the life a few times over the years.  I would say then I've been in this actively for the most part out of my 49-years, going on 23-years (so about half my life).

Any interesting age stories to share?
Does age matter to you? your subs//D/s?
IS age an issue? in BDSM..?an asset..?
When I was in my early 30's, I had a slave who was in her early 50's.  What's that you say Mrs. Robinson?...I suppose we should remove the gag first.  Actually, I didn't really view age as an issue and for the most part; still don't.  Actually the older the better.  My sub and I were talking about virgins the other day, and I think this sort of applies as well:  I love to train and see that "oh my god" look on face as they experience and process all the nasty and wonderful things being done to them, so THAT kind of virgin is a good thing I believe.  I'm sure there are some real horror stories out there for some BDSM virgins, but an actual virgin....ehhh no thanks.  I think though this slave I had, was a little older than she admitted to me, she was afraid that I would reject her for her age.  It was a sheepish and slightly awkward  moment for her when she did relate to me her age at that time, and of course it was alright (Would that make me a pervert?  Fair enough.).

I think age is an asset.  You don't have to young to be eager.  Of course there is an issue with age for those too young, and we have rules, ethics, laws, and such to maintain that sort of boundary.  But as a consenting adult, you have freedoms and such to explore the BDSM world.  Experienced BDSMers are not always the older ones either, but there is sometimes a minimal maturity level that needs to be fulfilled for a good and healthy BDSM lifestyle.  Knowing what you want and adapting to situations as they come up is something that is an asset, which is found in the older BDSMers usually.  An example, is that trick knee, bad shoulder or the other limitations that your body has as you get older from the wear and tear over the years.  All things are nearly do-able with the mature BDSMer, since that person usually knows how to counteract that limitation.  She may not be able to bend her body in that position like she used to, but she knows what to do with the position she CAN get into.  So I think there is praise and certainly an asset for those who have some age and experience. 

Mae West once said that "Youth is wasted on the young"..., and there is a lot to be said for youth.  I have nothing against the younger BDSMers and feel that there can be some genuine respect that can be had between whatever age groups there are.  I've seen some real interesting pairing over the years in BDSM.  We all handle and view age differently, and the dynamic to be had I feel, transcends age at times.  And for those that are locked into wanting a certain age-group of players and partners in their midst only, are missing out on what is truly out there and the experiences that could be had.  But that again is preference for some...I say keep you mind and eyes open, or you just may miss something.       

 

 


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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/9/2009 9:19:00 PM   
CNJDom


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ORIGINAL: leeann61

My body did not tell me i was a senior until 58 when the creaky joints started.  I'm 62 and I am still playing.  Some days I can't play because my back won't let me, but my brain is always looking to find some new fun thing to try.  I play with my Dominant who is my age.  I also play with Doms who are 49 years, 50 years, 55 years old.  Some younger Doms do not seem to understand my back/joint issues.

I am having a great time much to my surprise.  My age has given me such freedom.  It is a great time to look forward to if you are younger.  It's only up hill from here!   


What a wonderful post leeann61!  And welcome to the forums!!


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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/10/2009 4:45:09 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		My Master just celebrated His 48th birthday and I will be 57 in March.  Niether of us consider ourselves "seniors" but if 40 qulaifies in this thread then I suppose we qualify also.



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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/10/2009 5:08:01 AM   
CoupleSix


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Status: offline 		I'm 59.... my delectable sub of 7 years is 30 this year... we're going to meet about 40... I'm getting younger every day!
 
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RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... - 11/10/2009 10:41:22 AM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		I'm 58 but don't look it. I work out at the gym 3 times a week and I'm full of piss and vinegar.
I should put up some new pics in my profile.

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