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Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 2:08:04 PM

MTCell

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I enjoy using hand signals/commands for My sub when we're at a social event such as a bdsm party or munch. I have 5 basic ones and although I have no issues with her visiting friends, I don't want to yell across a room or wave when I want her to come to Me, shut up or just get ready to go and get our coats. Yes, I even have one for "drop to your knees, now! and be quiet", in the event she's embarrassed or insulted someone.

I don't wish to sound ridiculous, for she doesn't have to watch Me all the time, but when she is looking I'll make eye contact and if I want something I'll give her a message. Even one for I'm having a good time.

Would you find these helpful in a kink community event or gathering? An example, is if I pull or scratch either ear, I wish for her to excuse herself and come to My side, now.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 2:20:42 PM

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if shes blowing me in public, handsignals work well.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 2:25:28 PM

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We don't tend to spend time too far apart. If I'm not helping cooking or cleaning at a gathering, I'm with him. He just needs to turn his head and ask for more water.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 2:30:19 PM

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We prefer verbal communication.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 3:21:12 PM

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I think I'd have a hard time remembering the hand signals honestly. I can see where they come in handy and I guess Val and I have unoffical signals. I can usually tell when he wants me to come over. Formal ones would make me nervous that I was missing something though. *chuckles*

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 3:33:44 PM

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Honestly, if my D were to use these types of things, they probably wouldn't even register as a "command". In public, we're not likely to be apart for very long, and since hand signals wouldn't be useful for anything other than short distances anyhow, it's much easier for him to just pull me aside for a minute or whisper in my ear.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 3:58:49 PM

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Yes, I even have one for "drop to your knees, now! and be quiet", in the event she's embarrassed or insulted someone.

i thought this was an interesting sentence from the OP, but no matter.
No i can't envision hand signals being any kind of benefit to my Master and i.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 4:15:19 PM

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If he wants me he'll crook a finger when he catches my eye. Beyond that, he wouldn't want me to shut up or drop to my knees or anything else I can think of when we're in public, so I can't imagine any other signals that might be useful between us.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 5:11:55 PM

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Am I the only one to wonder at the op's choice of partners if he has to worry about her going about insulting people? Or perhaps she has a drinking problem?

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 5:34:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Am I the only one to wonder at the op's choice of partners if he has to worry about her going about insulting people? Or perhaps she has a drinking problem?

Nope, please see post #7

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 6:13:32 PM

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I'd much prefer verbal communication. I don't care what other people would think of my Dominant telling me what to do. It would be a case of He talks, and I listen and follow through.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 6:38:58 PM

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Hand signals? Hell, that makes me remember watching my boys grow up playing baseball. I never could understand how they could remember all those signals their coaches did. Until I found out they were only watching for certain things.

I'm much more a "verbal" person. If I had to watch for hand signals, I'd stay so confused, I wouldn't know whether I was coming or going.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 6:49:24 PM

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LOL... I have always given signals of some sort. Talking with my hands... expressions... and yes when working with dogs... they were trained to hand signals. I do have to admit... when in church with youngster's, I gave a few hand signals... like... hand open and held up to stop and a pointed finger and a frown and if they didn't listen... everyone heard a smack to a leg and all the old folks laughed and knew someone got it.

But for an adult... besides facial expressions, an arched brow, a smile, a tilted head... I never thought to train them with hand signals. lol I don't think I would unless we were playing pet... and doggy owner. lol

The day I have to tell my submissive to shut up... there is a much bigger problem than any signal could remedy. The day I need to say shut up because they have offended someone or they need correction for anything in public... is the day I consider they aren't adult enough to be in public with me and signals to me that it is over.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 7:24:56 PM

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Without looking at percieved negatives, I think it's a neat idea. It's like telepathy. Instant communication between two people. It can mean what ever you want it to mean.

Then again, I hike, so hand and body signals are a must. It's not really much different if you think about it.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 7:48:43 PM

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He just tells me what he wants or I'm usually able to know from a look. I can't really think of a time when hand signals would be all that helpful. I actually think hand signals would be more noticeable and strange since most people really don't use them that often.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 8:07:57 PM

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*chuckles* somehow I keep envisioning a traffic cop....

No, we don't have any formal hand signals, but people do communicate through body language all the time and I think a slave learns to read when her Master wants something or is displeased etc. just as a Master learns to read his slave and knows when something is wrong or off.

It makes me think about the times I've performed in ballets... being on the stage while the principals danced together, I got a really nice close-up view :) Anyway, what the audience can't see is all the gestures and looks and mumbled communication that goes on between them as she lets him know that her balance needs adjusting, that she needs help NOW, as they look to one another to synchronize a large lift... they don't seem to have any specific hand signals devised ahead of time... yet there was SO much communication going on. And I guess I see it more like that. A look, a raised eyebrow, a small movement of the finger, a tilt of the head help communicate the necessary adjustments. Though, I can also see that there may be times where a pre-agreed signal might be useful in specific situations ... we've just never needed one yet.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 9:05:55 PM

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We use text messages a lot even when we are at the same function. She may tell her me her plans for later as a tease or tell me she and a female friend need another margarita.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 9:48:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MTCell

I enjoy using hand signals/commands for My sub when we're at a social event such as a bdsm party or munch. I have 5 basic ones and although I have no issues with her visiting friends, I don't want to yell across a room or wave when I want her to come to Me, shut up or just get ready to go and get our coats. Yes, I even have one for "drop to your knees, now! and be quiet", in the event she's embarrassed or insulted someone.

I don't wish to sound ridiculous, for she doesn't have to watch Me all the time, but when she is looking I'll make eye contact and if I want something I'll give her a message. Even one for I'm having a good time.

Would you find these helpful in a kink community event or gathering? An example, is if I pull or scratch either ear, I wish for her to excuse herself and come to My side, now.

Very cool. That is something i would love to explore with Master when i am back in the US :)

Thanks for jogging my memory, as i've always been interested in that.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 10:02:42 PM

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KnightofMists and his girls use hand signals, and when any of them describe it, it always sound beautiful. And the signals are so unobtrusive, most people don't even know they're using them.

I use some sign language with my kids, mostly with my teen during her basketball games, and it has been useful. But I've also "asked" someone across a room or on the far side of a backyard at a party if they need a drink or something to eat.

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RE: Do you perfer hand signals when in public? - 11/13/2009 10:11:47 PM

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My boyfriend tried to use a signal for “come over here and save me from this awful person” when we were at a gathering recently. We had talked about the signal ahead of time and I knew it well. The only problem is that I am so not observant it’s ridiculous. Apparently he spent most of the night giving the signal and I was oblivious.

Now, when he tells me to do something, I do it.

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