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Daddysredhead -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/15/2009 12:22:22 PM)
FR Can I just say it's funny that when I perved his profile, the banner ad underneath was the one for "Public Disgrace?"

vincentML -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/15/2009 9:24:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: strangedesire Serious answer? Because most people aren't just looking for kinky play, they're looking for friends, lovers, life partners. You can't base a serious relationship off kink, any more than you can base one off of sex. Relationships based on sexual chemistry don't last in the long in my experience, and I've seen nothing to suggest that this changes because she wants to be spanked or you have a bit of a thing for gags. Awww jeez, now you went and spoiled it ... talking about friends, lovers, and life partners to a kid who is at the peak of his hormonal rage.

PainfullyCurious -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/15/2009 9:54:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShadowsLap Not to hijack the topic or anything, but ... what is it that makes people think a profile is fake? I'm with you . I think this questions is important and needs to be defined for this thread to make sense. What makes a person/profile fake? I get a little apprehensive when I see someone ranting about fakes in their profile. I wonder if these are the same people who went around in high school calling every girl who didn't want to sleep with them a tease. If I don't want to have anal sex with you on the first date, or the tenth for that matter, does that make me a fake? What if I say I will submit to you, but I have some hard limits? If I don't want to send you my picture until I'm 100% sure I'm going to meet you because I prefer to be discreet, does that make me fake? Or is it more transparent, like if I'm just using a profile, with a pic that isn't me, so I can get your bank account information, is that what you mean by fake? Examples would help me understand...

DarkSteven -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/16/2009 4:23:59 AM)
PainfullyCurious, I consider there to be two different forms of fakes. 1. Obvious misrepresentations for manipulation. Several times a week, I get unsolicited cmails from women that claim they like my profile (with no specifics) and wanting to develop a lifelong relationship right then and there. They're never local and usually from out of the country. They always confuse D/s with kinky sex, and have a picture of an incredibly beautiful woman. They're almost always badly misspelled and hastily thrown together. They're attempts to get men enthralled enough to fork over money eventually. I've also heard a variant where someone poses as someone they aren't with no plans of monetary gain, but instead to get their rocks off. The classic is the married man who poses as Lord UberDom online and strings a sub woman along by presenting himself as an available Dom when he is in fact unavailable and unwilling to meet in RL. 2. Someone who presents as a Dom or sub but isn't. This one is subjective - I've seen profiles of allegedly sub women who have a specific fantasy in mind and simply want a service Top to fill that. The Ask a Mistress forum is full of posts from Dommes who get contacts from male subs asking for that as well. In its purest form, a submissive is about service and pleasing a Dom. At the other end of the spectrum, there are Doms who use the fake label to manipulate. When a sub refuses to do something they want, they accuse her of being a fake. As I said, this category is subjective and there's no clear differentiation between a sub who is all about themself, and a sub who will not perform a specific act.

MasterK13 -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/16/2009 4:44:52 AM)
Enlightening as always DarkSteven.

DesFIP -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/16/2009 4:46:01 AM)
In this case the distinction is clear, any sub female who doesn't put wanking material on her profile for the op to wank to is a fake. Obviously he's the only real person here and the rest of us are bots.

RapierFugue -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/16/2009 5:31:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterK13 When you look at a profile ever notice that some are almost like a vanilla's they dont even describe the partner they want as a BDSM enthusiest what's up with that? I edited because I know some people on the site are just kinky looking for kinky partners I am talking about vanillas seeking vanillas with no kinks at all. Well you're about to be savaged by sheep, but to treat the question seriously for a moment ... There are several kinds of "fakes"; which sort are you talking about? Fake as in not really what they claim to be (ie subs posing as doms, doms as subs, etc), fake as in not really into kink (in which case I would imagine that the contents of their cmail inbox in the 30 mins after posting their profile for the first time would cause them to scream, then take a fire axe to their computer, soonest) or fake as in scammers setting up to rip others off? If it's the latter I know what you're referring to - the scammers tend to hit the first few buttons on the "create profile page" and leave it at that, presumably because a) it takes time to click stuff and b) as English often isn't their first language, I wonder sometimes if they've any idea what half of it means. The result is a profile stacked with vanilla interests, with nothing kink-related in there. I've noticed that very phenomena myself many, many times over - it's one of about 5 criteria I use when assessing a profile for "scam-ness". In some cases I'm sure people simply don't wish to discuss their kinks with a wider audience until they've got to know the person, which I can understand, although it's not my way. The reason a crowd will be turning up with torches and pitchforks is that the self-same question you asked tends to be asked roughly every 5 minutes around here, often by people who turn up, ask it, whinge about it, then fuck off, never to be seen again. It's a sort of pervier version of the Bermuda Triangle.

AquaticSub -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/16/2009 6:06:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly fake! [:D][:D] I keep tellin' ya'll - I'm made entirely of butterscotch candy! Not a real person here!

lally2 -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/16/2009 7:40:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterK13 When you look at a profile ever notice that some are almost like a vanilla's they dont even describe the partner they want as a BDSM enthusiest what's up with that? I edited because I know some people on the site are just kinky looking for kinky partners I am talking about vanillas seeking vanillas with no kinks at all. i havent noticed any, but then i dont read profiles much either. but if they do exist then good luck to them really, at least theyre being up front about themselves. the thang is, not everyone wants Ms or Ds, some just want the kink, so where else do they go in the hope of finding someone open to that sort of possibility.

lally2 -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/16/2009 10:57:02 AM)
hey DS - smoochy smooch, - i have my inflatable armbands, rubber suit, compass and personally trained albatross - should be with you soon. xxx

DarkSteven -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/16/2009 5:04:49 PM)
YAY!!!!! [:)]

Llyren -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/16/2009 5:12:41 PM)
I'm never called a fake. sniff I'm usually called a fat bitch who will die alone and unloved. Typically because I'm not swooning at a poorly spelled, very brief cmail. While I do like having questionable things whispered to me during play, for some reason receiving that in a cmail never does a thing for me. La sigh. I don't put much about my own kinks in my profile. The very fact that I'm here means I'm not vanilla. So what I put in my profile are the other things I find interesting, in the hopes of finding someone who shares those, as well as the need for D/s. If anyone wants to plumb the depths of my depravity, they'll need to at least make an attempt to get to know me. If that makes me fake, so be it.

sirsholly -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/16/2009 5:25:23 PM)
quote: I'm never called a fake. sniff FAKE!!!!! yer welcome!!!!!!![:)]

DrkJourney -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/16/2009 5:37:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Llyren I'm never called a fake. sniff I'm usually called a fat bitch who will die alone and unloved. Typically because I'm not swooning at a poorly spelled, very brief cmail. While I do like having questionable things whispered to me during play, for some reason receiving that in a cmail never does a thing for me. La sigh. I don't put much about my own kinks in my profile. The very fact that I'm here means I'm not vanilla. So what I put in my profile are the other things I find interesting, in the hopes of finding someone who shares those, as well as the need for D/s. If anyone wants to plumb the depths of my depravity, they'll need to at least make an attempt to get to know me. If that makes me fake, so be it. lol...sounds like that guy in houston that would be totally nasty and say things like that, then in the next email want me to consider him...lol

Llyren -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/16/2009 5:53:53 PM)
Oh Noes... I am now 'teh fake'!! What will I dooooo? I'll just have to post a really sexy pic on my profile and start soliciting money from people. Hmm.. Can I register myself as a charity catering to horny people and get tax-free status? This might have possibilities...

GreedyTop -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/16/2009 10:15:28 PM)
I like the way you think ;)

Llyren -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/16/2009 11:55:22 PM)
I could tie this in with my other career idea in another thread, to help HNGs and CHDWBs in writing cmails that won't get the blocked or ignored in the first ten seconds. It would be a charitable endeavour, and perhaps they'd stop being so annoying. I'd get rich, they might get laid, and it would all be a charity, and therefore tax-free. I wonder if my lawyer would go for this logic.

WyldHrt -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/17/2009 12:21:18 AM)
quote: I wonder if my lawyer would go for this logic. Depends on how much ginger beer you give him/her before presenting your modest proposal.... [:D]

Llyren -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/17/2009 12:44:45 AM)
I suppose for that discussion I'll need to go with the stuff that is actually alcoholic, huh?

WyldHrt -> RE: What is it with the fakes and posers? (11/17/2009 12:47:14 AM)
Good plan [;)]

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