Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: Why "daddy"?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Why "daddy"? Page: <<   < prev  1 2 3 [4]
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/22/2009 12:39:26 PM   
lally2


Posts: 2621
Joined: 4/16/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO

OP:
 
for me I heard it in the 50's..yep it dates me BUT..
I heard it in songs...
 
and DADDY was a term we all used for my grandfather..as HOH.
"Go ask Daddy" grandma woudl say or "Daddy said you a are to...."
 
"...and songs....I 'm your sweet lovin' Daddy" Hank Snow
and
"Singin..hay hay Mama can your Daddy come home..?" Honky Tonk man
 
I tell my subs to "Come for BIG MAMA!" and it has NOTHING TO DO WITH INCEST or mom -baby
 
IT IS THAT I RULE....
 
GM
 
 



....... and lets not forget the good old 'sugar daddy'

ive always thought of the whole 'daddy' thing as a protective, caring, nurturing thingy.

when i was really quite young, after my dad moved out of the country and pretty much left my life completely, i used to daydream about a fantasy dad. he loved me unconditionally and protected me always. all of that could have crept into my adult relationships, but it didnt. i spose i grew out of needing 'daddy' and started wanting a boyfriend.

so, on one level i can understand why some submissives may be drawn to 'daddy/lg' relationships, but on another level i think its often just a term of loving endearment.



_____________________________

So all I have to do in order to serve him, is to work out exactly how improbable he is, feed that figure into the finite improbability generator, give him a fresh cup of really hot tea ... and turn him on!

(in reply to GYPSYMAMBO)
Profile   Post #: 61
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/22/2009 1:06:03 PM   
Sqoodd


Posts: 5
Joined: 10/25/2008
Status: offline 		I am Daddy to my children. The slaves are not to call me that; to them I am 'Master'.
One did slip and call me 'Daddy' one, but it was in the middle of an intense situation. I reminded her calmly that I was not her 'Daddy'. she got the message.

(in reply to lally2)
Profile   Post #: 62
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/22/2009 5:59:54 PM   
breatheasone


Posts: 4004
Joined: 7/14/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Sqoodd

I am Daddy to my children. The slaves are not to call me that; to them I am 'Master'.
One did slip and call me 'Daddy' one, but it was in the middle of an intense situation. I reminded her calmly that I was not her 'Daddy'. she got the message.

This is a good point. It also, perhaps, illustrates an important difference in styles. my Master chose not to squelch those feelings, or "slip" as Sqoodd referred to it. my Master chose to foster, and nurture all of the feelings that came out of me for Him. my Master has told me,  a diamond has many facets.

EDITED THE TYPO TOO LATE!!!!!!!
quote:

ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy

quote:


a diamond has many faucets.


I lol'd



< Message edited by breatheasone -- 12/22/2009 6:37:41 PM >

_____________________________

Romans 10:13,For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
Mike posts in black font
candy posts in pink font

(in reply to Sqoodd)
Profile   Post #: 63
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/22/2009 6:11:56 PM   
SomethingCatchy


Posts: 796
Joined: 7/29/2008
Status: offline
quote:


a diamond has many faucets.


I lol'd





< Message edited by SomethingCatchy -- 12/22/2009 6:12:27 PM >

_____________________________

I believe in Invisible Pink Unicorns

Everyone is gay for Joseph Gordon-Levitt.

Knowledge is power. Power corrupts. Study hard. Be evil.

(in reply to breatheasone)
Profile   Post #: 64
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/22/2009 6:16:38 PM   
Aynne88


Posts: 3873
Joined: 8/29/2008
Status: offline

                                                   ~Fast Reply, directed to no one in particular~

Oh for christ sake, let's not over analyze everything. He hates being called Master, he finds it pretentious and silly, I usually call him his given name, John, or Sir, which he generally prefers when we are not in public. However, when I am having an emotional moment or I am feeling very affectionate I call him Daddy. I have a father, one that I have a very good healthy relationship with, so no it isn't always some kind of age play or regression thing, it's just a term of endearment to us. He is older, 16 years, authoritative, protective and paternal. So at times when I am sitting on his lap and he is calling me babygirl, I call him Daddy. It's just hot or sometimes just sweet.. Nothing more than that. I am cerainly not a babygirl, and I doubt he thinks of me that literally, but I am his treasured possession at times, and I know lot's of vanilla women that call their men Daddy. Why is is it that in WIITWD we must always analyze the fuck out of everything? My vanilla Nana always called my Papa "Daddy" and I found it very charming and sweet. So? .  Don't always look for things that aren't there.  


_____________________________

As long as people will shed the blood of innocent creatures there can be no peace, no liberty, no harmony between people. Slaughter and justice cannot dwell together.
—Isaac Bashevis Singer, writer and Nobel laureate (1902–1991)



(in reply to Sqoodd)
Profile   Post #: 65
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/22/2009 6:30:46 PM   
persephonee


Posts: 5089
Joined: 12/15/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi

quote:

ORIGINAL: subboi3382

lol yea i never understood that whole "daddy" thing


Yes but do you understand the whole "boi" thing?



*pssst*...he responded and still didnt get it.....

_____________________________

You be the Captain; i'll be no one.

And You can carry me away....if You want to. ~Kasey Chambers

E*Whore, extraordinaire....

Nothing is exactly as it seems~Nor, is it otherwise.

(in reply to thishereboi)
Profile   Post #: 66
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/22/2009 8:14:34 PM   
fourleafed


Posts: 1
Joined: 12/13/2009
Status: offline 		I think it's wonderful. No bad connotations here.

(in reply to persephonee)
Profile   Post #: 67
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/23/2009 3:35:29 AM   
dreamerdreaming


Posts: 2839
Status: offline 		Why "Daddy?"
                      
                       Cuz its yummy!  

_____________________________

Download SLAVE LOVER. Explicit BDSM porn, with a plot! A love story, on a FemDom planet! http://www.amazon.com/Slave-Lover-Chronicles-Book-ebook/dp/B0031ERBLI/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1261973416&sr=1

(in reply to kasumi)
Profile   Post #: 68
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/23/2009 5:07:09 AM   
Zechriel


Posts: 308
Joined: 11/19/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: NormalOutside

Oh goodie, another thread where the OP is essentially saying "I don't like your kink. Justify it to me, you weirdos!"

Get a life. If you don't like it, don't do it. And if you really want to know why OTHERS do something, here's the reason: because they DO like it. Mmk?

PS: There are 483 threads with this exact title in the archives.


Good morning!
I have to agree here. I can explain things to people who are truly open minded and curious about learning something different that I do...but to explain it to someone who already has the mind set of  "no way-never!" is just wasting my breath.  I have answered this ? before so check my posts or use the search or run thru some of the posts in the other forums. I am not gonna have my warm fuzzy feeling when I say "My Daddy" picked apart into something icky. Good luck.
Love,
Zechriel

P.S. Yeah, it's my time too..grrrr  


_____________________________

Sir HighlanderME's little z

(in reply to NormalOutside)
Profile   Post #: 69
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/23/2009 8:29:40 AM   
NuevaVida


Posts: 6707
Joined: 8/5/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Aynne88

Why is is it that in WIITWD we must always analyze the fuck out of everything? My vanilla Nana always called my Papa "Daddy" and I found it very charming and sweet. So? .  Don't always look for things that aren't there.  



Bravo, Aynne!!


_____________________________

Live Simply. Love Generously. Care Deeply. Speak Kindly.



(in reply to Aynne88)
Profile   Post #: 70
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/23/2009 4:50:56 PM   
DsSocalCouple


Posts: 1
Joined: 11/5/2007
Status: offline 		The OP is clearly making a commentary and a negative one in her followup posts about age play or Daddy/Daughter relationships.

I have always found it odd that people into all sorts of extremes will say something negative about D/d.

Its post like this why I usually don't post .The I am better than that crowd that seems to think ohhh we would never do age play but its OK that my Master swaps me out to every Tom, Dick and Harry like a good whore. hmmm?

I find most of the D's community about as ignorant as vanilla's when it comes to D/d. If you understood that it is not about incest, but about being very deeply sensually close to a person then you might open your limited minds.

As one other poster said to the OP stop with the hidden commentary and go away back to the vanilla world if your mind is so incapable to understand.

Rant off/   

(in reply to DomImus)
Profile   Post #: 71
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/23/2009 5:18:12 PM   
Aynne88


Posts: 3873
Joined: 8/29/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aynne88

Why is is it that in WIITWD we must always analyze the fuck out of everything? My vanilla Nana always called my Papa "Daddy" and I found it very charming and sweet. So? .  Don't always look for things that aren't there.  



Bravo, Aynne!!


Coming from you beauty that means a lot :)




_____________________________

As long as people will shed the blood of innocent creatures there can be no peace, no liberty, no harmony between people. Slaughter and justice cannot dwell together.
—Isaac Bashevis Singer, writer and Nobel laureate (1902–1991)



(in reply to NuevaVida)
Profile   Post #: 72
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/23/2009 5:29:02 PM   
GYPSYMAMBO


Posts: 660
Joined: 9/26/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Aynne88



                                                   ~Fast Reply, directed to no one in particular~

Oh for christ sake, let's not over analyze everything.
 
. Why is is it that in WIITWD we must always analyze the fuck out of everything? My vanilla Nana always called my Papa "Daddy" and I found it very charming and sweet. So? .  Don't always look for things that aren't there.  


 
PPl are not analyzing ..OP asked for opinions..ppl are giving them..
Because you are comfortable with your concept of daddy does not mean that others are NOT or analyzing because they question it and listen and share other ideas..
You offered one reason for daddy..yours...
There are 1000's more....
 
GM

< Message edited by GYPSYMAMBO -- 12/23/2009 5:30:22 PM >

_____________________________

"Better served women will better serve the world"

** ** **

"A turd is still a turd even if it is shellaced!"

(in reply to Aynne88)
Profile   Post #: 73
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/24/2009 4:21:32 AM   
Aynne88


Posts: 3873
Joined: 8/29/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aynne88



                                                   ~Fast Reply, directed to no one in particular~

Oh for christ sake, let's not over analyze everything.
 
. Why is is it that in WIITWD we must always analyze the fuck out of everything? My vanilla Nana always called my Papa "Daddy" and I found it very charming and sweet. So? .  Don't always look for things that aren't there.  


 
PPl are not analyzing ..OP asked for opinions..ppl are giving them..
Because you are comfortable with your concept of daddy does not mean that others are NOT or analyzing because they question it and listen and share other ideas..
You offered one reason for daddy..yours...
There are 1000's more....
 
GM


Sorry Gypsy Mambo, I see it as I see a lot of topics here, I stand by my statement that we do indeed tend to overanalyze minuteau to death. Why is it any different in BDSM if I call him Daddy on occassion than the thousands of Nilla folks that do it? Hey opine away on it, that's what I did. I don't have a "concept" of Daddy, I don't analyze it that much. See what I mean? Sometimes is just way too much blah blah blah.

_____________________________

As long as people will shed the blood of innocent creatures there can be no peace, no liberty, no harmony between people. Slaughter and justice cannot dwell together.
—Isaac Bashevis Singer, writer and Nobel laureate (1902–1991)



(in reply to GYPSYMAMBO)
Profile   Post #: 74
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/24/2009 4:25:14 AM   
mstrslve4fun


Posts: 60
Joined: 12/18/2009
Status: offline 		kasumi, i'm right there with you.

My actual father was a son of a bitch that molested his daughters, tried to drive my mother crazy, didn't pay support for years so we had to be on welfare, etc. i had no desire to even go to his funeral.

i can't imagine wanting to call any man who i am having a relationship with 'daddy'.

But that's just me.

(in reply to WyldHrt)
Profile   Post #: 75
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/24/2009 4:33:14 AM   
favesclava


Posts: 1608
Joined: 2/15/2007
Status: offline 		My father was a great guy who took care of his and provided no matter what. Master is Daddy not my father. it always saddens me to know other girls did not have the opportunity to know the deep love a lil girl has for her father. i cant imagine life without such experience.

_____________________________

weird is relative not an absolute term. Baron Frank N. Furter
Resident jingly dancing girl
The Pookie Of Darkness
Okay? Ready? Fine .Here's my hand. We are going now. I know the way. All you have to do is hold on tight ... and believe.SK

(in reply to mstrslve4fun)
Profile   Post #: 76
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/24/2009 10:59:15 AM   
Missokyst


Posts: 6041
Joined: 9/9/2006
Status: offline 		my dad was an alcoholic but otherwise an ok man. Calling an S.O., daddy, beast, the ass, honey, sir, or master is no different from using any other name or pet name. People that do not "get that" are placing their own prejudices about a name or role that have nothing to do with what another might be comfortable doing. It frankly makes me smirk to hear people calling their mate master, but I don't get my panties in a bunch about it. It does not make me uncomfy, or feel that they are wrong for using those terms.

If I want to call a man sir, or daddy why would it matter to anyone else? If Marilyn Monroe was comfy in saying it.. if Eartha Kitt was good with singing it.. If women for generations did not blink twice when calling their husband daddy, while he called her momma, and did so for non kink reasons, why would anyone decide their own view is correct?

Makes no sense to me at all. And it also makes me wonder what kind of pet name they assign to their own S.O.

(in reply to favesclava)
Profile   Post #: 77
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/24/2009 11:55:48 AM   
breatheasone


Posts: 4004
Joined: 7/14/2007
Status: offline 		Well said Missokyst!

_____________________________

Romans 10:13,For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
Mike posts in black font
candy posts in pink font

(in reply to Missokyst)
Profile   Post #: 78
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/25/2009 7:51:55 AM   
Aynne88


Posts: 3873
Joined: 8/29/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

my dad was an alcoholic but otherwise an ok man. Calling an S.O., daddy, beast, the ass, honey, sir, or master is no different from using any other name or pet name. People that do not "get that" are placing their own prejudices about a name or role that have nothing to do with what another might be comfortable doing. It frankly makes me smirk to hear people calling their mate master, but I don't get my panties in a bunch about it. It does not make me uncomfy, or feel that they are wrong for using those terms.

If I want to call a man sir, or daddy why would it matter to anyone else? If Marilyn Monroe was comfy in saying it.. if Eartha Kitt was good with singing it.. If women for generations did not blink twice when calling their husband daddy, while he called her momma, and did so for non kink reasons, why would anyone decide their own view is correct?

Makes no sense to me at all. And it also makes me wonder what kind of pet name they assign to their own S.O.


Yep exactly. It isn't some big deep dark ageplay incest play thing 99% of the time I am willing to bet. Women have been calling their men Daddy for ages, Vanilla or otherwise. It's just another term of endearment and your post summed it up very well..














_____________________________

As long as people will shed the blood of innocent creatures there can be no peace, no liberty, no harmony between people. Slaughter and justice cannot dwell together.
—Isaac Bashevis Singer, writer and Nobel laureate (1902–1991)



(in reply to Missokyst)
Profile   Post #: 79
RE: Why "daddy"? - 12/25/2009 3:44:18 PM   
rockspider


Posts: 633
Joined: 9/26/2009
Status: offline 		Apart from the idea of Daddy dom/s relationship is one thing i would love to pursue i would find the word daddy being used out of place. It stems from that there really only one who i have all those daddy feelings for in my life and i sure love it when she say it. But then i have similar feelings for the word Master. It just don't ring right in my ears. Master in my english world is something only other people can call you. Using the word as part of your title i find pompous to say the least. In my danish culture it really screews up using that title. It can be used in quite a few context. One is that it is a synonyme for "champion". Another is in the trades, where it denotes the owner of the bussiness. It is often used as a derogative too for somebody who should have known better and certainly has no right to call him/herself for master.

(in reply to Aynne88)
Profile   Post #: 80
Page:   <<   < prev  1 2 3 [4]
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Why "daddy"? Page: <<   < prev  1 2 3 [4]
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.094