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Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 6:51:04 AM   
Joediaf


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Status: offline 		Im new to this web site and just looking for a strategy for getting desired responses from subs.

My previous experience in messaging women on the internet usually requires that I beat around the bush.  ie  How are you doing?  Do you like zombie movies?  Do you like nature?  Do you like my little gay dog?  etc etc

Should I be asking these questions or do I need to change them up?  Do I need to just order girls to come over and get assfucked in their first message instead?
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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 7:04:44 AM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Perhaps you should ask one of the girls you already have.  They know you better than we do and would probably give you better advice.  

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 7:08:39 AM   
tazzygirl


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Status: offline 		Well, since assfucking is really what you want these women for, honesty is always the best policy. Would quickly weed alot alot of potentials.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 7:09:14 AM   
Joediaf


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Status: offline 		Ive only been on the site a few minutes and have not gotten any replies yet obviously.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 7:10:54 AM   
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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 7:11:43 AM   
EbonyWood


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Status: offline 		That 'beating around the bush' has really beefed you up.
 
Seriously, there are so many things wrong with your attitude that people below me can take care of it, if anyone is bothered.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 7:12:29 AM   
sirsholly


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quote:

Do I need to just order girls to come over and get assfucked in their first message instead?
oh absolutely....a big bad he-man of a dom should never have to bother his silly ass with niceties and *gasp* treating subs as if they were human!!!




And btw...let us know how it works for you


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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 7:12:36 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		The type of approach you take should depend on what you want.  You want a relationship, find out about them as a person.  You want a quick assfuck, ask them if they like anal.

Peppermint, I didn't see anything in his post or profile that indicates that he has a woman.


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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 7:16:24 AM   
sunshinemiss


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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 7:16:38 AM   
sirsholly


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Joediaf

Ive only been on the site a few minutes and have not gotten any replies yet obviously.


Pssssstttt....maybe cause you posted the BEFORE pic in the Charles Atlas Bodybuilding thing.......


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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 7:18:40 AM   
CarrieO


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Status: offline 		OP,

Your profile isn't that bad...except for all the "expert" stuff which I tend to find rather unappealing.  Have you given some thought as to why you're here and what it is you're actually looking for?  If you're looking for a girl who digs anal and that's all that matters...be honest and accept the responses you'll get.

If you're looking for more of a relationship and want to be taken serious, I would suggest you act accordingly.  Messaging a stranger to ask if they'd care for a good ass-fucking is sure to get a response...maybe not the one you were hoping for.

Have a look at this http://www.collarchat.com/m_2130537/tm.htm  and see what doesn't go over well.

Manners and common sense will take you far in life, regardless of the venue.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 7:21:41 AM   
Phoenixpower


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Status: offline 		well, if anyone writes me with around the bush stuff such as "what is the most exciting experience in your life" or "what movies do you like" I am not bothered to reply...as after all, I am not in general here for chit chat...if I want chit chat I go on the message boards or call a friend...therefore I ignore such emails.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 7:34:04 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		Have you considered adding something like that in your profile?

"just looking for a cheap fuck"


That way when you do send out emails asking for what you want, people can pass or accept knowing what they are there for.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 8:26:43 AM   
justagirlinzh


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Joediaf

Ive only been on the site a few minutes and have not gotten any replies yet obviously.

-shocked-

I can't imagine why not. And you should definitely 'order' girls to visit you for an ass-fucking, immediately. In general, women hate things like intelligent conversation, being treated with respect, and getting to know you chit-chat. Especially submissive women.

Gosh, I hope this helps.

Seriously, just put in your profile that you're only looking for a fuck.

< Message edited by justagirlinzh -- 11/22/2009 8:28:58 AM >

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 8:29:58 AM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		be honest with yourself as well as those that you want to contact you.dind local events near you and meet folks in real time as well

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 8:32:44 AM   
Joediaf


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Status: offline 		Its worth mention that Im flexible in what I am after.  Ive never complained about getting laid.  I'd like a s/o but Im not worried about it finding somebody tommorrow.

I have not even finished my profile and I appreciate the feedback that wasn't just an insult.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 8:40:11 AM   
Drifa


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Status: offline 		Women are women no matter whether they are kinky. A lot of us are after relationships and not the famous "zipless fuck".

As a submissive, I have to totally trust the dominant... so there's no "hi, let's have anal sex" followed by a motel room. I'd want to talk and get comfortable with the person, meet in a neutral spot, and have a chance to develop that trust before any BDSM play ever occurred, or sex.

I like anal sex and impact play, but I wouldn't pick a dominant based on them telling me they'll give me these items. What's important is not the hour or two sex or play is happening, but the much longer time when the dominant is, well dominating! How are you going to get inside the sub's head? How will you provide the structure, rules and safety many of us long for? What exactly will you require from a prospective sub?

Frankly, any woman can get sex any time we want it, depending on how picky we insist on being about the "who". What's hard to find is a dominant who can actually dominate in a SSC way.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 10:41:16 AM   
AnimusRex


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Status: offline 		To the OP

It is one of life's more cruel truths that the girls who are eager to be ordered to come over to our house for a quick ass-fuck are so scarce as to be nonexistent.
This is the heavy burden we men must carry. It is the acceptance of this cold terrible truth that gives us our sober gravitas, the steely gimlet eyed visage experienced Ass-Fuck Questers have.

At some point a man's epic quest to an Ass-Fuck leads through the dark and dangerous territory of Conversation, which demands he master the art of speaking, and listening both, and engaging in the epic struggle of "a Relationship"; it involves learning such skills as having dinner, learning to use utensils, blowing one's nose in a tissue, instead of one's sleeve.

Along the journey, he encounters pitfalls such as the dreaded "Keeping Your Eyes Off Other Girls At A Restaurant", or "Not Hitting On Her Roommate", and diabolical riddles such as "Do these jeans make my butt look bigger than it used to?"- the wrong answer leads to a night of wanking alone.

Some men have been forced to sit through a showing of "Sex and The City", in their pursuit of the Ass-Fuck; others have had to shower and brush their teeth, and avoid farting for an entire evening. Even if he can fart the alphabet.

Yes, it is a difficult quest. It is not for the faint hearted, or the weak willed.

Man up, my friend. The Pursuit of the Golden Ass awaits.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 10:48:09 AM   
EbonyWood


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AnimusRex

The Pursuit of the Golden Ass awaits.


I'm reliably informed this is the next Indiana Jones instalment.
 
Maybe the OP should take his date to Indiana Jones and the Pursuit of the Golden Ass to get her 'in the mood'.
 
You dont have to converse during a flick.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 11:41:19 AM   
CalifChick


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Joediaf
My previous experience in messaging women on the internet usually requires that I beat around the bush.  ie  How are you doing?  Do you like zombie movies?  Do you like nature?  Do you like my little gay dog?  etc etc  Should I be asking these questions or do I need to change them up?  Do I need to just order girls to come over and get assfucked in their first message instead?


If you sent me a message that had those sorts of questions I wouldn't even bother to look at your profile, let alone respond.  There is nothing in it to indicate that you even looked at my profile, let alone read it, or read a single journal entry.  It looks as if you copied and pasted the same message to any girl that you took a fancy to, or heck, any girl that popped up on your page.

The thing that gets my attention every single time is the opening sentence.  Does it start with, "You're bent over and laughing in your main profile picture, does that mean the spanking hadn't started yet?", or "that's a beautiful beach, where was that?"... or does it say "hi, how are you today. my name is XXXXX and I'm into blah and blah and blah... tell me about yourself."

I think you can probably guess which opening statements would get a response, and which would get the whole mail ignored.

A profile tip... keep the "expert" designation on the martial arts, and kill it on all the rest.  You don't have to indicate an experience level, and it reads better if you don't.  I don't actually think your profile is that bad... you're funny and don't take yourself too seriously, but spellcheck would help you.  Although the statement "BDSM chose me, I didn't choose it" would be enough to make me pass you by.  It makes me think you're a dabbler, and that's not what I want.  It may, however, be what you want, and what other girls want.

Cali


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