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RE: Training one self - 11/28/2009 1:26:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: getuwet216

. I realize i was being selfish in focusing on my needs instead of making myself better and learning to provide for the needs of my eventual Mistress.

I would appreciate all the insights and continued guidance i can get.

wow..if this is so YOU ALREADY show several GOOD qualities

1) you did not have a shit fit about comments=strength and insight
2) you strive to grow

WHEN you meet a potential Mistress it is good to know what you bring to HER life and yours..as in any relationship..

FOR ME...what occurs is this..
DOES this man want to enhance my life..make it better..??
not because I am a D but me and sees ME..the woman.

Do I want to mix and meld his desires and my STYLE..
Are we compatible?
What commonalities do we share..?
THEN
KINK

gets in there..as ICING ON THE CAKE

** if you want a kink partner or play partner that is fine as well ( your choice) but you need to be CLEAR on that..

GM
and a name telling what you are about would be good

< Message edited by GYPSYMAMBO -- 11/28/2009 1:28:54 PM >

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RE: Training one self - 11/28/2009 2:14:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: getuwet216

Greetings to all Dommes and everyone,

I have been a curious submissive for a long time in search for a Domme. Unfortuntely, most I have run into are professionals or simply after my bank account number.

After spending a long time searching for a Goddess i can worship, i have decided to take matters into my own hands and gotten some toys (mostly plugs) to train myself with.

My question is, do Dommes prefer innocent submissives to train, or would they rather take on someone with some experience? Also, how can i further myself to become an attractive commodity in this competitive world and find a Goddess to worship?

- slave mark.

While training yourself to be more valuable to a dominant is fine, but how does using plugs help her? You need to do things that show you are more concerned about her, than yourself? Learn how to be a good domestic, a good cook, give good massages, feet rubs, learn home repair, auto mechanics, etc, get the point?

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RE: Training one self - 11/28/2009 2:23:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Biggest rule of finding and connecting with a (non pro) femdom is that it's the same as courting a vanilla girlfriend. Chemistry, mutual attraction, relationship comes first for women, in general. The rest follows. No quick fix or fast track.

Akasha

I've started to believe that him saying "I can't find a woman who doesn't want my money" really means "I'm too pathetic to attract the RIGHT woman for me and have zero interest in doing anything about it besides whining." Maybe I'm being harsh, but if he can't manage the brain power to come up with the idea of self improvement himself, that really is pathetic.

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RE: Training one self - 11/29/2009 2:38:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Personally I prefer subs that have not done so much self experimentation that the woman ultimately is just another accessory. It's so much more special and erotic if a man submits to me, not the toys.

I'd also suggest a better screenname that is not overtly sexual, but that's just me.

Biggest rule of finding and connecting with a (non pro) femdom is that it's the same as courting a vanilla girlfriend. Chemistry, mutual attraction, relationship comes first for women, in general. The rest follows. No quick fix or fast track.

Akasha

I agree with Akasha, no surprise there! I would however say that I agree with the following statement as well:

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ORIGINAL: Miyani

Training is great. I love a man who comes to Me having already made some effort to improve himself. But, if dilating his asshole is what he thought I'd find valuable, I'd be showing him the door.

For me, the big one would be honing your gentlemen skills, understanding exactly what it means to be chivalrous. Also, general advancing of education is important for me. Didn't finish your degree, go get it. Take course, read a book, become more worldly, increase your conversational topics, etc.

As you see, each woman has different expectations, so you won't suit each. Which is totally normal. So just be yourself in your personal improvement and you'll shine and catch the eye of the woman that is right for you.

- LA

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