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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

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ORIGINAL: slaveana

There are many self proclaimed slaves , she sees many on CM and other websites, claiming to be submissive and slave but making demands of their needs, their wants and all about them them them but never asking how they can be of service, what they can learn to be a better submissive or slave.
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You must remember that all slaves/subs who are seeking are seeking someone who will meet their needs, wants and desires. If that were not the case, they would consent to serve the first person that approached them and said they were a "master" or a "dominant." That physical and emotional compatibility needs to be present for it to work. No two M/s relationships are identical because people aren't identical. It is obvious from your posts that you are of the Gorean style. Imagine then being approached by a master who did not share that belief. Regardless of his being a master, you would be incompatible and you would likely CHOOSE not to serve him.

When seeking out a relationship, everyone needs to find someone that for whatever reason will fufill their needs. If the Gorean lifestyle didn't fufill your needs, you would not do it. In a sense, when you were searching you "demanded" to find a master who shared your beliefs in the Gorean lifestyle. A master who did not share this belief would not be fufilling to you. Likewise, someone who identifies as a slave but is seeking to have a loving, intimate relationship with the master they choose to serve has every right to state up front what their "demands," "desires," "needs," and "wants" are. Once in a relationship, if the master and slave have chosen wisely, certainly their life will consist at least partially of seeking out ways to best please their master. It may seem less so because the two started out with enough compatibility that it doesn't need to be a conscious thought.

No matter how you look at things, all slaves have these "demands." When you really look closely, simply having the desire to be someone's slave is really all about you. After all, having that desire, you wouldn't accept a relationship that didn't encompass that dynamic. Isn't it a wonderful thing that you were free to choose to be who you are? Even the level to which you serve is still your choice. Imagine if someone else decided for you whether you would be a slave or even a master, with you having no voice in the matter. Your needs wouldn't matter at all, and consequently, you would have a life that wasn't fufilling for you.

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Do You have to be physically attracted to your slave?

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Do you have to be physically attracted to your slave?

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If a Master is not physically attracted to His slave, can there be other attractions that sustain the relationship?absolutely Can you live without that kind of intimacy?absoluetly What if He wishes not to use you but doesnt allow you to be used , does that need to be important to a slave? yes  Basically, does it matter if a slave has needs or wants?a slaves needs are the responsibility of its master. wants are of little concern.