LafayetteLady
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery
i just wouldnt be a slave to a married Woman or to someone who at least has a partner and You need a partner to create children in the first place,
At what point did the OP ever indicate that this woman was married? As for needing a partner to creat children....You have heard of divorce? Artificial insemination?
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery
to come into a relationship and be a slave to a married Woman or partnered Woman already, ..... it is not my business to interfere in an already set up relationship and i would think i would be interfering,
Again, what has led you to believe there is another relationship?
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery
it also i think gives kids the wrong message, they have one Daddy , one Mammy, and ok people do do work around the house but the idea that someone comes in and works for nothing and that Mammy is a slave owner which is the direct message, no i dont think its right,
Since when do small children know that much about the finances of the family? How would they ever develop the idea that "mammy" was a slave owner or that work was done for free?
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery
Im all for helping other people. Just wait till the kids grow up or are old enough to understand meaning maybe 14 and above. Kids around that age are probably into at least meeting up with girls/boys etc and they will get to know what its about. Kids below that age no, im sorry but kids do know when something is strange and how do you for example explain to five or six year old that their Mammy gets jobs done for free. Kids talk too and what do you say to a kid who for example finds out that his Mammy gets things done for free and his friends Mammy gets things done but pays for it. Its just too messy. What if the kid notices that the strange man has bruises on his back or is wearing something funny. They will begin to put two and two together. Im sorry but it could even be construed as child abuse your exposing kids to kink when they are not ready for it, not to mention the fact that kids need stability, at best they might think they have two daddies and then wonder why other kids dont have two daddies. No its just too complicated, it wouldnt work, too risky
Kevin
Do you live under a rock? People get divorced and remarried all the time, which results in children having "two daddies." Even then the fact is that a child who has an "involved" daddy has only one daddy. Mommies and daddies who are divorced have "special friends" all the time. It isn't child abuse, it isn't sending the wrong message, and it isn't all that complicated.
By your theory, women who find themselves suddenly the single parent of small children should not even consider dating or finding someone to love until the children are grown and that's just plain ridiculous. I'm all for people not being comfortable entering into a relationship with someone who has children. It is their right to have their preference and quite honestly, if I didn't have a child of my own, I probably wouldn't want to be involved with someone who did. But to imply that one who has children should forego looking for, meeting, getting involved with anyone, kinky or not until the children are grown is just ludicrous. Yes, children need a stable environment. They also need their parents to be happy and to have their own interests. The worst children I have ever seen (behavior wise) are the children of those parents who put their lives completely on the back burner and focus solely on their children. Yes, we need to make adjustments for our children, and in most cases, the kids needs come first. But they don't come first when mommy or daddy has to work and can't play "room parent" or go on a class trip, or any of the multitude of other things where there needs to be a realistic balance.
As parents, we want to be the best parents that we can be, but it is very unhealthy to have no interests or activities outside of being parents. And let's not forget, if children are so wise to all the "weird" things that parents do (and believe me, 7 and under would find sex VERY weird, no matter how it was done), why do we have couples with multiple children? No one would even think to say that those parents were remiss in their parental duties, even if they got pregnant during the little one's nap time.
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