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RE: Respect - 12/8/2009 1:36:25 AM   
Hawkwindblues


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ORIGINAL: kasiani

Thank You for that... i set up my profile expressing explicitely what i like or don't like..and that's its purpose... if people do not like my profile, its simple... don't message me...it also states i do not want to receive messages from people that could be my sons or daughters and that i do not answer them. i wonder which part is so hard to understand...


Kasiani,

would you please stop and breathe. Have you by any chance thought about, that people on here writing messages to you that are not sexual or s/m oriented?

How can you be so discriminating, that you close everybody out, who is not in your age group?
Are there no younger people in your offline life?
I understand your anger and rage, but i do not understand stubborness.

Collarme is one of the rare places where people over and under all the borders, frontiers and trenches meet and communicate.

Maybe there is even a 51 year old dominant male on here, who has all you dream of at the moment, although he could be your *very early* son.

However, welcome to the boards and i like your blues (colours-picture).

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RE: LafayetteLady - 12/8/2009 1:41:33 AM   
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Thank You for the general intrest but if for nothing else my post achieved what i wanted to achieve... to inspire thought about the subject...


The only thing it inspires me to think is that it is no surprise that there is an age divide when people react the way you have - with rudeness and condecension based on the age of someone.
Age doesn't mean you are young and pretty.  I was plain and boring.  I can dig that.  You are simply perpetuating myths.

I don't get angry, insulted or upset at immaturity.  And sometimes, someone who is 66 can exhibit everything they object to.

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RE: LafayetteLady - 12/8/2009 1:57:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		Perpetuating myths can be great, if you are working on preservation of traditions. For example would some years ago the young irish not have started to learn gaelic if there had not been the reality and the myths of the Irish tribe. The language as an active one was in the process of dying, before that turnaround.

Dead of languages it so cruel and avoidable.

Excuse the digression.

You got mail.

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RE: LafayetteLady - 12/8/2009 2:36:07 AM   
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I carried the torch for someone else... it was not my quote...it was a quote i found when he messaged me...the quote is pittyful and just demonstrated the hurt inflicted by some younger folks on this website.

Where do I start here... Did this person ask you to carry some "torch"? Did you ask him for permission to post his journal entry? I don't know too many Doms who would be happy to have their words posted by someone else in this way, particularly when the person doing so uses words like "pitiful". Does he read the forums? If so, I suspect that you have just embarrassed the hell out of him.

BTW, someone else already said it, but the question was never answered...
... what ages are the girls this guy is interested in/ writing to?

Oh, and PPS: collarme and collarchat are not the same website.


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RE: LafayetteLady - 12/8/2009 3:00:07 AM   
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Oh, and PPS: collarme and collarchat are not the same website.


But they are a

tiny little bit

connected.

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RE: Respect - 12/8/2009 3:06:24 AM   
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RE: Respect - 12/8/2009 4:27:10 AM   
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The funny thing about life is that no matter how old or young you are, you're always sitting in a position to discriminate against someone else or be hurt by their putdowns. When you're young, older people can disparage your inexperience, and when you're old you can be overlooked and pushed aside. In betweeen, there is always someone older or younger than you are--so plenty of opportunities to fuss with others.

Every age has its pros and cons--and the transitions between younger and older can be anxious-making. Those big "0" birthdays! Whew you never know how you'll feel about them til they arrive.

Age is what you chose to make of it. Your age and everyone else's. You can ignore, celebrate, bemoan. We can't control the inevitability of time--it passes. We can control only how we chose to deal with time.

I like to remember how long recesses were as a child, how ten minutes seemed like so long and now a half hour passes and I can't remember what happened. It seemed like five minutes. I love it when my little footboy, who is the age of my son. says to me, "it can't be time to go home, I just got here, It's noon!" Then I have to I say " no.. it's already 3 o'clock. " We were both so happy together, we couldn't feel the time passing.

So does it matter how old anyone is--or is it more important how we spend that blessed time?

(Ms Millgrove turns up the volume on "All things Must Pass" by The Jesus and Mary Chain and does a little chair dancin'.)

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RE: Respect - 12/8/2009 4:31:15 AM   
wisdomtogive


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Status: offline 		I remember one cmail I got, when under oceanwynds. An internet user cmail and told me i wasn't submissive solely based on my s/n..oceanwynds. Made me laugh.

Respect to me is not something i expect through internet land.  I enjoy the boards and the cmails, but as a rule  i do not expect anyone to act a certain way. Expectations of how people should behave comes from insecurity. The need to control the masses to fit into someone's mind -set of what is right or wrong., is scary as all heck.

The ability to not take internet personas to heart is a great thing to learn. The alternative is to let internet screen names be the co-creator of your life, verses you doing it, 

Cmails from those i don't know are not subject to upset me. Name callers are a dime a dozen. Is it their fault or mine if i get my feelings hurt by a stranger who only email me 1x?

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RE: Respect - 12/8/2009 4:36:12 AM   
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RE: Respect - 12/8/2009 4:43:42 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ThatDamnedPanda

quote:

ORIGINAL: kasiani

this is for all the ones that don't say what age limit the want
and when I write to the they LOL and call me a moran and saying do young gal would want an old fart as me \


Is that even in English? You have to admit, there's a certain irony to someone bitching about being called a moron when they're too dumb to even spell the word.



The writing pattern is clearly not English--I'd bet it's not her first language, and while she may be a slave she's not slaving over her translation dictionary just to write a simple post on a messageboad. I'm all for that: it indicates she has her priorities straight, and keeps the trivial in its proper place.

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RE: Respect - 12/8/2009 4:50:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MissMasterwants

imo slaves shoudl not complain about being humiliated by superiors (whatever their age or yours!) We are not equal to slaves and reserve the right to be 'rude' to you.


I would have to disagree with that. I think unless a relationship or potential relationship has been agreed to, everyone should be treated with some sort of respect.

If someone messages me and they are rude from the beginning, I will not respond. They do not know me, know my likes or dislikes to assume that I can be treated in that manner right away.

But, to each their own

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RE: Respect - 12/8/2009 5:03:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MissMasterwants

imo slaves shoudl not complain about being humiliated by superiors (whatever their age or yours!) We are not equal to slaves and reserve the right to be 'rude' to you.



I am nubian muscles slave not yours and trust and belief that if YOU or anyone else send me a rude message you may get one on in return. I have not submitted to you or anyone else and am not in a dynamic where I have agreed to any kind of power exchange or play so who are you to me?

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RE: Respect - 12/8/2009 5:09:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		kasiani,
Who are you to dictate that someone has to respond to an email yet alone how they respond. Often times online words seem harsher than they are meant to be and can be easily misinterpreted. The reality is there are assholes in the world and simply b/c we reach a certain age doesn't mean we are blessed enough not to have to deal with them anymore.

I honestly found your op and following posts full of insults and generalizations. Ashame you don't see that you are no different than those you so strongly stand against.

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RE: Respect - 12/8/2009 5:16:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MissMasterwants

imo slaves shoudl not complain about being humiliated by superiors (whatever their age or yours!) We are not equal to slaves and reserve the right to be 'rude' to you.


Thank you for presenting your opinion. the nice thing about it is i don't consider a s/n being 'rude' and feeling they have the right to do as they please to slaves, who aren't theirs just another type of s/n persona. To me this speaks  loud and clear about the Dom's personality.  There is something wonderful about serving a Dom. who is not so insecure that they feel they have internet rights to humiliate as they please. Hopefully all ages can see this internet persona, mind you just an s/n, as someone not to be at awe with or intimidiated by such a s/n.  As of course, in my opinion.
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RE: Respect - 12/8/2009 5:17:25 AM   
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ORIGINAL: devilishpixie

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissMasterwants

imo slaves shoudl not complain about being humiliated by superiors (whatever their age or yours!) We are not equal to slaves and reserve the right to be 'rude' to you.



I am nubian muscles slave not yours and trust and belief that if YOU or anyone else send me a rude message you may get one on in return. I have not submitted to you or anyone else and am not in a dynamic where I have agreed to any kind of power exchange or play so who are you to me?


I suggest you pay heed to people like pixie & Elizabeth. Perhaps there is such a planet out there in this big universe of ours but for now us earthlings need to realize that this sort of shit is unacceptable.

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RE: Respect - 12/8/2009 5:20:47 AM   
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i dont condone rudeness atall, i think its completely unnecessary. if youve got nothing nice to say then say nothing atall is quite a good maxim on the whole. but i can fully imagine these young experimental women getting high levels of that sort of traffic and im sure it gets pretty 'tired' after a while.

it cuts both ways really.

i think that if youre old enough to be their grandfather then its starting to get a bit 'ick' to be honest.

but mostly i want to say that whilst this isnt all about sex it is about sexual orientation and prefferance. it is highly unlikely and i think completely unreasonable for a man of 66 whose virility may well be dwindling to expect a young woman to forgo generous quantites of jiggity jiggity (as someone so eloquently put it once). they are biologically primed to be horney most of the time.

it is possible to find an extremely attractive woman in her forties, fifties and sixties and in many ways his stance could be construed as being prejudiced toward older women.

and could this be the same man whose been complaining that submissives are aggressive and who brought up the topic of ED.

if he cant hack being shot down by the pretty girls who are probably out for some fun and frolics (and why the hell not) then he really ought to shoot at targets a little less likely to scorn him for being age innappropriate.

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RE: Respect - 12/8/2009 5:28:18 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MissMasterwants

imo slaves shoudl not complain about being humiliated by superiors (whatever their age or yours!) We are not equal to slaves and reserve the right to be 'rude' to you.


and hows that working for you so far

returning to the real world for a moment. respect cuts both ways. im not going to ever respect anyone who isnt capable of respecting others, whoever they are.

i turned down a prospective D once simply because his treatment of the waiter serving at our table was so diabolical i was truely ashamed to be sitting with him.

get over youreself and join the real world for five minutes.

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RE: LafayetteLady - 12/8/2009 5:30:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

quote:

I carried the torch for someone else... it was not my quote...it was a quote i found when he messaged me...the quote is pittyful and just demonstrated the hurt inflicted by some younger folks on this website.

Where do I start here... Did this person ask you to carry some "torch"? Did you ask him for permission to post his journal entry? I don't know too many Doms who would be happy to have their words posted by someone else in this way, particularly when the person doing so uses words like "pitiful". Does he read the forums? If so, I suspect that you have just embarrassed the hell out of him.

BTW, someone else already said it, but the question was never answered...
... what ages are the girls this guy is interested in/ writing to?

Oh, and PPS: collarme and collarchat are not the same website.



1. Regular posters get away with isolated short quotes from anonymous people's profile's or journals all the the time. But when a new poster does it we bash her to bits? Yes, in this age of the Almighty Google, it would have been wiser to paraphrase, but sheesh, she's a new poster, give her a break for not knowing all the fine points of forum ettiquite.

I've seen this guy's profile btw. The quoted piece that started this thread hurt him because it didn't provide one essential fact: He does make it perfectly clear in his journal that he's not approaching any woman who has an upper age restriction clearly stated in her profile. He has the right to approach whomever he wants as a partner, of course, as do we all, and he's being nicer than many of the "morans" who ignore clearly stated preferences.

PS: What part of

"Part of:
COLLARME.COM

do you not understand? ;)

(it's just in a big black box in the upper left corner of every message board screen except the "Reply to Message" window.)

I believe that visible little black box was put there precisely to let people know that, despite the differing URL, the forums are actually a part of Collarme. I also think the fact that "Mesage Boards" is the second entry on the personal ads page's main menu is suggesting something similar.

Sometimes software complications and business rules dictates the formality of establishing a new URL to house a part of a large website. Most websites I have been to that also use VB software for their forums use a different URL to house that messaging software--perhaps it makes it a lot easier to set up the forums if you do. Perhaps there aer (oopsie! I misspelled "are." I must be a moran, as opposed to someone who's not particularly anal retentive about writing?) sound buisness and legal reasons behind it as well. (If collarchat.com gets sued because of something one of the members irresponsibly posted, then possibly the entire personal-ad site doesn't also go down.) But to me, that annoucement in the upper-left "black box" is pretty definitive on the idea idea of "separate websites."

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RE: LafayetteLady - 12/8/2009 5:39:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		i always get this sort of 'politicallly correct' response when i post on here . Many people use this site who must have all shades of master/slave opinion. I just post what I think and have never believed in 'all people are equal' ideals . I find it strange that people who use a website like this can be so easily offended when I state some people are superior to others

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RE: LafayetteLady - 12/8/2009 5:42:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MissMasterwants

i always get this sort of 'politicallly correct' response when i post on here . Many people use this site who must have all shades of master/slave opinion. I just post what I think and have never believed in 'all people are equal' ideals . I find it strange that people who use a website like this can be so easily offended when I state some people are superior to others


I didn't take offense to what you said, I just don't agree with it. Everyone has their own ideals, and it just so happens some people don't agree with yours. Nor am I expecting you to agree with mine. But you should realize that posting a comment like you did would eventually result in some discussion.

But like I said, to each their own

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