• Constant growth.
  
• Constant development.
  
• To find her place and study to attain it.
  
• To develop an understanding of myself and Neets so as to be able to serve more completely.
  
• To be able to deal with Household aspects without my permission so that the house runs smoothly.
  
• To understand her place within House Iron Bear.
  
• A complete trust between us.
  
• Respect.
  

• Honesty
  
• Obedience
  
• Loyalty
  
• Courage (e.g the courage to talk to me about things which worry or frighten her.)
  
• Not to be nosey regarding my professional life and especially areas dealing with security
  

• Learn my needs (e.g. when I need coffee before speaking to me or after eating).
  
• Learn how to make my coffee.
  
• Understand the chores list and ask questions so she knows how, what and when things need to be done.
  
• Understand that I have flexible schedules and be ready for such changes.
  

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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

I'm mildly shocked, my dear blushes. You don't have chocolate chip cookies anywhere in your expectations. And here I have this whole freshly baked batch. Guess I'm not the Dominant for you then. Too bad for me.

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

My expectations of a dominant I would consider serving?

Honesty
Integrity
Humour
Flexibility
Openness
Strength
A heart that is open to possibilities

Oh...and...someone who would put up with me.

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

This has been one of those really entertaining reads, thank you Level for posting it.

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i was teasing. i completely agree with your answer. You made it so simple, however (which is a good thing) so i was kidding about it.

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I figured that out later in the thread. Blame my business correspondence instructor from 25 years ago, who beat it into my head that one should always use as few words as necessary to get one's point across.

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ORIGINAL: Level

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

My expectations of a dominant I would consider serving?

Honesty
Integrity
Humour
Flexibility
Openness
Strength
A heart that is open to possibilities

Oh...and...someone who would put up with me.

Flexibility in what regard?

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx


Flexibility in what regard?

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I expect a patient dominant, one who is willing to invest time and effort to explore the potential relationship.
I expect that we would discuss our philosophy of what D/s means to us individually in order to determine if we are a match.
I expect him to refrain from any attempts to dominate until I have agreed to submit.
I expect to build on a solid foundation of mutual interests and respect.
I expect that we would understand that the other may be flawed in various but workable ways.
I expect to have my questions answered, my thoughts and feelings heard.
I expect to provide the same in return.
I expect that we will both find joy in our respective roles as dominant and submissive to each other.
I expect that I will seldom, if ever, be bored.

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ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

shakes head you know Iron Bear i am just not the person you should really pick at. I sugest you start fixing the trees in your own forest before those skeltons come out. I spend most of my time making things happen for people good things. I am sure karma will guide you to the best conclusion of your life. its why i really just do not waist my time to argue with someone who for whatever lifes reason has been stomped on so much can not see reality for which it presents its self in the most pure form. you do not like my post fine i do not like the way you dom or the way you couch people to dom. you create more poison then good other wise it would show!!!.
and for those that are ready to jump on the band wagon i sugest you really look hard at long term facts verse short term fixes you might grow some shrugs. its only a website of words and concepts all for points of view. now Mr Bear sense you seem to have so much of what you one say a fuild way of speaking lets see your comment that would be more along the lines of what is been posted not my post of this site i am just being nice and saying it ends here after all the bdsm comunity is small you can look at it in two ways we can fight between our selves or we can watch as the world starts to rip whats left of a good thing apart choice is yours shrugs
either way its post of observation

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

An interesting question Level---I wrestle with the term "expectations" for at times I think they can be taken for granted--or taken to the extremes---IMHO, it is not all about the Dominant--there are two evolved beings involved with needs, wants, desires, hopes and dreams---based on that, I expect, reinforce and support:

Openness: to express freely what one is, seeks, desires
But I must provide the feeling of safety, security, and acceptance

Honesty: its never the easy things one has a challenge with about honesty--but the hard things
But I must demonstrate honesty for it is a two way street

Acceptance: I may not be the perfect Domme, but I am the perfect one for you
But I must inspire the air of acceptance, for what he is in all facets

Trust: The Circle of protection exists at all times
But I must reassure

For it is from these that all else begins to grow and develop.

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ORIGINAL: Honeycrisp