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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 7:41:28 PM   
InvisibleBlack


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Status: offline 		Sharing has never really even occurred to me. I have no interest in it.

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 7:41:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		i feel confident i can answer this for Him  Yes He would like to, but hasn't yet.

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 7:41:48 PM   
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Did it once.  I made it clear that they were to play but sex was out.  A week later, she left me for him.  Sharing won't happen again.

Damn, that's sick. I imagine you were REALLY hurt and betrayed. Sorry.
Hopefully at some point you'll realize it wasn't sharing that betrayed you, but the girl and the guy. I'm not saying you should try it with someone else someday, but holding a grudge against the act itself isn't the way to go either.



NormalOutside, that is just about the most perfect response I can imagine. Wow.

DarkSteven, that just totally sucks.

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 7:49:22 PM   
tsatske


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I do think that some Master's like to do this in a kind of verbal, shared fantasy way, as a submission test. In other words, asking, 'would you do this for me?' and playing around verbally with the fantasy, but never doing it, if that makes sense.
As a spin off, online, a lot of Master's like to ask this as the same sort of test. But it is very differant, to me. An owner I am devoted to dipping into 'would you do this for me' verbal fantasy play, rather it is this or any number of other things, is HOT, to me, and some of my favorite play. OTOH, a total stranger playing the same game online, just makes me

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 9:30:14 PM   
sweetsub1957


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Status: offline 		Lots of good answers from everyone.  :)  Thank you one and all.    I am finding out just what people really think, and that is what I wanted. 

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RE: Sharing - 12/15/2009 11:02:13 PM   
Malkinius


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Status: offline 		Greetings sweetsub....

Yes, I have allowed my slaves to have sex with other people while I have owned them. Unlike most respondents so far, I don't have fear or jealousy issues. The situation has been important as to why I have allowed it. I do say allowed because it is usually the slave who begs for it rather than my requiring it of her. Who m I to object if a slave begs to have sex with her future husband. <grins> Or her future owner for that matter. Sex with perfect strangers is a different matter. I have limits when it comes to the safety of my slaves, especially when dealing with sex. I will note that they are my limits, not theirs.

Yes, if I commanded one of my slaves to go serve someone sexually I would expect them to give the best sexual performance they are capable of.

Be well....

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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 1:18:29 AM   
ranja


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Status: offline 		Sharing another person with somebody is not as easy as sharing a bag of sweets
it is not like anybody will have many opportunities to go about sharing people with others on such a regular basis... the situation and all the players have to be just right...

i think quite a number of men like to share their sub with another woman... so in effect they like themselves to be shared

i think considerably less men like to share their woman with another man...
even when the opportunity is perfect... (chickens)

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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 1:35:16 AM   
Elizabeth666


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Status: offline 		I was talking to Sir about something like this the other day. A friend (male sub) sees a Domme and She mentioned that She would be interested in having me join them for a session with him as the whore (He is a cross-dresser) I told him I would have to ask Sir.

Sir said it was fine, that He doesn't want me to miss out on any experiences, which is fine, but to quote Him, His rule (thank god) was "No other penis in Char"

So, as far as sharing goes, I think it's a big "No" from Him. Which is totally fine with me :D

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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 2:26:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957

I'm curious, How many of You Masters/Doms share Your slaves/submissives with others sexually?  I mean, outside of a poly household.  I've been told it's common, but I'm wondering how common?  Thank You for any and all input.  :)


I see nothing wrong with it, and its the slave's place to serve as she's told.

That said, I don't share. Get your own girl. I'm neither jealous nor worried; I just don't see the need to spread the wealth.

Displayed or used in front of others, a different story, perhaps. But the girl belongs at my feet, not others.

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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 2:49:41 AM   
elleX


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Status: offline 		IT has happened to me more than once,  there was no penetration and no kissing ,,and never been left alone with the other man,, i know it please Him a lot .,, the next comming step for me will be with a women,, that will be the first time,, and He is working on it ,,,

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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 7:23:42 AM   
sweetsub1957


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Status: offline 		Thank you for all your answers.  I was curious as to how everyone feels on this subject. 

Recently a Dom & I started writing and everything was clicking, even up to the point where He said (if we got together as a couple) He would share me with A trusted friend.  Then, He changed it to "a few friends."  I could see where this was going & we'd not entered into a dynamic, so I said "NO," to which He replied it was very common. 

And then, what's really funny is, His so-called trusted friend decided He wanted me all to Himself.  The friend had been told He & I already entered into a dynamic (we had not), but the friend proceeded to try & poach me.  Not very trustworthy, heh?  I told them both they need to have a long talk with EACH OTHER about trust and what they both really want, and with that I got the hell outta there.

~edited to add~
No, it was not funny what His friend did to him, trying to poach.  What was funny, to me anyway, was that this One's willy nilly sharing policy was coming back to bite Him in the ass.

< Message edited by sweetsub1957 -- 12/16/2009 7:29:42 AM >

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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 7:32:38 AM   
VirginPotty


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Status: offline 		He has shared me once & I have shared him once.....just for shit's & giggles.
He could give a rat's a$$ about it either way. If it happens great, if not great.

**Eta, I must admit that I love watching him in action**

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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 7:58:25 AM   
lucylucy


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Status: offline 		At the very beginning when our D/s stuff was exclusively about sex, I told my boyfriend that since he works on the other side of the state and we’re apart Monday – Thursday or Friday, it was fine with me if he had someone out there to have sex with. I’ve always had open relationships, not by design—that’s just how it’s worked out. I am very comfortable sharing and see sex and love as separate (although as I said in another thread--http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=2943502—for me they are definitely best together).

He didn’t find anyone for several months and by the time he did, our relationship was very D/s in every way. For me, submission absolutely precludes being with someone else unless it’s at my boyfriend’s command. He has a relationship now with another woman. I’ve met her and like her. It’s complicated in ways I hadn’t anticipated, but (mostly) not in a bad way. When I said he could be with others, I was thinking of something focused on sex, but their relationship has become more than that, which I knew could happen and my boyfriend and I have talked a lot about, so I never feel like anything is going on behind my back.

It’s not clear to any of us where things are going, but my boyfriend and I are ok with that. Admittedly, the other woman is not so ok with that and would like to have him all to herself, but she knew about me from the beginning and, I think, allowed herself to believe that there must be problems between us if he was out looking for someone else. She’s vanilla, for what it’s worth. My boyfriend and I have talked about how her wanting to be exclusive will probably explode at some point. Yeah, I could lose him. I don’t think I will, but it’s a possibility. Like I said, I’ve always had open relationships and I’ve lived with the possibility of losing my partner to someone else before.

I was shared once and very minimally. My boyfriend and I were at a club and he had me give a blow job to someone else. The fact that I was doing it at his command made it very hot, but if it hadn’t been for that, I wouldn’t have particularly enjoyed it. My boyfriend loved it and that’s enough for me.


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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 7:59:32 AM   
persephonee


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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957

Thank you for all your answers.  I was curious as to how everyone feels on this subject. 

Recently a Dom & I started writing and everything was clicking, even up to the point where He said (if we got together as a couple) He would share me with A trusted friend.  Then, He changed it to "a few friends."  I could see where this was going & we'd not entered into a dynamic, so I said "NO," to which He replied it was very common. 

And then, what's really funny is, His so-called trusted friend decided He wanted me all to Himself.  The friend had been told He & I already entered into a dynamic (we had not), but the friend proceeded to try & poach me.  Not very trustworthy, heh?  I told them both they need to have a long talk with EACH OTHER about trust and what they both really want, and with that I got the hell outta there.

~edited to add~
No, it was not funny what His friend did to him, trying to poach.  What was funny, to me anyway, was that this One's willy nilly sharing policy was coming back to bite Him in the ass.


And....*that* kind of shit is exactly what fucks up a perfectly good pile.

A while back, within my fairly large circle of mutual friends, there was a lot of casual (safer) sexual play....some within relationships, so it counted as sharing...but all in all, there was a lotta hookin up going on and at the end of the day (or night)...everyone pretty much had the same rules or similar...so no harm no foul...everybody played and was happy with it....no one tried anything sneaky...no one imagined a more involved relationship than was actually there....it was pretty great.

i assumed that this must be the case pretty much anywhere i would go in the future.

i was dead wrong.

im S.O.L. for being in that sort of environment, unless Master decides to take me back there at some point. Which is fine with me, but a slight disappointment as well.

As for sharing now, i simply cant get a handle on the level of closed-mindedness and/or deceit currently and i would not rock the boat im on for all the tea in China. Currently all plans are on perma-hold. Neither here nor there, really...i have memories of a simpler time...happy current situation....and the future can not be told.

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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 8:00:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		I do not share and never will. I am strictly one on one and sharing has never and will never hold any interest for me. If someone even suggests it, I am out of there.

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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 8:29:15 AM   
breatheasone


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I do not share and never will. I am strictly one on one and sharing has never and will never hold any interest for me. If someone even suggests it, I am out of there.

i feel the same but, i didn't leave when it was brought up, i stayed. Master says when i am ready....i may never BE ready. Had i left though, i would have missed out on being with my Master all this time.....


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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 8:40:53 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Musicmystery


quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957

I'm curious, How many of You Masters/Doms share Your slaves/submissives with others sexually?  I mean, outside of a poly household.  I've been told it's common, but I'm wondering how common?  Thank You for any and all input.  :)




I see nothing wrong with it, and its the slave's place to serve as she's told.

That said, I don't share. Get your own girl. I'm neither jealous nor worried; I just don't see the need to spread the wealth.

Displayed or used in front of others, a different story, perhaps. But the girl belongs at my feet, not others.


Hi Tim,
You made a post once about this a long time ago that really stuck with me.  It made me laugh but really got to the heart of the matter.  You said:

I don't even share my books.

Have a great day.
sunshine

< Message edited by sunshinemiss -- 12/16/2009 9:28:15 AM >

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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 8:43:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: elleX

IT has happened to me more than once,  there was no penetration and no kissing ,,and never been left alone with the other man,, i know it please Him a lot .,, the next comming step for me will be with a women,, that will be the first time,, and He is working on it ,,,

my heart goes out to you....i hope you are doing ok.


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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 9:36:59 AM   
Aanakaris


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Status: offline 		I do not share. Partly the health issue, but mostly I am a monogamous sort. Don't mind a little participatory play at a party or similar circumstance, but no sex. I don't do poly either. Monogamy is not just a piece of wood to me.




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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 11:31:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957

I'm curious, How many of You Masters/Doms share Your slaves/submissives with others sexually?  I mean, outside of a poly household.  I've been told it's common, but I'm wondering how common?  Thank You for any and all input.  :)


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