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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 6:15:32 PM

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Outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend.
Inside of a dog, it's too dark to read.

--Groucho Marx

you made me laugh with this one ...I love books tooo. Wendy

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 6:17:36 PM

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Ive learned alot from you all here ...thank you for responding to sweetsub...

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 6:31:48 PM

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Outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend.
Inside of a dog, it's too dark to read.

--Groucho Marx

Greetings Master Tim,

Love this quote! This girl also treasures her books and absolutely hates to see mistreated books. There's nothing like roaming through an old used bookstore.

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I like them both at hand, ready for use.

These two quotes make this girl picture you with a husky on one side of you, a naked slave kneeling on the other side and a book in your hands

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 6:42:51 PM

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These two quotes make this girl picture you with a husky on one side of you, a naked slave kneeling on the other side and a book in your hands

Exactly so. Now you're getting it!

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 6:45:28 PM

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I consider being shared sexually just another name for swinging...if you are into swinging, then being "shared" is the name you give it.

Greetings subangi,

I don't think swinging and sharing are necessarily the same. I think of swingers as people who are both making the choice to have multiple partners. In a dynamic with a slave it can be many things, depending on what form that slavery takes. As far as the type of slavery in which I am held, I am a slave and I serve. A Master may decide to share for many reasons. It could be that he simply enjoys watching, and he can't watch if he's the one doing. It might be that he feels a slave can better understand her slavery if she serves others. It might not be sexual necessarily, or it might. It could also be that he recognizes something about her which can be brought out and deepened by such service. Perhaps she is drawn to serving men and he wants her to know it and realize it is not only because of him that she is a slave but because of what she is. There can be lots of reasons, and not all are just wanting to swing. And particularly from a slave standpoint... she may have no wish of her own for it, she simply obeys. That said, it is not something I have experienced.

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RE: Sharing - 12/18/2009 12:53:46 AM

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I'm curious, How many of You Masters/Doms share Your slaves/submissives with others sexually? I mean, outside of a poly household. I've been told it's common, but I'm wondering how common? Thank You for any and all input. :)

Eh... define sexually. We've only recently become poly and I've scened and made out with others from day one. To a certain extent that is the way I am and he took it as part of the package and it never bothered him. I never had sex with anyone till we became poly and he allowed it.

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For all the talk I hear from some Doms Who I've written to, saying it's so common, it sure doesn't sound like it on this thread so far. Hmmmm.

It's common enough in certain circles I'd say. But I'd be willing to bet that at least of fourth of it is internet bravado.

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No, it was not funny what His friend did to him, trying to poach. What was funny, to me anyway, was that this One's willy nilly sharing policy was coming back to bite Him in the ass.

See I don't really see that as the policy biting him in the ass. Val can share me till the cows come home and people can try to steal me till they turn blue in the face. I'm not going anywhere. That's just a lousy friend and - if the friend managed to "steal" the guy's girl - a disloyal girl.

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Think he'll stay with you and support you when you have AIDS caught from another guy?
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So what happens when your good buddy doesn't use condoms, does violate her and your hard limits? She's broken and you are at fault. How do you fix that?

Little harsh there. Valyraen and I have discussed that I might contact an STD many times. I fully believe that he will stand by me and be there for me should I contract something and, if it's not fatal, he'll continue to screw me and accept that he might get it as well.

We are still very careful but indulging in this behavior in a careful fashion, isn't any different than just having a lot of sex as unowned person. Slap a condom on it and use your best judgement on who you fuck.

Shadow's friend might break her and she might get raped walking to her car from a store late at night. As for how to fix it... care and support. Valyraen has stroked my hair and murmured soft words after break-ups and bad encounters. It doesn't sound like Shadow is being careless with her, despite his casual manner of speaking.

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RE: Sharing - 12/18/2009 1:59:24 AM

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For me sharing is off the menu since MH is possessive of me...
me fucking around is a total hard limit for Him and that is why i am faithful, i love the man... and i do not want to fuck up my marriage
It is in my nature however to enjoy fucking around and i surely would if allowed... i share all my books and if i had a bike i would share that too...
I would share MH too, but only sexual... if He would choose someone other than me to be His best friend i would walk... i will never serve my Man as a secondary person that is my hard limit.

Sometimes situations occur that might be extremely hot if you go with the flow... if you just float with the current and go where it leads...
i am the sort of person who likes to abandon herself and i am naturally curious and open to adventure and so i have been in sharing situations, and i am glad i was because they are very special memories...

once i shared a man with my best girlfriend... just for fun... we picked him up in a bar, he was very funny and he was by himself... so we shared him... it was great... a very nice memory for all three of us i am sure

and once i was shared by two men... that time it was me who got picked up... and i floated along in a very dangerous river and i suppose it was totally unsafe but ah well... in for a penny in for a pound... i still wank off on that night on occasion... god it was hot... slavering bogeyed sort of steaming...

there have been other opportunities that i did not take for various reasons... and i am sure i have missed out on some occasions... ah well, you can't have it all...

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RE: Sharing - 12/18/2009 6:03:18 AM

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For me it is casual, its no big deal...just one more hospitality offered in my Home to those who have earned the right to be there.

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RE: Sharing - 12/18/2009 6:08:05 AM

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For me it is casual, its no big deal...just one more hospitality offered in my Home to those who have earned the right to be there.

I meant the somewhat flippant way you were discussing it - which is I think what was causing the issue. I understand it being casual. It's relatively casual for us as well. He doesn't offer me out cause he doesn't feel like telling me to have sex with someone I might not want to on my own but he doesn't care if another guy and I go at it. Different houses, different policies.

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RE: Sharing - 12/18/2009 4:50:09 PM

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I agree with Anna. Swinging and sharing are different, at least to Sir and I. Our motivations are different than those who swing. I do as He wishes... I have no desire to have sex with others, but I LOVE to please my Sir and when He has wanted me to be with others, I have obliged.

As for jealousy, Sir knows Himself, and jealousy has never been an issue for Him. I belong to Him, and we both know it.

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RE: Sharing - 12/23/2009 3:11:11 PM

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Thanks to all who have posted. so many crazies, fakers, etc on this site, reading what sounds like sane answers from real people keeps me believing it's not all just a bunch of nuts on here.

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RE: Sharing - 12/23/2009 3:25:25 PM

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i have in the past and would in the future

i see her as my property and as property it's my right to share my property with others

i'm just sick and disgusting like that

p.s. i don't keep that a secret in the meeting stage

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RE: Sharing - 12/23/2009 5:06:47 PM

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Intellectually I suppose I can understand it.

But it's not for me. whats mine is mine and only mine.

Thanks for asking!

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RE: Sharing - 12/24/2009 12:31:58 AM

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You're very welcome.

I think that whatever the policy is, it needs to be known up front and agreed on. It's when things change in mid-stream that it becomes a big hot-button issue.

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RE: Sharing - 12/24/2009 5:27:56 AM

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i know from my Master's standpoint, His sharing of me is a way of me showing my devotion and willingness to do whatever He says. It is also part of the degradation factor in our relationship.

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RE: Sharing - 12/24/2009 11:26:34 AM

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Interestingly, I've never met or talked with a submissive who was actually into being shared with another Dominant. I had a couple tell me it would be my "right" to have another girl or to have other men or women play with them. None of those prospects went anywhere because I'm not into it.

My submissive love and I are totally monogamous in play and lovemaking, and we intend to keep it that way!

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RE: Sharing - 12/24/2009 12:08:06 PM

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For all the talk I hear from some Doms Who I've written to, saying it's so common, it sure doesn't sound like it on this thread so far. Hmmmm.

and some may not want to admit it

and those that do may not want to admit it

either way i'm not surprised at the ratio

i don't think it's really representative

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RE: Sharing - 12/25/2009 6:08:25 PM

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i have been shared in the past and i did not enjoy it.

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RE: Sharing - 12/25/2009 6:11:49 PM

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i have been shared in the past and i did not enjoy it.

and your enjoying it is important why?

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RE: Sharing - 12/25/2009 6:17:01 PM

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I am in the "get your own girl" camp.

I can't see any upside to another guy's scent being on my girl.

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