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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 11:46:12 AM   
sweetsub1957


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I'm curious, How many of You Masters/Doms share Your slaves/submissives with others sexually?  I mean, outside of a poly household.  I've been told it's common, but I'm wondering how common?  Thank You for any and all input.  :)


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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 12:06:18 PM   
HisSweetElysium


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Status: offline 		Well we have not actually done it, but we have discussed it. Master and I are both bisexual, Him more than myself, and He has expressed a desire to see both of us at different times enjoy that aspect of ourselves, mostly in the others presence.  I'm very much okay with that, I know there are things that, as a soft, cuddly little woman, I can never be, like a hard bodied male with a nice cock, LOL.  And that's perfectly fine, He doesn't want a relationship with that, just the visceral experience.  I want all of His needs and desires to be fulfilled, and this is one I cannot do myself, so I am okay with it. 

For myself, I am 110% content with Him. I have no desire for another, male or female.  If He orders it, I will do it.  He has expressed having an interest in seeing me play with another man (no sex though) He very much enjoys seeing other men desire me and that feeling is an extension.

So basically, yes, we are willing to "share" each other but only with same sex partners. He has said, as long as He knows about it and I have asked permission, that I am allowed to play with women without Him there, but as I said, I don't want that, He would have to directly order me to do so.


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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 7:51:19 PM   
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That said, I don't share. Get your own girl. I'm neither jealous nor worried; I just don't see the need to spread the wealth.

Displayed or used in front of others, a different story, perhaps. But the girl belongs at my feet, not others.
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I really like this part of what was said...thanks for sharing...I am learning alot on this thread...

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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 8:13:06 PM   
WendyMorning


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Status: offline 		I am new and dont ask many questions ...this is a thought/question that has come to mind refering to this sharing topic...I have a friend who has met a sub and her Dom/Husband....  they have expressed playing with her and knowing her...of course they have met on collarme. It makes me wonder about this sharing.  If this couple is willing to put this out there....how many times have they included others. So this wouldnt be a safe situation? Of course I have advised her to ask more questions....but she assures me that this sub adores her Dom  and he looks out for her...hmmmm  'Confused'. This has taught me to listen and talk more about boundaries etc...and to be sure...  any comments??

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RE: Sharing - 12/16/2009 8:32:32 PM   
hisdarlinsweetie


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Status: offline 		My Sir has shared me... He has always been present.  He knows I belong to Him (no jealousy) and enjoys watching me please on His command. 

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 3:39:31 AM   
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"I meant to say that theres a little something I find intriging about you servicing someone while being present and in charge of the scene.
theres a big difference between you 'wanting' some other particular guy, that leads to a bit of jelousy
but if you submit your will to service some other guy at my command, then how the hell could I or anyone hold that against you"
 
From His lips.......lol
 
I don't know if I would though. Sure I want and will do what I can to please Him, but I don't think I could do that

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 3:40:45 AM   
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This is something I posted a few months ago about being *shared, or given to*........so rather than type it up again I've re-posted it. In both cases M was present and I've underlined an important part.



"I've been *given* to other dominant males but it wasn't out of an idea predominantly from either of us. The notion of me being given to someone else, in certain circumstances, has never been abhorrant to either of us, though the circumstances don't arise very often and it's not something we actively seek out.

One instance was unsatisfactory for the *visitor*, because he actually wanted the *control AND devotion*. He wanted me to want HIM in the same way I want M and although it was made perfectly clear that that wouldn't happen, he had (in hindsight) still held onto the thought that it would be *different* with him. Of course , it wasn't. He'd had all the information, had paid lip-service to it and went away feeling slightly miffed that he hadn't been able to elicit the same degree of slavish devotion that M has. He couldn't undertand that I'd obey him because that was what M had decreed.......he wanted me to WANT to obey him for the same reasons that I obey M. Unrealistic.

With the second *visitor* It was very much that the visitor was a *second in command* , in that the ultimate responsiblity and authority remained with M. Everyone knew that beforehand,  and the dom didn't expect to have ultimate control of me. It was always clear that he had as much *control* as he'd been given by M and there was never any confusion about how things *stood*.
He didn't expect me to obey him, for HIM alone , but understood that I obeyed because M had said I must. He went away perfectly happy and also with an attitude of gratitude for having been invited to be part of something where he got to experience things he wouldn't have otherwise.

To sum it up......it was all about expectations and being able to be honest about them. "

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 10:41:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957
I'm curious, How many of You Masters/Doms share Your slaves/submissives with others sexually?  I mean, outside of a poly household.  I've been told it's common, but I'm wondering how common?  Thank You for any and all input.  :)

I see nothing wrong with it, and its the slave's place to serve as she's told.

That said, I don't share. Get your own girl. I'm neither jealous nor worried; I just don't see the need to spread the wealth.

Displayed or used in front of others, a different story, perhaps. But the girl belongs at my feet, not others.

Hi Tim,

You made a post once about this a long time ago that really stuck with me.  It made me laugh but really got to the heart of the matter.  You said:

I don't even share my books.

Have a great day.
sunshine


Hi sunshine,

I like them both at hand, ready for use.


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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 11:07:28 AM   
GabrielleSlave


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Status: offline 		Master orders and i obey. It is not something that i would want or seek out for myself; Master is all i could ever want or need. However, it pleases Him to see me serve Him by serving others. It is never out of His presence and so i always feel His eyes on me and i want to make Him proud of His slave. i have to say that i am naturally monogamous, however at heart i am also a wanton slut *grins* and so this is a way of Him enabling me in a safe way to be who i really am. i never feel guilty because He has ordered me to do whatever it is...and so i am never unfaithful either, which soothes my sometimes quietly nagging soul...

Oh forgot to mention that He has only shared me with other Men up to this point. i know He wants me to serve other females, but i am straight and so He is taking this one very very slowly. He thinks i am nearly ready and so the next time another female is introduced in play, He wants me to help. Wwe are not poly, but Wwe do both enjoy the different dynamic that others can bring.

gabrielle x

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 11:16:38 AM   
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I see nothing wrong with it, and its the slave's place to serve as she's told.

That said, I don't share. Get your own girl. I'm neither jealous nor worried; I just don't see the need to spread the wealth.

Displayed or used in front of others, a different story, perhaps. But the girl belongs at my feet, not others.

Hi Tim,

You made a post once about this a long time ago that really stuck with me.  It made me laugh but really got to the heart of the matter.  You said:

I don't even share my books.

Have a great day.
sunshine


Hi sunshine,

I like them both at hand, ready for use.




Not sharing BOOKS?!

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 11:29:40 AM   
Musicmystery


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Not sharing BOOKS?!

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I liberally share links.

Because of what I do, I can't afford to go "Where is that? Oh yeah....I leant that to Joe four months ago..."

When I really want a book in a friend's hands, I just send them a used copy from Amazon.

They're still on their own regarding the girls.



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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 11:30:30 AM   
LordShadow


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Status: offline 		Sharing happens in my Home...you open her up and bring out the slut...how can you not share a good thing? lol


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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 11:43:56 AM   
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Sharing happens in my Home...you open her up and bring out the slut...how can you not share a good thing? lol



I don't know... my toothbrush is a good thing, but I don't share it with anybody . Nor do I let strangers dip into my plate in restaurants  . Some things are personal; and relationships are the most personal things out there (I speak for myself, of course - I wouldn't dare disparage people who are more charitably minded). I'm his, he's mine, we're not anyone else's, we're not bikes that can be borrowed for a ride, and that thought alone makes me go all gooey inside, because it's fucking hot :-) .



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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 12:09:47 PM   
LordShadow


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Status: offline 		Loan out my bike????? Have you lost your mind??? ROFLMAO

Seriously, while the relationship does exist, the primary dynamic is Mastery/slavery...she is property to be bought/sold, rented, traded...she pleases Men, it is in her nature...there are rules in place for safety and security...but, again, she is built to please Men, and she does it very well.

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 12:17:44 PM   
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"I meant to say that theres a little something I find intriging about you servicing someone while being present and in charge of the scene.
theres a big difference between you 'wanting' some other particular guy, that leads to a bit of jelousy
but if you submit your will to service some other guy at my command, then how the hell could I or anyone hold that against you"
 


Unfortunately it is all too common that even when she services the other guy because he thinks he wants it, afterwards he is angry and jealous. At which point she's risked her life and health and the relationship fails anyway.

Since as we all know, condoms don't protect against everything even assuming you are using them and correctly, and dental dams and female condoms if the guy wants to go down on you. And most of the time people don't use all these things. They play Russian Roulette instead. Think he'll stay with you and support you when you have AIDS caught from another guy?

Oh ans Shadow, if you really value her as much less than a $10,000 motorcycle, I hope you've been honest about that. Some of us are considered above a Lamborghini. He wouldn't lend anyone a car of that value, and he sure won't risk me being broken by a bad driver. So what happens when your good buddy doesn't use condoms, does violate her and your hard limits? She's broken and you are at fault. How do you fix that?

< Message edited by DesFIP -- 12/17/2009 12:21:22 PM >

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 12:22:06 PM   
LordShadow


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Status: offline 		Can't speak for all...but I would, its part of the responsibility for owning a slave...

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 12:44:14 PM   
LordShadow


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Status: offline 		First, the dollar amount is insignificant...in their cash values she worth far more than the bike. But, would you buy a Lambourghini and leave it locked in the garage never to be driven or seen because someone might steal or otherwise damage it?

Second the bike is NEVER shared...and the slave is shared with those whom I know well and trust implicitly...as far as her being harmed, in reality anything is possible, but, I have several precautions in place to prevent bad things from happening...but then you could get hit by a car while walking across the street...you take precautions to lessen the risk, but the possibility is always there...same with her use...

It comes down to risk analysis...what is best...should I keep her sheltered and deny her the purpose in the name of safety...or should I take all precautions necessary and allow her to serve that heart felt purpose? I choose the latter...

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 1:24:03 PM   
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Not sharing BOOKS?!

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I liberally share links.

Because of what I do, I can't afford to go "Where is that? Oh yeah....I leant that to Joe four months ago..."

When I really want a book in a friend's hands, I just send them a used copy from Amazon.

They're still on their own regarding the girls.





Books are the best of things, well used; abused, the worst.~~~Emerson

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 2:58:24 PM   
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Inside of a dog, it's too dark to read.

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RE: Sharing - 12/17/2009 3:52:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Manly yes, but I like books too.



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