RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons

RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive

Message

osf -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/21/2009 8:27:40 AM)
my term is New Age Dominance and Submission , its a derisive term its engaged in by weekend kinksters most munch attendees and the timid

sunshinemiss -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/21/2009 8:41:22 AM)
Hello osf, Repeating my question of earlier... You said: for doms its a different process but no less time consuming maybe even more time consuming I imagine that in the "sensitive new age guy" society we live in, learning to strip off those diplomatic, play nice attitudes is part of what a D type has to handle. But really... we all go through that. Could you perhaps talk a bit about the process from that side of things? best, sunshine

GotSteel -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/21/2009 9:13:02 AM)
osf, get some professional help.

osf -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/21/2009 10:05:35 AM)
there are professional slaves?

osf -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/21/2009 10:14:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss Hello osf, Repeating my question of earlier... You said: for doms its a different process but no less time consuming maybe even more time consuming I imagine that in the "sensitive new age guy" society we live in, learning to strip off those diplomatic, play nice attitudes is part of what a D type has to handle. But really... we all go through that. Could you perhaps talk a bit about the process from that side of things? best, sunshine my process was finding out there was a name for my feelings and finding out there were others then messing up a few relationships trying to figure it out lots of introspection and analyzing doms are pretty much on their own getting this right or as right as the can for themselves, its not exactly a skill that can be learned like driving a car, no one can teach you to be a do i differentiate things like say dungeon play and that innate knowledge and confidence that subbies respond to long term ok here's where i get beat on subbies can have an easier time of it if the hook up with an appropriate dom early on

osf -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/21/2009 11:23:32 AM)
i've updated my profile so now you all will love me even less

LadyPact -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/21/2009 11:25:36 AM)
Why would you think that you had so much importance that your profile was of any interest to the masses?

osf -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/21/2009 11:29:56 AM)
i cant win, criticized for lack of profile now criticized for having one lololol

LadyPact -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/21/2009 11:39:33 AM)
I didn't criticize you. I asked you why you thought people cared.

osf -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/21/2009 11:42:58 AM)
why does anyone care about anyone's profile? perhaps to find someone compatible?? just a guess

EbonyWood -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/21/2009 11:43:08 AM)
Why the fuck do you care what anyone thinks of your profile?. Why do so many fakeass weak pussy minded so called Dominants on this site give such a shit about what people think of them. Is my profile ok? Am I doing this right? Pwease read my profile and reassure me. Mommy never gave me any attention. Bunch of latent bottoms. Overinflated egos who think they are causing worldwide controversy with every utterance and yet no confidence that their profile can attract exactly the type of woman they love to hate. Pathetic.

LadyPact -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/21/2009 2:04:54 PM)
Ex-fukin-zactly, Ebony! OP, you might be interested in this quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact This is a question that keeps coming to Me over and over from reading the boards here. It could be that I'm missing something, and I'm hoping My fellow D folks can help Me out. See, I have a little confusion on this matter because I tend to believe that I think differently than many people out there. As I assess My situation, I understand that I am the person in authority in a power dynamic. I happen to think it's a rather successful one. Not perfect by any means, but it's working for Me and it's working for My boy. To Me, logically, that means that in the past two and a half years since the beginnings of this dynamic formed, since the final authority rested with Me regarding decisions, minimally, I must have at least gotten some of it right. If I hadn't, I doubt that this dynamic would have formed and continued to exist. This doesn't mean that I've never had a question about it or solicited advice. I absolutely have in those times that I thought I could gain more information or hear different perspectives. Once obtained, I use it to help Me base decisions that I had the original question on. Then, if no new information is presented to Me, I make My final decision, and move along. Until such time as things change, that is how things will be done. In other words, that's it. The committee is over. Often, I have written things on these boards that have not been popular opinion. When I've been in the minority, I've simply shrugged My shoulders and said that's how things work around here for whatever it is and those who disagree with My opinion aren't involved in this dynamic, so it makes the point moot. That goes from everything to rituals, to writing style, to any other thing. It ain't broke, so your (general) opinion on it doesn't matter a lot to Me. I see this as being rational. So, My question in turn to other Dominants is, why do you care about such things when it comes to your own world? What does it matter to you if someone has a different opinion than you when it concerns your dynamic? Why do the opinions of so many random strangers have such an impact?

osf -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/21/2009 2:14:38 PM)
and this pertains to what i said, how?

osf -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/21/2009 2:17:57 PM)
i mostly agree

akirauke -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (2/24/2010 7:08:27 PM)
All I can say right now is... LOL Ignorence is your new best friend matey! also, thought I'd point this out "MotherFUCKER is not a safeword"- what if it was? That'd be just icing on the cake, or as we Irish say Caca Milis! I actually like the MotherFucker. It'd be a great safeword... I just laugh everytime I see it now. excuse me... i'm a wee bit hyper at 3am...

sleepingbeauty2 -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (2/24/2010 7:20:04 PM)
seems to me you are not really interested in what you post, you just do it to get a reaction.

winterlight -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (2/24/2010 8:44:34 PM)
[sm=lol.gif] at Drifa and Lafayette...

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (2/24/2010 9:31:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf #1 show up #2 shut the fuck up #3 do as your told If that is all it takes to be a slave, I could do this pretty easily. No hardship, reallly. I've always had excellent attendance. If I say I'm going to be there, I almost alway follow through. I'm a pretty quiet and reserved person in my day to day dealings. In fact, I'm often pressed to be more talkative, because I'm usually off in my own little world created by my words or painting. I'll often go days without saying much of anything to anyone, unless spoken to. And, growing up as a daughter of an officer in the Air Force, doing as I'm told comes easy. So, where was the disconnect between my doing what comes naturally for me, and sucking at being a collared slave and failing at what wasn't natural to me? The forumla is basic, but it seems to miss out on the one simple thing that is missing in the equation. How to be a slave.....well, it helps to actually BE a slave, with a slaves heart and mind and desire to be owned and property. I don't know. I really don't. I don't really claim to have a solid grasp of what drives a slave - it just seems to me that you can do all three of the things described in the original post, and not ever really touch upon the heart and soul of what a slave is.

xxblushesxx -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (2/24/2010 9:43:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: akirauke All I can say right now is... LOL Ignorence is your new best friend matey! also, thought I'd point this out "MotherFUCKER is not a safeword"- what if it was? That'd be just icing on the cake, or as we Irish say Caca Milis! I actually like the MotherFucker. It'd be a great safeword... I just laugh everytime I see it now. excuse me... i'm a wee bit hyper at 3am... Sweetie, Ya shoulda let this thread die the slow agonizing death it was destined for. It's already cold...why try to revive it? You can see it's not happy here... Just... Let. It. Go....

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (2/24/2010 9:53:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx Sweetie, Ya shoulda let this thread die the slow agonizing death it was destined for. It's already cold...why try to revive it? You can see it's not happy here... Just... Let. It. Go.... but...but ...but...maybe akiauke, like me, just now saw the post, so it was new for us!

Page: << < prev 7 8 [9] 10 11 next > >>

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.046875