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Lucienne -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/19/2009 12:30:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff

Ian Mackaye manages to do it


He manages to do a lot of things others can't pull off. Aiming for outlier in every segment of your life isn't exactly a recipe for success.

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Im sorely tempted to say something smartassed like "ok, mom"[:D]

Not smart ass at all. That's what you're supposed to say! And do!

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That was then. Nowadays, the drummers Ive met couldent even bother showing up for practice... when it was at theyre own damn house!


From my perspective, things haven't changed. Even with the younger musicians I know (25 and under). It could be that's the way it is in your community, but I'm still skeptical. Sounds like you've at least had some bad luck. It's not that hard to find a drummer who will at least show up for practice

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Hey if she can run a double bass as good as a guy can, Im all for her being behind the kit. That being said though, I dont date bandmates. thats too close to incest for me



Incest, eh? Have you ever had a female band mate?




Lockit -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/19/2009 12:36:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff

All I hear is be patient.
Im sick of being patient.
Im sick of dumbing myself down so I dont make anyone else feel threatened.
Im sick of using tact with idiots instead of honesty.
Im sick of betraying myself to find acceptance, wich never comes anyway.
Im sick of being the dumping ground for everyone, then nobody bothers to listen to me when I have a problem
Im sick of every single day. looking at a bottle of pills, or a gun, and wondering if I should just fucking end it all

The faces change, but the bullshit remains the same. Everyone here knows its the truth.


I know that there are a number of people, biting their tongue out there... but I don't happen to like tongue bites. I have tempered myself and not responded to this thread but see no reason to do so now after your outburst.

Geoff, what has changed? From two years ago... what has changed? You are still the impatient, angry young man I saw back then and if all else fails... talk about guns, alcohol and ending it all. Call the shots in life if you like... play the blues and don't accept accountablity for your own stuck place... but get us to cry with you and baby you... not happenin. Because some are not speaking up.. only means they don't want to go down the past path with you, again.

I doesn't matter what you want if you are unable to actually do what you want well and angry, blaming and excusing yourself isn't a real ready place.



QueenRah -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/19/2009 3:52:17 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Lucienne





(young ladies, you don't know horny until you're ovulating in your thirties!).



forties. heh-heh



QueenRah -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/19/2009 4:09:20 PM)

Geoff, if you aren't seeking an older woman, that's understandable, but not all 30-plusers are beyond the desire to breed nor beyond fertility. In fact, women in their mid-40s tend to experience increased fertility (It's the last ten yards of the baby-making dash!)

I never took the opportunity to have children, because they didn't fit into my lifestyle. I would consider having a child only if my male partner were to be the primary care giver. Maybe that would be something to consider.

And, as banal as you may find this observation - 22 is only the beginning! You have a long, interesting life ahead of you. Enjoy the ride.



angelikaJ -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/19/2009 4:34:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff

All I hear is be patient.
Im sick of being patient.
Im sick of dumbing myself down so I dont make anyone else feel threatened.
Im sick of using tact with idiots instead of honesty.
Im sick of betraying myself to find acceptance, wich never comes anyway.
Im sick of being the dumping ground for everyone, then nobody bothers to listen to me when I have a problem
Im sick of every single day. looking at a bottle of pills, or a gun, and wondering if I should just fucking end it all

The faces change, but the bullshit remains the same. Everyone here knows its the truth.


Geoff,
If you are brilliant then be brilliant.

What you are unable to see in the above post is that you are blaming other people for your discontent.
And seriously, what do you have to offer anyone if you are considering suicide everyday.
I am not writing this as any kind of attack; Geoff, before you can be right for anyone else you have to be right with you.
And a relationship is not going to fix your world.

I wish you well.



youngsubgeoff -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/19/2009 8:52:27 PM)

Heres the thing. I dont want advice. I want someone to listen and at least try to understand how I feel. Seems like I dont even deserve that though, from the backhanded bullshit Ive received here.



eihwaz -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/19/2009 9:21:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff

All I hear is be patient.
Im sick of being patient.
Im sick of dumbing myself down so I dont make anyone else feel threatened.
Im sick of using tact with idiots instead of honesty.
Im sick of betraying myself to find acceptance, wich never comes anyway.
Im sick of being the dumping ground for everyone, then nobody bothers to listen to me when I have a problem
Im sick of every single day. looking at a bottle of pills, or a gun, and wondering if I should just fucking end it all

The faces change, but the bullshit remains the same. Everyone here knows its the truth.

That's a quite toxic mantra!  Whether you know it or not, you exude that toxicity and people sense it.  If you want to attract that great relationship you seek, you will have to change that internal posture.

I wish you the best!




Lockit -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/19/2009 9:24:03 PM)

You had people who listened to you. I still have copies of it all. What did you do with that?



EbonyWood -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/19/2009 10:11:16 PM)

1. Tortured brilliant musician comes to message board for solace. (NOT advice- no, no no)
 
2. Inspired by responses he composes and releases a world wide Number 1 album (without selling out and sacrificing his integrity - roll with me here.)
 
3. Discovers that hot 35 year old female session drummer is a perfect companion for his sexual and emotional lifestyle. 
 
4. Returns to message board in gratitude and distributes newly acquired wealth with everyone who posted on his thread.
 
5. Writes best selling memoir at age 65 and is thankful that at age 22 he ceased his anxiety about things he cannot change in the world and realised that ambitions not acted upon are just fantasy.



youngsubgeoff -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/20/2009 5:49:32 AM)

or just deletes his profile and walks away due to cunts like lockit, who has the personality of a wet cat.



EbonyWood -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/20/2009 7:01:06 AM)

Or that.
 
Gonna be a punk album then.



SomethingCatchy -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/20/2009 8:25:18 AM)

The fact is, a lot of 20 somethings don't know what they want out of life. A lot of them focus on college, and then a career, and a lot of them don't settle on one career because their maturity level changes. This is something you are going to have to be extremely patient with, keep your mind and heart open, and your eyes clear. Work on communication (we all need to keep our skills sharp), work on self improvement in areas that interest you, and maybe even think about seeing a counselor. They aren't just for crazy people, they help you grow as a person regardless if you have specific problems or not. If you want D/s, marriage, and children, the best thing you can do is work on yourself in order to be the best sub, husband, and father you can be. You'll be so busy with making yourself awesome that when you stumble on that woman you want, you'll have so much to offer that she'd be a fool to pass you up.



SomethingCatchy -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/20/2009 8:31:25 AM)

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ORIGINAL: eihwaz

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ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff

All I hear is be patient.
Im sick of being patient.
Im sick of dumbing myself down so I dont make anyone else feel threatened.
Im sick of using tact with idiots instead of honesty.
Im sick of betraying myself to find acceptance, wich never comes anyway.
Im sick of being the dumping ground for everyone, then nobody bothers to listen to me when I have a problem
Im sick of every single day. looking at a bottle of pills, or a gun, and wondering if I should just fucking end it all

The faces change, but the bullshit remains the same. Everyone here knows its the truth.

That's a quite toxic mantra!  Whether you know it or not, you exude that toxicity and people sense it.  If you want to attract that great relationship you seek, you will have to change that internal posture.

I wish you the best!




I didn't see this before I posted above, but god damn. It seems like you're blaming everyone but your nasty attitude for your problems, and I can't blame anyone for steering clear of you. You obviously don't care what anyone thinks and just came here to blast at respected forum members and show your ass.

You aren't mature, you're acting like a typical 22 year old boy who can't get his way. Grow the fuck up and stop embarrassing us 20 somethings.



Lucienne -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/20/2009 9:01:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff

Heres the thing. I dont want advice. I want someone to listen and at least try to understand how I feel. Seems like I dont even deserve that though, from the backhanded bullshit Ive received here.


Recommendation: post here.

I think part of the problem here is that plenty of people understand how you feel, they just have sufficient perspective to understand that what you are feeling is melodramatic and self-indulgent. I get that you don't want to hear that. But if you don't want to hear that, you shouldn't be posting in a forum full of people who are significantly older than you. Because, um, you know, many of us know shit you don't. Been there. Seen it. Done it. Whatever. There's nothing unique or compelling about your situation. And there's no reason to believe that being overly sensitive or sympathetic to your concerns will help you in anyway.

You think you're being subjected to backhanded bullshit, but I share Lockit's sense that people are actually holding back on you. I know it would be pretty easy for me to tear you several new assholes, but I set that aside and tried to give you some pointers that might reach you inside your bubble. It didn't work. But I tried.

As for your harsh words directed at Lockit... that was certainly uncalled for. I won't take offense on her behalf, and I'm pretty sure she'll just laugh at you, but still... petulance does not draw sympathy.





Tantriqu -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/20/2009 9:06:06 AM)

From the OP, I was going to say something reassuring about all My pups being in their 20's and 30's, but Holy Cluster 'B', Batman!

Cluster B (dramatic, emotional or erratic disorders)
Antisocial personality disorder (DSM-IV code 301.7): a pervasive disregard for the law and the rights of others.
Borderline personality disorder (DSM-IV code 301.83): extreme "black and white" thinking, instability in relationships, self-image, identity and behavior.
Histrionic personality disorder (DSM-IV code 301.50): pervasive attention-seeking behavior including inappropriate sexual seductiveness and shallow or exaggerated emotions.
Narcissistic personality disorder (DSM-IV code 301.81): a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and a lack of empathy.



Lockit -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/20/2009 9:20:13 AM)

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ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff

or just deletes his profile and walks away due to cunts like lockit, who has the personality of a wet cat.


Typical geoff... when he isn't catered to and pampered/babied... he resorts to this type of thing. Good thing I consider the source. You missed your mark buddy.



lusciouslips19 -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/20/2009 9:27:42 AM)

The truth is, no one can change your life but you. You cant blame everything on others. There have been many here who have cared for you and cared about you in the past. I didnt see that care returned. Your life and thoughts dont exist is a vacuum. What you say and do can affect others. But taking responsibility for your own life and actions is very important in steps towards a happy life.

What I do know is that the emotional blackmail you have engaged in and the using of suicide threats as way to manipulate others into getting what you want ceased to work.

Calling people names like cunt, bitch etc does not get you what you want and calling yourself a submissive doesn't make it so. You do seem to be someone who's lost expecting Mistress Save a Shmoe to come rescue you. But its not going to happen and happiness will not be found until you take responsibility for your life and going about mustering the ambition to make that come about. Then you would be a happy man who draws people near. Or perhaps you will always find the manure and never recognize the flowers.

I say things things, not because I am a cunt. But because we who are a few years (ok, more than a few) older than you know the secret to being happy. Its not an outside job. You have to work on your own interior and the only saving that will happen is iff you save yourself. If you do end it all, as you have threatened numerous times for I think attention, It will be sad. It will be sad to see so much wasted potential and a kid who didnt have the guts to make the changes himself.

I wish you strength, i wish you peace, i wish you a clue and I wish you a spine.



diaperedbaby -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/20/2009 9:31:11 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Lockit

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ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff

or just deletes his profile and walks away due to cunts like lockit, who has the personality of a wet cat.


Typical geoff... when he isn't catered to and pampered/babied... he resorts to this type of thing. Good thing I consider the source. You missed your mark buddy.



Hey.........I like to be pampered and babied[:D] But seriously, this ray of sunshine geoff needs some prozac



EbonyWood -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/20/2009 9:41:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19


You do seem to be someone who's lost expecting Mistress Save a Shmoe to come rescue you. 


I bought her a drink in a bar once. She could knock em back.



LadyAngelika -> RE: Differences in what you want (12/20/2009 9:45:32 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Lockit

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ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff

or just deletes his profile and walks away due to cunts like lockit, who has the personality of a wet cat.


Typical geoff... when he isn't catered to and pampered/babied... he resorts to this type of thing. Good thing I consider the source. You missed your mark buddy.


Oh my. Now this might explain why he is alone!

Last time a man called me a cunt, I told him "Now that's Ms Cunt to you" ;-)

- LA



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