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Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 11:10:05 AM

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There have been a few threads just now exploring personality traits and emotions that correlate. I'd like to investigate in another way, similar to "Would You Rather" in an either/or choice.

Please answer the following in terms of your partner/preferences or for yourself within the partnership (or future partnership), as applies to each set. Please say if it’s about you or your other.

If you feel your dynamic or lifestyle or identity (D/s, etc.) relates to your feelings, please share that, if you’d like; let’s talk about it. If instead you feel like it would be the same regardless of orientation/relationship, then go with that.

I’m going black and white here and asking for a choice so that there can be discussion. Many may choose “somewhere in the middle” but if you are asked to choose only from this or that, it may prove edifying.

They are not necessary antonyms of one another; feel free to change it up. Add some too.
Don’t answer any you don’t want to. Duh.

Reticent or chatty

Micromanage or hands off

Zealous or wishy-washy

Too strict or too lax

Too bratty or too agreeable

Introverted or extroverted

Spontaneous or scheduled

Flirty or shy

Too moody or too chill

Intelligent or resourceful

Too competent or needy

Ritualistic or blasé

Too affectionate or too standoffish

Sophisticated or simple

Too emotional or unsympathetic

If you'd like to just focus on one or some that's cool. Thanks!

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 11:46:19 AM

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Uh...how about I go first?

These would be my preferences because I'm not in a relationship:

Reticent or chatty - chatty because I'm pretty reticent

Micromanage or hands off - probably I would tend toward desiring micromanagement because of what it can for headspace

Zealous or wishy-washy - zealous, even to just live vicariously with that

Too strict or too lax - too strict, but I would hope to not need it much

Too bratty or too agreeable - too agreeable. Don't dig fighting.

Introverted or extroverted - Similar to the chatty thing, I tend to be more introverted so it would be nice to yang that yin.

Spontaneous or scheduled - scheduled. I'm less spontaneous, but I don't want to yang that. (haha) It can stress me out.

Flirty or shy - flirty. We can't both be wallflowers!

Too moody or too chill - too chill. The moody was kind of exciting once...I'm over it.

Intelligent or resourceful - This is a really hard question. Probably resourceful.

Too competent or needy - Blech needy! Too competent for me.

Ritualistic or blasé - I like some ritual...probably that one.

Too affectionate or too standoffish - Too standoffish. I'm not great with affection. Sex, yes. Huggy, spoony, smoochy kissy face, not so much.

Sophisticated or simple - Sophisticated

Too emotional or unsympathetic - Probably too emotional. Bleed, heart!

See?

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 12:02:31 PM

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Reticent or chatty- chatty, i tend to be quiet

Micromanage or hands off- mircomanage..something that helps me

Zealous or wishy-washy- I get lost in wish-washy, not for me

Too strict or too lax-strict ..give me an inch and i get lost

Too bratty or too agreeable- i deplore brattiness

Introverted or extroverted- extroverted since i tend to be introverted

Spontaneous or scheduled- spontaneous is very good
Flirty or shy- shy, i am not one to be comfortable with someone flirty

Too moody or too chill- I have had both and both are okay, but i will go with chill only because i am moody, and 2 moody people at once is not good

Intelligent or resourceful -intelligence turns me on big time

Too competent or needy- competent..needy is a major turn off for me

Ritualistic or blasé ritualist for sure..am a ritual girl

Too affectionate or too standoffish -Sir is the first affectionate person i been with. Have to say I really like it, and didn't think I would.

Sophisticated or simple -simple..not one for airs, simple is good

Too emotional or unsympathetic - Hard one for me. overly emotional people drive me nuts but someone totally cut off from emotions like a robot is a turn off too. I like someone who basically is unsympathetic, but has another side not shown to many

If you'd like to just focus on one or some that's cool. Thanks!

~Subtee

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 12:31:46 PM

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Yay! Thank you, wisdomtogive.

We're very similar...do you think it's because we're "older" submissives?

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 12:41:37 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subtee

There have been a few threads just now exploring personality traits and emotions that correlate. I'd like to investigate in another way, similar to "Would You Rather" in an either/or choice.

Please answer the following in terms of your partner/preferences or for yourself within the partnership (or future partnership), as applies to each set. Please say if it’s about you or your other.

If you feel your dynamic or lifestyle or identity (D/s, etc.) relates to your feelings, please share that, if you’d like; let’s talk about it. If instead you feel like it would be the same regardless of orientation/relationship, then go with that.

I’m going black and white here and asking for a choice so that there can be discussion. Many may choose “somewhere in the middle” but if you are asked to choose only from this or that, it may prove edifying.

They are not necessary antonyms of one another; feel free to change it up. Add some too.
Don’t answer any you don’t want to. Duh.

Reticent or chatty

Micromanage or hands off

Zealous or wishy-washy

Too strict or too lax

Too bratty or too agreeable

Introverted or extroverted

Spontaneous or scheduled

Flirty or shy

Too moody or too chill

Intelligent or resourceful

Too competent or needy

Ritualistic or blasé

Too affectionate or too standoffish

Sophisticated or simple

Too emotional or unsympathetic

If you'd like to just focus on one or some that's cool. Thanks!

~Subtee

Definitely a balance...not a fan of extremes at all....

But......too simple....too affectionate......

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 12:43:30 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

Definitely a balance...not a fan of extremes at all....

But......too simple....too affectionate......

...what? Too simple...too affectionate...what? Too icky? Too hot?

[edited to fix the quotey things]

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 12:55:35 PM

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Oh you are welcome subtee

It was fun to write my comments:). Yes, I saw we are similar.and will be interesting to see other responses, to see if it is an age thing. Many times personally i do feel my age on here-old-. I think age does have a lot to add to personality. Figure i have almost 5 whole decades of living under my belt, plus add all that I have experienced-a lot.- this equals out a submissive woman who possesses different spices now then when I was younger.

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 1:14:48 PM

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I agree; my answers would have been very different even 10 years ago.

~creaky tee

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 1:20:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subtee

quote:

ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

Definitely a balance...not a fan of extremes at all....

But......too simple....too affectionate......

...what? Too simple...too affectionate...what? Too icky? Too hot?

[edited to fix the quotey things]

Yeah simple/affectionate.....down-to-earth....human......warm......bakes cakes...I dunno...what more do you want?

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 1:29:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

Yeah simple/affectionate.....down-to-earth....human......warm......bakes cakes...I dunno...what more do you want?

I wanted to know your tendencies (which is why the either/or) and your perspective of them as they relate to being a dominant...if they do. Like that.

People spend all kinds of time on here "pissing on each other"; I thought it might be cool if we tried to get to know each other too...along this pervert path.

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 1:35:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subtee
Reticent or chatty

Micromanage or hands off - definitely not micromanage - id get into way too much trouble lol - but hands off sounds too laconic - selective direction according to time, place and circs.

Zealous or wishy-washy - zealous when needed but not all of the time

Too strict or too lax - too strict

Too bratty or too agreeable - agreeable

Introverted or extroverted - extroverted

Spontaneous or scheduled - spontaneous

Flirty or shy - neither - reserved but friendly

Too moody or too chill - bit of both

Intelligent or resourceful - intelligent

Too competent or needy - competent

Ritualistic or blasé - neither - i dont get on with ritualistic but blase suggests laxical - id choose relaxed if it was there

Too affectionate or too standoffish - niether - sorry. id choose caring and affectionate but not 'too' affectionate that would be cloying

Sophisticated or simple - sophisticated

Too emotional or unsympathetic - emotional

If you'd like to just focus on one or some that's cool. Thanks!

~Subtee

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 1:43:18 PM

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Thank you, Lally. May I ask you, do you find you attract these qualities? Are there some you always attract or always find missing?

I agree with the affection, although I'm probably less adept. Some folks like cloying. Cloyers seem to find me. ~shudder~

I would have chosen intelligence over resourcefulness without hesitation until recently. With all the challenges lately, I've changed my mind.

Thanks for your time and thoughts

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 1:48:16 PM

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_i9uIsteakw

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 1:52:37 PM

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Geesh tee, you make it hard to follow Buddhist tendencies... sigh...

Reticent or chatty I want him to be interesting enough that chatty is good but introspective enough that reticent is part of his privacy and ability to manage things.

Micromanage or hands off Micromanage the things that I have a hard time with and teach me how to manage them. And hands off - especially with things I know a LOT about and he doesn't.

Zealous or wishy-washy Zealous. Passion is sexy.

Too strict or too lax Strict with a fair dose of understanding and ability to loosen up as things go along.

Too bratty or too agreeable I'm not sure these are opposites. I will say that "silly" is pretty well covered in my world. Agreeable is too.

Introverted or extroverted Extrovert. Enough that we can have a good time and enjoy other people together.

Spontaneous or scheduled Scheduled - I love the structure... but willing to go with spontaneous when something good comes along.

Flirty or shy Flirty... def. flirty. If you don't flirt with me, how can we talk?

Too moody or too chill Chill (not too chilled)

Intelligent or resourceful Resourceful is a major part of intelligence.

Too competent or needy Competent.

Ritualistic or blasé Ritualistic. I like the structure; it gives me a sense of calm.

Too affectionate or too standoffish No such thing as too affectionate. Standoffish? NO THANKS

Sophisticated or simple Well hmmmm that's a tough one. I want sophisticated but someone who enjoys the simple pleasures of life. Good wine, warm fire in the fireplace, good coffee, good cheese, good music, good art, quiet nights, good laughter. Very simple but still sophisticated.

Too emotional or unsympathetic Again, I don't think these are opposites.

A nice balance between rational / logical and emotional / empathetic.

And all together steamy. Definitely steamy. Come to think of it, tee... you're kinda steamy. mmm hmmmm

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 1:54:07 PM

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Hahhaha, exactly. It's been on repeat in my head all afternoon.

Dammit, we're old.

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 1:56:15 PM

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I liked the cover by Charlie Gracie (but couldn't find it)

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 1:56:56 PM

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Say goodnight, Gracie...

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 1:58:04 PM

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Meanwhile back at Gracie Mansion, it's drill baby drill.

Fiorello LaGuardia

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 1:59:58 PM

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LOOL. Nice hike down memory lane

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RE: Cause We've Got Personality - 12/18/2009 2:04:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I liked the cover by Charlie Gracie (but couldn't find it)

Yes I am old, this is the one I was thinking of by Charlie
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_i9uIsteakw

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