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osf -> when did you decide (12/23/2009 8:18:51 AM)
the question is often asked when did you decide to be a dom/slave as i always have a different take on things such as the early worm gets eaten, i turned the question around and it becomes, when did you decide to stop not being a dom/slave i'd like to hear other opinions

subtee -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 8:35:53 AM)
Ah yes! I remember it well. We met at nine. I was on time. We dined with friends. A tenor sang. Ah yes! I remember it well.

osf -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 8:39:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtee Ah yes! I remember it well. We met at nine. I was on time. We dined with friends. A tenor sang. Ah yes! I remember it well. i'm sorry i was late

AquaticSub -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 8:42:11 AM)
There wasn't a decision involved. I just am. When I decided to allow myself to be in relationship based on what I am is a very different question and I honestly never made that decision. I was introduced to all this when I was 18 and things simply progressed naturally. I never made a big, life-changing decision. Life simply happened.

Justme696 -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 8:43:21 AM)
Is it something we can influence..or start/stop? I don't know. It is like the sun going up or down.....no influence..it just happens/happened.

Dominasola -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 8:44:12 AM)
I don't think it's so much a decision as it is being honest with oneself. Although you may chose at a certain point to stop living a "vanilla" lifestyle, if you aren't truly dominant/submissive deep down, a simple choice to live in the BDSM lifestyle (however that may be manifested) will not prove to be fruitful.

Missokyst -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 8:49:39 AM)
It was never a decision for me, it is just the way I am when in a relationship. Like Aquatic above I started young and know no other way to be except to be myself.

KnightofMists -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 8:52:27 AM)
I am who I am...but who am I? Each and every choice I make speaks to who I am. I am not worried or concerned about labelizing who I am. If my choices and the actions that come from those choices identify me as being a Dominant or submissive in someone's eyes... so be it and I couldn't careless. I do know that who I am is defined with each choice I make. I am always me!

osf -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 8:52:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dominasola I don't think it's so much a decision as it is being honest with oneself. Although you may chose at a certain point to stop living a "vanilla" lifestyle, if you aren't truly dominant/submissive deep down, a simple choice to live in the BDSM lifestyle (however that may be manifested) will not prove to be fruitful. implicit in the question is that you don't decide to become a dom/submissive, you already are, it's when did you awaken and do something about it most seem to think it was then that they decided to become

AquaticSub -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 8:56:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: Dominasola I don't think it's so much a decision as it is being honest with oneself. Although you may chose at a certain point to stop living a "vanilla" lifestyle, if you aren't truly dominant/submissive deep down, a simple choice to live in the BDSM lifestyle (however that may be manifested) will not prove to be fruitful. implicit in the question is that you don't decide to become a dom/submissive, you already are, it's when did you awaken and do something about it most seem to think it was then that they decided to become Again, no offense but I don't think your question came off that way or that the responses reflect this. Mine certainly didn't.

Justme696 -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 8:58:45 AM)
quote: I am who I am...but who am I? you worry me...take your meds :P

KnightofMists -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 9:02:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf [ implicit in the question is that you don't decide to become a dom/submissive, you already are, it's when did you awaken and do something about it most seem to think it was then that they decided to become I think for some it's more like... walking down a path... and when you stop and look around you find yourself with a view of great beauty. You didn't really consciously setout to find that place... but you found yourself there none the less. The place of this beauty already existed... you just had to get there. For for others... they become aware that this place exists and they are aspiring to get there and seek to find the path that will get them there. For myself... I was more of the former than the latter. I just took steps that felt right with each step.... When I look back... I see how each step affected my path in front of me and the steps I would take.

Dominasola -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 9:03:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf implicit in the question is that you don't decide to become a dom/submissive, you already are, it's when did you awaken and do something about it most seem to think it was then that they decided to become I worded my answer in that way because I've not yet come to that crossroad.

osf -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 9:05:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: Dominasola I don't think it's so much a decision as it is being honest with oneself. Although you may chose at a certain point to stop living a "vanilla" lifestyle, if you aren't truly dominant/submissive deep down, a simple choice to live in the BDSM lifestyle (however that may be manifested) will not prove to be fruitful. implicit in the question is that you don't decide to become a dom/submissive, you already are, it's when did you awaken and do something about it most seem to think it was then that they decided to become Again, no offense but I don't think your question came off that way or that the responses reflect this. Mine certainly didn't. quote: when did you decide to stop not being a dom/slave when did you decide to stop not being a dom/slave stop not being is the heart of the question

AquaticSub -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 9:07:18 AM)
Ahh. Athough I gotta ask... if they've stopped... why are they on the forums? [:-]

Justme696 -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 9:08:03 AM)
quote: stop not start?

AquaticSub -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 9:09:32 AM)
I guess that makes sense, if they stopped and then have come back. But then is it really stopping or taking a break of sorts? Ahh semantic games that I shouldn't be playing right now... [:D]

osf -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 9:10:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Justme696 quote: stop not start? it's not that you started anything, you realized you were and did something about it

Dominasola -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 9:10:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf when did you decide to stop not being a dom/slave stop not being is the heart of the question This is implying that you weren't of a dominant/submissive nature and then actively chose to become so for whatever reason. I think that we are trying to say that it isn't a choice. You may come to the realization that you are, indeed, a dominant/submissive personality, but you don't just wake up one day and decide, "Hey, I was vanilla yesterday. Let's see what being submissive is like today. And tomorrow, I'll try being dominant just for kicks!"

osf -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 9:12:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dominasola quote: ORIGINAL: osf when did you decide to stop not being a dom/slave stop not being is the heart of the question This is implying that you weren't of a dominant/submissive nature and then actively chose to become so for whatever reason. I think that we are trying to say that it isn't a choice. You may come to the realization that you are, indeed, a dominant/submissive personality, but you don't just wake up one day and decide, "Hey, I was vanilla yesterday. Let's see what being submissive is like today. And tomorrow, I'll try being dominant just for kicks!" when did you decide to stop, not being a dom/slave does the coma help?

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