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LadyAngelika -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 2:41:45 PM)


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ORIGINAL: windchymes

Dude, you seriously need to get over yourself. [8|]


Uh huh. The lad seems to be suffering from what we commonly call diarrhea of the mouth! Not very appealing, is it!

But as I predicted, he is alianating his target audience, that is the intelligent submissive women on these boards, along with a whole bunch of respected regulars.

He might just get the Collarme Darwin award for 2009! Came in late, but he's a contender!!

- LA



sirsholly -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 2:43:11 PM)

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you're annoying


And you, my dear, are a pompous ass



mnottertail -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 2:43:59 PM)

talk about a bunch of silly little poop chutes...........



windchymes -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 2:47:00 PM)

Who you calling poop chute there, Holland Tunnel??? [:D][:D][:D][:D][:D]



LafayetteLady -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 3:33:08 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

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ORIGINAL: windchymes
Dude, you seriously need to get over yourself. [8|]


Why?  Serious question.  Why do I need to do that?  What's in it for me?


There is absolutely nothing in it for you.

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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

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But as I predicted, he is alianating his target audience, that is the intelligent submissive women on these boards, along with a whole bunch of respected regulars.


My target audience recognizes me for what I am and appreciates it, as well as recognizing you for what you are.  A passive-aggressive, manipulative shrew who plays social ostracization games.  The woman I'm looking for sees you play this game and sneers with the exact same contempt for you that I have.


And apparently if you would take a look around, your "target audience" is not on these boards. If you are so contemptuous of everyone here, trust me, we will all understand if you don't stick around.

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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly
And you, my dear, are a pompous ass


::tips hat::

"When in doubt, make a fool of yourself. There is a microscopically thin line between being brilliantly creative and acting like the most gigantic idiot on earth. So what the hell, leap." - Cynthia Heimel



Yes, you are quite good at making a fool of yourself. Sadly, your narcissism makes you believe that you are brilliantly creative, but that's ok. Everyone else has quite obviously seen that you are quite likely the most gigantic idiot on the earth.

As for your belief that you are smarter than me, and apparently everyone else on this board, I do wish you well continuing to live in your fantasy world.

The bottom line is that you are an arrogant, self important fool who loves the site of his own words on a screen and is living so deep in his little fantasy world that he can't see that everyone here sees you for what you truly are. A childish, impotent little man who just doesn't understand that no one is ever going to take one word that he says as anything more than it actually is. In case you got lost while reveling in your own perceived brilliance, your words are those of the typical moron. I think it is probably best if you go back to amusing yourself with your hand while gazing endearingly at yourself in the mirror. People are taking osf's posts more seriously than yours, that should tell you something.



windchymes -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 3:38:01 PM)

LOL, it's funny, osf does kind of have a sort of poignancy in his posts.



windchymes -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 3:44:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23


"When in doubt, make a fool of yourself. There is a microscopically thin line between being brilliantly creative and acting like the most gigantic idiot on earth. So what the hell, leap." - Cynthia Heimel



So you're saying that you WERE in doubt......and just started acting like the most gigantic idiot on earth.  I don't see where being brilliantly creative entered anywhere into the equation to raise the question as to where the microscopically thin line needed to be drawn.



GYPSYMAMBO -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 3:47:11 PM)

all;;

I need to see my anal- yst........GM



Andalusite -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 5:03:41 PM)

Well, it's been seven pages, and a few people have mentioned that not all male dominants require anal sex from their submissives and slaves, but I have the impression you're a bit at a loss as to how to find one! IMHO, it's something to bring up during the fairly early part of negotiations, along with any other hard (or fairly strong soft) limits, health issues, mono vs. poly vs. play with others, and so forth. I didn't feel comfortable discussing all that online, and generally waited until the 1st to 3rd date (depending on how conversation went, what location we were in, and so forth). Some good related things to ask are: "What are your views on hard vs. soft limits?" "Do you feel that it's important to push soft limits, is that something that you find exciting? "What kind of groundwork do you lay in approaching them? " "How important is giving anal sex?" things like that, trying not to phrase it in a "leading" way, but exploring his views and how compatible they are with yours. Some Dominants might be fine with you keeping anal as a limit, but might choose to refer to you as "submissive" rather than "slave" based on your retention of choice in that one aspect. I know it may seem scary to bring up some of these things, but communication is very important! If there's a major dealbreaker, whether anal sex, or a more fundamental difference in opinion on how D/s is expressed, better to find out before you have a huge emotional investment.



DarkSteven -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 6:38:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

Well, it's been seven pages, and a few people have mentioned that not all male dominants require anal sex from their submissives and slaves, but I have the impression you're a bit at a loss as to how to find one! IMHO, it's something to bring up during the fairly early part of negotiations, along with any other hard (or fairly strong soft) limits,


If it's a hard limit, state it as such in your profile.



Aynne88 -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 7:15:34 PM)

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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex


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ORIGINAL: Aynne88
Damn you AnimusRex, I'm going to wear that poor man out.[:D]


Yeah, I am giver that way.


Sir gives you his regards and says many thanks [;)]. He also said any other ideas feel free to cmail us. ;) 



Aswad -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 8:07:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: cjan

That is the exception and instance to which I was referring. Sorry I didn't spell it out and make it crystal clear for you , Asswad.


No harm, no foul. We can't all be lucid all the time. [8D]

Health,
al-Asswad.



Level -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 8:33:59 PM)


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ORIGINAL: HisSweetElysium

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Domination is about having your way...

Now I'm snickering imagining the burger king dude in a leather outfit.  *snort*  sorry, no offense meant, I find the strangest things amusing....



After watching their commercials, I have no doubt the King would indeed be into a little kink.

[image]http://www.thegreenhead.com/imgs/burger-king-halloween-mask-2.jpg[/image]



XXlittlegirlXX -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 8:36:05 PM)

I'm sure there's many doms that don't require it,you just got to keep searching! however,if you did get along with one.. they should respect your limits. right?



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/27/2009 8:38:17 PM)

I only skimmed the last few pages of this thread, and it made me giggle. I needed to giggle.

Thank you, Aswad!



Aswad -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/28/2009 12:55:29 AM)

Any time, dear. [:D]



eyesopened -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/28/2009 4:25:12 AM)

Of course I'm making my comments after the subject is probably finished but I'll relate my experience with the anal thing.

A lot of men want this mainly because they saw it in a porn movie and it looked so hot.  This would apply to vanilla men as well as kink.  Anal sex is today what a blow job was 50 years ago.

My Master wanted a slave who was willing to give all of herself.  Not all except that one thing... He wanted all.  To withhold my ass would be viewed as withholding.  Period. 

A lot of the Dominants I have met are looking more for the willingness than the act itself.  Most I have met in the past said they wanted anal and in reality I've had only two partners in my life who actually  penetrated my behind.  I don't like it or dislike it for myself, but when my Master does use me in this way I know that I am giving all, withholding nothing and that is enough.



sirsholly -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/28/2009 5:48:04 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

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ORIGINAL: windchymes
So you're saying that you WERE in doubt...


Anyone who isn't completely full of doubts is an idiot.  But no, that isn't what I was saying.

What I'm saying is that a person can make a choice in every moment to be brilliant, daring, creative and full of life, or not.  If you choose the first path, people will sometimes call you a fool.  If you choose the second path, then there will be no doubt that you are a fool.

thanks for removing all doubt



Elisabella -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/28/2009 6:15:41 AM)


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ORIGINAL: windchymes

LOL, it's funny, osf does kind of have a sort of poignancy in his posts.


I know! It's creeping me out.



Elisabella -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/28/2009 6:25:06 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

It is not a "crock of nonsense."  Read Philosophy in the Boudoir by DeSade, he presents several different arguments exemplifying the point.

That there are " lots of people from lots of cultures who just plain ENJOY it" is certainly true, but it doesn't really answer Dominasola's actual question.  She was asking why anal sex was associated with domination, not why it's been so popular down through the ages.



Except that's not true. As others have already pointed out, anal sex was linked to domination in Ancient Rome.

"In ancient Rome, sodomy with a slave was a sign of a master's power."

http://www.sofeminine.co.uk/guide/relationships/f8271-anal-sex.html

"Having such relations with a male who was no longer adolescent was considered more shameful for the young male than for the one mounting him."

In Ancient Greece, penetrative anal sex was "condemned for violating and feminizing the boys."

Both from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anal_sex#Cultural_issues

The fact that the recipients of anal sex have historically been slaves, adolescents, prostitutes, and eunuchs demonstrates fairly well that being on the receiving end has been associated with being dominated since long before DeSade.



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