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CaringandReal -> RE: Is everyone anal ? (12/28/2009 8:19:10 AM)
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Hi subtle,
Posters are by and large giving their personal views on this subject, which don't really go far to explain what you're expereincing: the overwhelming popularity of the act among the dominant men who approach you. So here's one internet porn observer's view (and remember people it's just my view--I was very enthusiastic about internet fetishes at one time and heavily browsed the free porn that's out there--and the far more interesting discussions around it):
Anal's immense popularity, while always a minority practice with some, is largely a manufactured interest, a sex fad, started by internet porn and probably fueled just a bit by closet homosexuality seeking expression, not to mention ennui and jadedness with other practices: the curses of oversaturating a market with pornography. The pornmakers, always looking for ways to compete and turn out new interesting sites that the marks will buy first stumbled upon the whole choke-gag head-fucking thing. And that was a huge success and quite the moneymaker in its day! But eventually those sites got old and people got bored/grossed out hearing the closeup mike's rendition of squishy wet slobber, so the porno shops rediscovered ANAL!
About 7-8 years ago hundreds of anal porn sites emerged and if you went to the forums and chatrooms that teen boys and other early porn adopters (looks innocent) hung out in, all you would hear them talk about hushed tones was the abosulte ultimate: Anal Sex! The fad was trendy about 7-8 years ago and hit its mainstream peak in vanillaland about 4 years ago, but bdsm people, perhaps due to having their interests otherwise occupied, tend to lag behind the vanilla sex trends to so the online he-man dominant chest-thumpers you are likely to meet on a personals site like this are only now catching up to the whole kewl anal trend. They're acting as enthusiastic about it as the vanilla guys were several years ago and the trendy guys were twice that many years ago. What are the vanillas into now? (shrug) You'd have to read their websites to find out. Or wait five years for the guys on collarme to start raving about it. ;)
The answers you're getting here are a bit realer--they get into the connection of anal sex with bdsm. But I know the sorts that randomly write one on sites like this and the majority of these writers are not doing it for the reasons mentioned here, they're just rather mindlessly following a sex fad promoted up the... wazoo... by the porn makers. Anal is also relatively newer in bdsm porn than it is in vanilla porn because some laws have only recently (last few years) been relaxed. At one time, not too long ago, you were persecuted if you had penetrative sex and bondage/whipping together in the same film in the US--that's why sites like Insex always used dildos...or else they moved their headquarters to Europe. Now that this isn't a legal stumbling block, the bdsm filmmakers treat the anal penetration scene as the holy grail (aka the money shot): they save it for the ending of the film, which, kind of like the end of a 4th of July fireworks display that goes all out, tries to impress the customer and cause him to cum so that he will subscribe longer to their web site. And as people are, sadly, learning their sexual practices by watching internet porn: they think anal sex is the ultimate because the porno sites tell them it is so.
I've heard one dominant I know, who doesn't watch porn, describe anal as kind of boring. He says there is no tightness in the colon, just a little around the splincter, and if it didn't hurt/embarass the sub so much he probably wouldn't bother with that hole. The vagina and mouth feel much better to him.
PS: You know, your screen name isn't helping you out much here. :p
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