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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/29/2009 5:02:57 PM   
tiemeupSir02


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Status: offline 		my last Sir promised things and said things that He could never hold to and W/we both did not have common interests

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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/29/2009 5:04:58 PM   
mnottertail


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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/29/2009 5:29:07 PM   
hopelessfool


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Status: offline 		one promised if we went poly the other girl would be strictly service no sex... she had hiv and that was the main no sex reason, i walked in on her on toppa him with out any cloths....

one said he only kept me around because it was easier then masturbating all the time..

one fucked one my bests friends,( the friend didnt know what he looked like exactly...)

Ill love you sweetheart I promise your the only one for me I cant wait until we grow together enough to get married and have kids.... hold one one second my wifes calling me..




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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/29/2009 5:32:20 PM   
DarkSteven


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One promised me to quit smoking, and I watched over her while she withdrew.  She told me that she had, and then I caught her smoking again.  She told me something about how she didn't want me put out with having to watch over her, so she told me she'd kicked it when she hadn't.



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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/30/2009 4:42:56 AM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		one lived in another country, and try as we may, we could not cut through the red-tape of the visa process; besides, he sent his kids to boarding school, which i refused to do, while he spent summers in canada and winters in italy...

one, was such an extreme sadist, that the more he took, the more i gave, the more i hated myself and him because it was never enough; i would have died at his hands...

and one was a control freak who wanted the absolute control over my life but none of the responsibilites that came with it...

there you have it; the condensed version of things.

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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/30/2009 5:35:05 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		I'm going to answer with a sappy Hallmark card answer.  See, my life is a journey so people will cross my path.  They cross my path for a reason, a season or a lifetime. (that was the sappy part)  But for me it's just so true. 

Not everyone who we encounter on our journey is meant to stay for a lifetime.  We make relationship choices based on what we think is a good idea at the time.  I'd rather look at the reason I made those choices rather than focus on how relationships ended.  I also look to see what I gained from each of those relationships.  When I do that, I clearly see I gained in every instance!  Maybe not what I first expected to gain but I have to say honestly that I have never had a relationship where I did not come out of it worse than when I entered it.

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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/30/2009 5:54:51 AM   
Elizabeth666


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Status: offline 		Well, this is my first actual D/s relationship. So far, all is good.

About a year or so before I met Sir I met another Dom. So he said.

We met online, started chatting through messenger. We both talked about what we were looking for. Things seemed good. He gave me a couple small tasks, nothing major. He had a thing for shoes, so he had me go to a certain store in a mall close to us and pick out a pair. With our conversations, he was sure I would know what he liked, and I did. We met for coffee a few times, then went for lunch. He bought me the shoes and some stockings. We talked more and more and then one day I got this weird message from him. Seemed he was seeing more than me (We had not discussed monogamy) I asked him what was going on and he went offline. 10 minutes later there was this huge long email from him. To sum it up: I'm not right for you. I have gambling problems. I'm married (which I didn't know) I've cheated on her alot, I would just string you along and hurt you blah blah blah.

Thank god nothing happened between us. I thanked him for being honest and thought that was it. He messaged me a week later saying he wanted to do lunch and explain. I went, listened to what he had to say and told him he needs to deal with his own issues. That was it.

I did get a gorgeous pair of shoes out of it though! LOL

My ex vanilla boyfriend? His ex was crazy, hated me, refused to let me be around their child. He took 2 years to tell me he loved me. Took me for granted etc etc etc. I broke it off and a while after I met Sir. When the ex bf found out, it was: I love you so much, I miss you blah blah blah





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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/30/2009 11:02:21 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		My last relationship ended because he died. That ia a pretty final ending.

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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/30/2009 11:31:25 AM   
DarkMasquerade


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Status: offline 		My last relationship ended because he demanded things I wasn't willing to give and because I never seemed to be 'good enough' for him, always did everything wrong, according to him. Also, he wanted TPE and I've come to the conclusion that that really isn't for me.

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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/30/2009 11:49:57 AM   
MasterSlaveLA


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ORIGINAL: gorlove

...why did it end?



There was ummm.... an ACCIDENT... yeah, yeah... that's it... an accident!  See, the doorbell rang, which scared the dog, who chased the cat, who jumped up into the cupboard, and knocked over the botte of drain-cleaner, that spilled directly into the bowl of Lucky Charms that just happened to be sitting on the counter directly underneath... amazingly enough.    Yeah, that's what happened, Officer... that's EXACTLY what happened!!!  <quickly wipes sweat from forehead> 




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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/30/2009 6:16:37 PM   
drtygrl


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Status: offline 		brilliant 

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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/31/2009 10:08:57 AM   
gorlove


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quote:

There was ummm.... an ACCIDENT... yeah, yeah... that's it... an accident! See, the doorbell rang, which scared the dog, who chased the cat, who jumped up into the cupboard, and knocked over the botte of drain-cleaner, that spilled directly into the bowl of Lucky Charms that just happened to be sitting on the counter directly underneath... amazingly enough. Yeah, that's what happened, Officer... that's EXACTLY what happened!!! <quickly wipes sweat from forehead>




Thanks for the instructions, er, i mean input.

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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/31/2009 10:23:49 AM   
tazzygirl


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Status: offline 		i lived with him for three years. moved out and down the street, close, for a year. In all that time, he insisted we never had a "relationship" he would never "love" me, we were friends at the most... with benefits of course, working towards common goals (his). everything about me was last in his mind... even health issues. i had to get a friend to bring me home from oral surgery... the same friend brought me home from the hospital after surgery. he used my sexual needs... as well as his children and the guilt trips... to keep me there that long. all the while stating he could not start a relationship until the children were all grown.

eventually, even slaves wake up to the reality that they are being used, lied too, mistreated and abused. one month after moving in with Master, he notified me he had found a wonderful girlfriend and was moving in with her.

i blame myself more than i do him. after all, he was a horny male. i was just the wet hole he decided to have around till something better came along.

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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/31/2009 12:34:00 PM   
wykkidesire2plsU


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Status: offline 		BDSM relationships, i dont have enough experience to say, since meeting three or four "dates" and just not clicking is not a relationship nor is chatting for two weeks and they keep dodging meeting and turns out they are married lol.

But in previous relationships i ended them all for the same reason: i just didn’t feel i was where i was meant to be.

One was the greatest guy, cute, sweet to me, took care of his life, worshipped me, but i didn’t want to be worshipped, i wanted on bottom :). Another was alot younger than me, cute, fun but couldn’t manage his own life and i wound up topping him no matter how hard i tried keeping him on top just out of survival. Another i ended it because as much as he was a good person, i just did not love him and he was too soft. Sounds like i attract bottom men! Maybe the one that sticks will be because He is someone i can serve, we shall see:).


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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/31/2009 12:59:49 PM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

anyone who was in anytype of submissive role in a relationship, why did it end?


he wanted this slave to die at his hands...she wasn't ready to die, yet.
 
others this slave was involved with didn't want a submissive partner...so they ended it.

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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/31/2009 2:09:56 PM   
wykkidesire2plsU


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quote:

he wanted this slave to die at his hands...she wasn't ready to die, yet.


Wow beth, sorry you went through that! Glad you got out of that one.

You and Merc are so cute together, where did you get that bra by the way, i want to order one :).

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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 12/31/2009 3:59:22 PM   
RealSub58


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It's probably been said already...
Investing time energy and abunch of love into a relationship where you realize you have become an option...well, time to make like a ball and roll away.

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RE: Ending relationships, what were your reasons? - 1/1/2010 7:32:07 PM   
trueshadow


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Status: offline 		I will be honest.  She was demanding, which was nice, expecting a lot from me, which was fine, but she wouldn't touch me.  Not sexually, not platonically.  Hmmm.  We all need to be touched, even it is with a cruel cane or crop.  Verbal interaction is nice, but tactile is necessary as well.

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