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love and contentment - 12/28/2009 9:54:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		i think we over rate love as a criteria of a d/s relationship

perhaps contentment should be given more prominence

thoughts?

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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 9:58:20 AM   
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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:00:35 AM   
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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:02:22 AM   
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Thoughts are dangerous. Especialy in a submissive.


Jeff


perhaps suppressed thoughts

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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:04:56 AM   
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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:06:27 AM   
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Define love, contentment and D/s relationship.


i didn't define anything here nor will i

i'm asking others for their thoughts

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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:08:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: osf


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Define love, contentment and D/s relationship.


i didn't define anything here nor will i

i'm asking others for their thoughts


And they do, and then you  tell them that that's not what you are looking for, or that they use the 'wrong' definition... go figure.

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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:08:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, contentment is a bit more universal and more easily isolated in definition.

Either contentment or fulfillment both are more paramount than "love" (as "love" only becomes a vehicle for some people to reach the former two).

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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:09:12 AM   
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i think we over rate love as a criteria of a d/s relationship

perhaps contentment should be given more prominence

thoughts?



Maybe people should just give prominence to the concepts that matter to them for their relationships....

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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:10:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

Define love, contentment and D/s relationship.



http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Contentment

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dominance_and_submission (including relation)

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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:10:18 AM   
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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:10:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: happylittlepet

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ORIGINAL: osf


quote:

ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

Define love, contentment and D/s relationship.


i didn't define anything here nor will i

i'm asking others for their thoughts


And they do, and then you  tell them that that's not what you are looking for, or that they use the 'wrong' definition... go figure.


when the word has a specific meaning such as doctrine , yes

but words like love and contentment are more individualistic



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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:10:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		Why should anyone consider giving up love in any relationship?

"Contentment" is nothing more than another word for settling for less than what you really want.

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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:13:31 AM   
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Why should anyone consider giving up love in any relationship?

"Contentment" is nothing more than another word for settling for less than what you really want.


her's an example person one for whatever reason you currently love more than person two

person two has a better kink match to you than person one

which has the better long term chance?

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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:13:39 AM   
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Why should anyone consider giving up love in any relationship?



Some people don't need it or have no fixation on the word itself.


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"Contentment" is nothing more than another word for settling for less than what you really want.

That doesn't strike me as "contentment" at all.

Besides, we all settle for less than we'd ideally want. It's the curse of being creatures with an odd neurological mutation that let's us imagine for ourselves more than we can actually get or are likely to get.

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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:14:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

Maybe people should just give prominence to the concepts that matter to them for their relationships....

Which, coming full circle, would lead them to a state of "contentment".


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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:14:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

quote:

ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

Why should anyone consider giving up love in any relationship?



Some people don't need it or have no fixation on the word itself.


quote:

ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

"Contentment" is nothing more than another word for settling for less than what you really want.

That doesn't strike me as "contentment" at all.

Besides, we all settle for less than we'd ideally want. It's the curse of being creatures with an odd neurological mutation that let's us imagine for ourselves more than we can actually get or are likely to get.


hear hear

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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:16:06 AM   
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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:18:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: osf


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Why should anyone consider giving up love in any relationship?

"Contentment" is nothing more than another word for settling for less than what you really want.


her's an example person one for whatever reason you currently love more than person two

person two has a better kink match to you than person one

which has the better long term chance?


we sort of discussed this a while back and the overall concensus was that bdsm came second to the emotional attachment someone has for their bdsm partner. you can always play away or in a club to get youre bdsm needs met fully, you cannot replicate a specific love that you feel for one individual since we all love people for different reasons and in different ways.

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RE: love and contentment - 12/28/2009 10:19:07 AM   
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Maybe people should just give prominence to the concepts that matter to them for their relationships....


Or not worry about concepts at all...

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