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osf -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 6:31:07 AM)

there are downsides for both but the possible downsides for the woman are greater

many have pics taken of them during whatever it is they do, what if there is a break in and they are taken

what if you develop aspirations for political office, i could go on and on

going into this you have to make choices, you may not be able to have it all



sexyred1 -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 6:38:35 AM)

You are so totally negative...that you are the last person a newbie should be taking advice from. You base all of your overblown assumptions on your own bad experiences instead of listening and learning from others here, who actually have found happiness in romantic and realistic D/s relationships.

I hope you find something more positive to do and say in the New Year.



osf -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 6:40:46 AM)


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

You are so totally negative...that you are the last person a newbie should be taking advice from. You base all of your overblown assumptions on your own bad experiences instead of listening and learning from others here, who actually have found happiness in romantic and realistic D/s relationships.

I hope you find something more positive to do and say in the New Year.


to deny the negatives is not doing them a service, hence the title of the thread



osf -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 6:41:48 AM)

Here’s one for the “dominants”.

You got this brand new pornographic women toy, and she’s willing to make you most dirty erotic fantasy, you know the one that has been developing in you head for ever so long,

now is your big chance to make it reality, you put in a lot of effort to arrange it and the big moment arrives and lo and behold the bitch does it to perfection, couldn’t have gone better.

Now it’s the next day and you’re having second thoughts about what happened and her, now neither seem so desirable anymore.

Now what?

Didn’t think of that did you?



Justme696 -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 6:45:32 AM)

you walk and you slip..you hurt yourself

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Didn’t think of that did you?



yes..unexpected things happen in life.



sexyred1 -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 6:46:13 AM)


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ORIGINAL: osf


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

You are so totally negative...that you are the last person a newbie should be taking advice from. You base all of your overblown assumptions on your own bad experiences instead of listening and learning from others here, who actually have found happiness in romantic and realistic D/s relationships.

I hope you find something more positive to do and say in the New Year.


to deny the negatives is not doing them a service, hence the title of the thread



The only negatives are the limitations people put upon themselves and their expectations of others. One should be a bit more open minded; and that does not mean clueless, but negativity just fosters negativity. Everyone has been hurt or disappointed in relationships (hopefully, otherwise you have not really engaged in life), but to keep going into relationships with all the baggage carried in, without having examined what and why something went wrong, is not productive for anyone.

But I doubt you will like this reply and ignore it, or reply with a one liner, since you do not wish to listen to an opinion that differs from your own.



Jeffff -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 6:49:12 AM)

For me your premise  is faulty. My darkest fantasy would not, could not occur with some one "brand new" to me.

There would already be an established relationship of some kind. Therefore the next day she would probably be even more attractive rather than less so.

Before to tell me my fanatsy might not be dark enough, it is all subjective. If she were to fullfill YOUR darkest wishes, that might indeed be a deal breaker.

Jeff






osf -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 6:51:13 AM)

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The only negatives are the limitations people put upon themselves and their expectations of others. One should be a bit more open minded; and that does not mean clueless, but negativity just fosters negativity. Everyone has been hurt or disappointed in relationships (hopefully, otherwise you have not really engaged in life), but to keep going into relationships with all the baggage carried in, without having examined what and why something went wrong, is not productive for anyone.

But I doubt you will like this reply and ignore it, or reply with a one liner, since you do not wish to listen to an opinion that differs from your own.


i'm far from negative, despondent, i'm rather optimistic but realistic

one liners is because my typing sucks so to keep up well....


if your interested in what i think read my journal , it's some years old but still reflects my basic thinking, and it's not at all negative



sexyred1 -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 6:52:00 AM)

Jefff is exactly right. Most people would not engage in their deepest darkest fantasies with new partners. The trust level is not exactly fully there yet.



osf -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 6:53:31 AM)

you zeroed in on one word and totally missed it's meaning

no matter how long you have been together, that holds true



sexyred1 -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 6:59:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: osf

quote:

The only negatives are the limitations people put upon themselves and their expectations of others. One should be a bit more open minded; and that does not mean clueless, but negativity just fosters negativity. Everyone has been hurt or disappointed in relationships (hopefully, otherwise you have not really engaged in life), but to keep going into relationships with all the baggage carried in, without having examined what and why something went wrong, is not productive for anyone.

But I doubt you will like this reply and ignore it, or reply with a one liner, since you do not wish to listen to an opinion that differs from your own.


i'm far from negative, despondent, i'm rather optimistic but realistic

one liners is because my typing sucks so to keep up well....


if your interested in what i think read my journal , it's some years old but still reflects my basic thinking, and it's not at all negative


I read some of your journal, but it is seriously too long to spend that much time on. What is interesting is that your posting style and comments do not reflect some of the things in your journal and most get to know people through their interactions on the boards. I don't tend to want to read a long winded journal post that pontificates on the philosophy of D/s. I would rather speak to a person and let that organically come out through our discussions one on one.

It is far too easy to write tons of stuff about ideas and much harder to put them into practice since you need a partner for that.



sexyred1 -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 7:00:48 AM)


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ORIGINAL: osf

you zeroed in on one word and totally missed it's meaning

no matter how long you have been together, that holds true


What word did I zero in on?



osf -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 7:02:18 AM)

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read some of your journal, but it is seriously too long to spend that much time on. What is interesting is that your posting does not reflect some of the things in your journal and most get to know people through their interactions on the boards. I don't tend to want to read a long winded journal post that pontificates on the philosophy of D/s. I would rather speak to a person and let that organically come out through our discussions one on one.

It is far too easy to write tons of stuff about ideas and much harder to put them into practice since you need a partner for that.


MY TYPING IS SLOW AND IT SUCKS i admit that

posting, it takes time to get to know me

but you have already made your judgement and i'm ok with that



sexyred1 -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 7:03:56 AM)

I have not made any judgement, I only judged the posts. I cannot judge you, since I do not know you. Typing has nothing to do with it.



WinsomeDefiance -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 7:04:00 AM)

Are there Cliff Notes to this thread? 




osf -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 7:05:07 AM)

quote:

What word did I zero in on?


new



sexyred1 -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 7:05:11 AM)

LOL, no, I doubt it.



Jeffff -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 7:05:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

Are there Cliff Notes to this thread? 





The folks who do the Cliff Notes are too busy with the misogynist thread.


Jeff


Who also requires humor.



osf -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 7:06:12 AM)

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Are there Cliff Notes to this thread? 


who is cliff?
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Are there Cliff Notes to this thread? 
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Are there Cliff Notes to this thread? 



Jeffff -> RE: the romance v the reality of d/s (12/31/2009 7:11:04 AM)

Cliff is Win's new beau.


Word on the street is, she likes em short, and too the point.



Jeff



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