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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
You are more magnanimous than I, but perhaps you just have more patience with fools than I do. :)

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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

I haven't done anything extraordinary to deserve to be ganged up on and given the treatment.

You know what I think I did wrong?  I think I'm guilty of being new and not wanting to play forum bitch for the amusement of this small group of extra nasty collered subs who seem to think they have to prove they are only submitting to one man by attacking any self-proclaimed dominant male who doesn't treat them like Dommes.

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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

I hear what you're saying, thanks for the advice.  I'll consider it.

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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

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ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf
I never figured you were gone, just hid your profile, and pulled a dramatic flounce. Your communication skills still need some work, because if you are in a medium, that you are supposedly a professional at (writer), you are failing to convey what you actually mean.

I find that a very useless criticism.  I don't think anyone is really making any effort to understand what I mean, and I think many people are very intentionally reading my posts with malign intent, seeking to distort, twist and ridicule everything I say.

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BTW, you are failing as a psychonaut as well, because you are creating an internal image, rather than discovering what is there. You seem to cast no "shadow", but in fact we all do. You have created the "Wise Old Man", when in fact the "Fox" is prevelant within the Wise Old Man's guise. This is at least what I am seeing from your posts, which sometimes is not a true measure of a person, but often it is what they really are without filters. If you are truly interested in being a soul sailor, might I suggest a bit of ego death to assist you. Some may not understand what I have said in this last paragraph, but if you are as educated as you portray yourself to be, you will know exactly what is being said.

I do understand what you're saying, but I think you're entirely out of line.  You don't know me, and to assume you have the sort of deep insight into me that you would need to tell me that I'm "failing as a psychonaut" from internet posts that you are reading with a fair amount of prejudice is an act both condescending and pompous. 

The problem is that if I act from an egoless space on an online forum, you know what happens?   It's called lurking.  Forever.  Everyone here has some bit of their ego on the line, and not a single one of you would enjoy being treated like I'm being treated.  And I'll believe you'd deal with it better when I see it happen to you.  I'm really not any more pompous than anyone else here, Mr. I Can See Into Your Soul Through The Internet.   I'm not any more sexist or crass that Aynne and her lovely "Psychotwat" monkier.  I'm not any more long winded or a posuer than Anwar.   I haven't done anything extraordinary to deserve to be ganged up on and given the treatment.

You know what I think I did wrong?  I think I'm guilty of being new and not wanting to play forum bitch for the amusement of this small group of extra nasty collered subs who seem to think they have to prove they are only submitting to one man by attacking any self-proclaimed dominant male who doesn't treat them like Dommes.

And I think there's a lot of dickheads here, like Ebony Wood, that know they can look dominant by attacking once the forum hags have selected a target.  It's whole lot of very obvious social politics and monkey-mob mentality.  And the people who got caught up in it should be far, far more embarassed and ashamed at joing in with a mob frenzy than I should be (and am) at getting defensive when I'm actually being attacked by a mob.

I want to be able to use this site for what its intended, and I want to be able to participate in the forums  -- and be just as snarky, stupid, and often wrong as anyone else -- so that I have an increased chance of meeting someone.

But I'm just a human  being.  If people here are going to choose to make me the forum bitch and start mocking me all the time over every piddly thing I say just because it's "funny" to make someone a pariah, then I'm pretty much fucked, aren't I?  I can't compete against a dozen people determined to make me look like a fool.  Just the fact that they agree with each as part of the process makes it appear true, and often the appearance of truth has more effect than what is true.

I just wish people would be aware of how they are acting collectively.  Not organized, but still collectively.  How would any of you feel being treated like this?

And fuck the first person who tries to say that a mob ganging up on one person for utterly piddly shit is fair or right.  You're a fucking creep if you think that.

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

I hear what you're saying, thanks for the advice.  I'll consider it.

For what it's worth (concerning the "precision snipes"), you're pretty damn good at it.

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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

[And I think there's a lot of dickheads here, like Ebony Wood, that know they can look dominant by attacking once the forum hags have selected a target. 

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ORIGINAL: Lucienn

I'd like to thank you two for having this conversation on the forums and not via PM.

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

He get's all crazy when you call him "twat". .

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

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ORIGINAL: Lucienn

I'd like to thank you two for having this conversation on the forums and not via PM.

Your infatuation with villainizing is only going to bolster his position in this debacle.

Unless you were trying to help him by showing how someone can make a rude comment under the table and not get the reaction he's gotten from his snipes. In which case, kudos!

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

Nihilus, I get you are truly trying to help him, and you are a better person than I. I don't give a fuck anymore, he insulted far too many of my friends here repeatedly and went after me with a creepy vengeance, I'm with EbonyWood and SexyRed on this one. I don't give a fuck. Sorry, well not sorry, but yeah, no olive branches for him. He needs some therapy, and soon before he turns into Michael Douglas' character in falling down. Issues galore and anger...wow. It's scary. The sad scary kind.

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

He get's all crazy when you call him "twat". .

If he gets even more aggressive and starts calling people names again, you've got a point.

If he points our how it's yet another example of hypocrisy, however...

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ORIGINAL: EbonyWood


History has already condemned him on that point NZ. Even a cursory examination of previous posts shows that he went that route WAY before anyone else, usually when he was flapping around in a quagmire of an argument of his own making.
 
FWIW , I posted to him a week or so on another thread almost identically to what you have here, reasonably pointing out abrasiveness etc. Blind Freddy could see he was heading for the cliffs with his attitude and manner.
 
My final point on this whole fucking mess is - Didn't he throw the toys out the pram and state he was done? I think that says something for the masochist theorists, and the validity of his word.

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I'm not even saying you owe him anything or that you are wrong to have made any personal decisions you have. I get into snippy debate skirmishes every now and then but I nearly always try to make clear that I do not enjoy and have no intention of actively and aggressively belittling people.

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

...but still recognize the other's opinion as valid.

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Now, now, now...don't get people's hopes up! I'm not freely considering anyone's opinions valid.

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Doesn't mean I can't still happily hang out with them and have a drink, though.

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I find that a very useless criticism.  I don't think anyone is really making any effort to understand what I mean, and I think many people are very intentionally reading my posts with malign intent, seeking to distort, twist and ridicule everything I say.