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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 9:02:00 AM   
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One more thing to add Psychonaut,

When you go in for the "kill", dont expect us to not fight back.
And don't underestimate your "opponent".



By the way, I love your intellect. Just take away the grandiosity and superiority complex, and the insults of peoples intelligence. If those flaws are tempered, you would be most welcomed here.


THIS.....font size increased by me for emphasis. Psychonaut, there is no disgrace in saying you were wrong or backing down, if anything it will make us respect you more for having done it.

Lushy, I would have used the word "traits" or "actions" instead of "flaws" which might get his back up. Aside from that, perfect post.



Well, you're right on that one.

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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 10:07:36 AM   
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OP, this post just seems to have become an interesting example of how ones communication skills can play a part in how people perceive and react to certain trigger words.  I wonder if anyone sees a correlation between the original topic and how it evolved (or devolved.) 





I'm new to the forums, and maybe its just the small sample size but I see some disturbing trends where posters seem to have a strong misogynistic leaning.

There's a part of me that thinks they are merely trolls seeking reaction, and if that's how they enjoy filling the emptiness in their lives the more power to them.

But...there is a part of me that wonders if some who truly hate women see BDSM as an outlet for their anger?

It lends credence to some articles I've read by the anti-BDSM crowd that all dominants are misogynists (these articles exclusively attribute dominance to males).  But we all know that's bullshit.

Is this a new phenomenon, Where places like CM have become venues in which misogyny can be worn like a badge?

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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 10:21:05 AM   
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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 10:23:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

OP, this post just seems to have become an interesting example of how ones communication skills can play a part in how people perceive and react to certain trigger words. I wonder if anyone sees a correlation between the original topic and how it evolved (or devolved.)





I'm new to the forums, and maybe its just the small sample size but I see some disturbing trends where posters seem to have a strong misogynistic leaning.

There's a part of me that thinks they are merely trolls seeking reaction, and if that's how they enjoy filling the emptiness in their lives the more power to them.

But...there is a part of me that wonders if some who truly hate women see BDSM as an outlet for their anger?

It lends credence to some articles I've read by the anti-BDSM crowd that all dominants are misogynists (these articles exclusively attribute dominance to males). But we all know that's bullshit.

Is this a new phenomenon, Where places like CM have become venues in which misogyny can be worn like a badge?



I did not read every page but i kept coming back. It evolved from Misogyny and hating women, then somehow evolved to Racism then to ethics, then to a questioning of ethics. These changes seemed to be led by Psychonauts changing his point.

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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 10:26:56 AM   
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*tacklesmooches Winny*


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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 10:27:00 AM   
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I did not read every page but i kept coming back. It evolved from Misogyny and hating women, then somehow evolved to Racism then to ethics, then to a questioning of ethics. These changes seemed to be led by Psychonauts changing his point.


I kept it thematically on-point by taking some liquid paper to my dictionary and changing the definition of "misogyny" to "hatred of psychonaut."

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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 10:33:27 AM   
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I did not read every page but i kept coming back. It evolved from Misogyny and hating women, then somehow evolved to Racism then to ethics, then to a questioning of ethics. These changes seemed to be led by Psychonauts changing his point.


I kept it thematically on-point by taking some liquid paper to my dictionary and changing the definition of "misogyny" to "hatred of psychonaut."



I dont hate him. I dont like his arrogance but when discussing racism he was pretty on point and the discourse between him and Elizabella was amazing. Its only when hes disagreed with and he "thinks" hes superior that things go awry.

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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 10:46:09 AM   
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Actually, that's not accurate. It's got more to do with men easily over-powering women and children and thus all of them dying. It's an act of chivalry -- an out-dated concept, in my opinion, thanks to feminism. (Ain't feminism grand?)

The explanation can be found here.


Reading that, it shows that the women and children were already in the lifeboats before the soldiers stopped the panic. So there was already a sense of 'women and children first' if not that exact phrase.

My opinion is that, on a biological level, men are expendable. Extremely expendable. If there were only a thousand people left in the world, the species would have a fair chance at survival if only one of them was a fertile man in his young 20's. He could impregnate 999 women in a few years, maybe less than that.

If you had one woman and 999 men, even if she had a baby each year, starting at age 18, and somehow managed to survive postapocalyptica to age 68, you'd have 50 offspring. With one man and 999 women, same reproductive rate, you'd have 50,000 offspring. And don't question my math, I'm counting on the fact that there will be a few sets of twins

People often separate 'social behaviours' from 'natural behaviours' but I believe that social behaviours are just an extension of natural behaviours because if they weren't natural we wouldn't have structured our society like that way back when we did. And it's just evolved, it hasn't strayed too far from instinctive behaviour. So the idea of 'chivalry' is likely based in the sense men have that women (and by extension, children) are the cornerstones of civilization, and men are the protectors who keep it safe and the adventurers who help it advance. A man dying to save a woman can tell himself he's done something noble - he's sacrificed himself for his civilization.

That being said I imagine it would take near superhuman amounts of self control to allow oneself to die for a shipful of strangers if you were a single man travelling alone. But perhaps the social stigma of surviving would be enough to tip the scale?
I wanted to address this this again, it being sort of the spot that I dropped my train of thought w/regard to biological side of the biological determinism vs. free will debate, and the looting, burning, and rapine began in earnest.

As I responded earlier, your 1:99 male:female ratio hypothetical is essentially accurate from a basic biological perspective, in term of simple reproductive capacity, but it is a bit more complicated than that - again, reduced to the simplest terms, males essentially contribute only semen, a mere pittance in terms of reproductive costs, whereas female reproductive costs are substantial.

In nature, there are two basic strategies that reflect this: r and K strategies - in r strategies, females reproduce in large numbers - typically, this is a strategy to offset high rates of attrition amongst those offspring, and large numbers are a way of ensuring that at least some fraction will survive to reproduce themselves.

K strategies, by contrast, entail fewer progeny, but rather than being cast adrift to fend for themselves from the moment of birth, they are allowed to further develop within a protected social space, and this usually includes both extended gestation (which increases the physical vulnerability of the gravid female), and extended childhood and adolescence - neoteny, which again, benefits from synergistic social arrangements, more resources and sublimation of autonomous utility in order to optimize and maintain the group vehicle.

Without all the gobbledygook, this means a dyad, a synergistic alliance of  male and female, the simplest most fundamental social arrangement, and some degree of social cooperation between them, divisions of labor, sublimation of aggression over resources or reproductive opportunities, etc.

These adaptations are largely mammalian. There is some indication that some classes of reptiles may have been heading in this direction, the shrewlike insectivores that were our progenitors were deriviations from some similar reptile, and it's possible even likely that the social adaptations preceded the general epidermal and metabolic ones (enhanced internal temperature regulation).

The reason for this being neoteny, which accelerates certain developmental traits by delaying and extending their sublimation, if that makes any sense. i.e., one significant trait that mammals possess that reptiles including Birds appear to lack is the propensity to play - play is learning activity, it's behavioral modeling - when kittens stalk and pounce on each other they are refining the hunting techniques they will later use to survive when they're on their own.

They are also developing social behaviors - one thing you'll notice in nature, is redundancy and a sort of multitasking pattern, i.e., a thing seldom serves a single purpose - this even occurs on the genetic level, the "irreducible complexity" argument was based on it, but it's usually a misnomer to think of even a gene serving only one purpose like a gear in a machine, there is redundancy, overlapping functionality, synergistic combination - it's recently been discovered that RNA plays a much more significant role in adaptation than previously thought, it can combine and recombine in ways that are, in a sense, Neo-Lamarkian.

A species of stationary phase mutation, that is probably simply swapping out segments of DNA and/or RNA between functional and "junk" DNA, which is itself probably a sort of library of past adaptations of no immediate functional utility.

All this background is to explain a particular phenomena, that IQ (a measure of certain traits our culture happens to value) or simply "Q", which, while heritable, is not fixed at birth - in humans, the variability appears to be on the order of about Ten points either direction under stable conditions, although like economics, it's a case of limited upside, unlimited downside - with a broad, balanced diet and social enrichment, a child can maximize neural density and cerebral organization - poor nutrition and social stress can inhibit these things - throw in physical abuse and/or neglect, neurotoxins like heavy metals, etc., and significant physical and structural brain damage/alteration can result, and the organism may revert to more fundamentally aggressive reptilian behavioral patterns in order to survive.

All of this is not to call into question anybody in particular's relationship or child rearing skills,, but rather to illustrate the critical role social stability has played over the course of human evolution: by enabling and enhancing K strategies via the group vehicle, it maximizes and optimizes the neotenic pattern, leading to a generational increases in neural density and cerebral organization: intelligence - intelligence that allows us to construct increasingly complex and predictive models of reality: weather patterns, vegetation, all varieties of cognitive mapping and abstract extrapolative reasoning.

Which of course includes symbolic communication and sharing of these things, culture, oral and literary traditions, religious narratives (mnemonic devices)  etc., that enabled our protohuman progenitors to survive and thrive in the harsh and unstable climatic conditions that prevailed over most of the course of human evolution - vast areas of terrain cycled between forest, Savannah, desert, and arctic conditions, often within a span of mere decades - incredibly rapid shifts from a geologic standpoint - literally within the span of single generation, even a lifetime.

It was these unstable climatic conditions that essentially drove human evolution in fact: bipedalism, increasingly sophisticated ways of regulating internal tempreture - Apes don't sweat: perspiration was a critical adaptation in human biological evolution, expanding the temperature ranges and conditions we can survive in, and increasing long range mobility.

In fact, there are traces of modern traits going back millions of years, but in spite of snarking about Cavemen, the last significant genetic adaptations occurred at least 75kyrs ago, approximately around the time of the Koba super-eruption when the entire human population may have been pared down to mere Thousands.

To get back to your 1:99 ratio, there is a lower limit on how far genetic diversity can be minimized and still maintain a healthy population, a biologist could tell what it is, but in any case, among humans, males who are willing to help defray female reproductive costs constribute more than semen, they contribute resources, and social enrichment (MPI) thus further enhancing and accelerating the neotenic developmental dynamic.

In the really, really, short version of this - things are the way they are, whatever they are, for a reason, it's very useful to study it, but trying to second guess it amounts to jumping to conclusions that may prove unsupportable after all the other complexities are factored in.

The sort of abstract social schemes to watch out for are essentially those that attempt to compete by reducing overall diversity, representing competition to specific instantiations of the broader pattern, Christianity vs. Islam for example, the "clash of civilizations" - they are both really simply slightly different instantiations of the same meta pattern that stress slightly different externalities - the fundamentalists of both resemble each other more closely than they resemble the semi-urban industrial parent cultures in which they are embedded in 20th century terms. Christianity reflects an agrarian social/economic value system, Islam a pastoral one, is the major distinction.

We owe our success as a species to specialization within a generalist framework - underlying all our specialization and divisions of labor is a fundamental social and behavioral flexibility that allows us to innovate new behavioral patterns in order to adapt to changing conditions.

What doesn't really change are r and K strategies, and there are opportunity costs associated with each: r strategies tend to be adopted under environmental and social stress; the group vehicle has essentially broken down and when this happens, a given individual or a population will often resort to opportunistic breeding strategies.

This tends to increase genetic diversity in terms of heritable morphological, biological, and psychological traits, inherited immunities, metabolic differences, etc., which is in a sense, the act of not putting all your eggs in one basket - increasingthe diversity of your offspring ensures the probability that at least some will survive to reproduce themselves.

The opportunity cost here is often in terms of K strategy, i.e., either parent may be less willing to devote resources and/or social enrichment to children to whom they are less directly related, etc., "evil stepmother" syndrome, or as is more more popular at the moment, "evil stepfather" syndrome - it can cut both ways if the group vehicle is not repaired.

By contrast, K strategies really are the bread and butter of human evolution, but they can and do incur an opportunity cost in terms of genetic diversity.

In short, it takes all kinds: diversity works on many, many levels, and in spite of the common varieties of social risk theory being promulgated, "the gay agenda", etc.,  the greatest demonstrable risk to the meta order is probably overspecialization and monoculture rather than any fractional incidence of statistical deviance - that deviance is itself in fact, the very vehicle of human physical and social evolution.

Based on this, I think you can begin to construct a predictive model of what the likely outcome of a 1:99 male:female ratio might be - and again, I think we're talking Pitcairn here.

Fortunately, that sort of thing doesn't happen very often.


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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 10:46:43 AM   
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I did not read every page but i kept coming back. It evolved from Misogyny and hating women, then somehow evolved to Racism then to ethics, then to a questioning of ethics. These changes seemed to be led by Psychonauts changing his point.


I kept it thematically on-point by taking some liquid paper to my dictionary and changing the definition of "misogyny" to "hatred of psychonaut."



I dont hate him. I dont like his arrogance but when discussing racism he was pretty on point and the discourse between him and Elizabella was amazing. Its only when hes disagreed with and he "thinks" hes superior that things go awry.


I don't hate him either. I just like tying tangents together.

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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 11:19:02 AM   
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Have fun, though given the rest of your comment, I think we both know this is a pretty spurious question and you already know the answer.


Allow me to begin by quoting the article you linked to:
[...]that no human has ever satisfied this criterion[...]
Accordingly, it makes every kind of sense to ask who determines whether someone is rational or not, or- alternately- by what criterion is the assessment made that someone is sufficiently rational to qualify as "being rational." This is a question that lies at the foundation of the problem of informed consent, which medical ethics has struggled with for a significant amount of time without arriving at any conclusive, repeatable or universal answer, let alone an objective one.

Furthermore, the assumption that rationality is a prerequisite is just that: an assumption. It is a given, just like a deontic system may take the dictates of some favored deity or prophet as being given, or a Gorean might take the knowability and beneficiality of human nature as a given. All of these are assumptions upon which the remainder of a system, thesis or theory is built, and there has so far been no convincing argument to the effect that one particular system or group of systems is objectively (i.e. without such assumptions) correct or the right one or anything like that.

Now, you expressed quite clearly that you were unable to follow my argument, which Elisabella demonstrated that she was able to follow. Accordingly, I will make two assumptions: (a) that I should present my arguments in a manner that is more accessible, and (b) that full comprehension of a subject as complicated as the original works of Kant is beyond your abilities. Please do not take offense at the latter, as you are in good company: the man wouldn't be exceptional if his arguments and thinking were within reach of just anyone.

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Nice.  You just defined any approach that is contra your own as irrational.


Yes. That is correct.

I defined my approach first. My approach is well put by an author I will slightly paraphrase here:
"The only sovereign I can allow to rule me is reason. The first law of reason is this: what is, is. From this irreducible, bedrock principle, all knowledge is built. It is the foundation from which life is embraced. Reason is a choice. Wishes and whims are not facts, nor are they a means to discover them. Reason is our only means of grasping reality; it is our basic tool of survival. We are free to avoid the effort of thinking, to reject reason, but we are not free to avoid the cliff we refuse to see."
In my approach, it is thus admitted that humans think in a certain way, and that certain human functions that are built into our minds- such as morality- also work in a certain way. When making moral decisions, the human mind does not (in its normal state) employ the principle of universality. Yes, I am quite familiar with the specific meaning of the term in this context. Research into the human mind does not support any notion that we employ universality in moral thought.

We may intellectually think in ways that our morality is unable to, but that is discipline in behavior, not morality. I can use discipline to tell myself that I shall exhibit sympathy when a coworker is whining about a non-problem, but that is not empathy. I can use discipline to tell myself that I shall aim two inches behind the most rigid part of a glass window and strike it with as much force as possible to free someone from an overheating car with locked doors, but that isn't aggression or violence, nor does it conform to what my instincts tell me about avoiding harm.

When striking the car window as I explained, it will shatter, and I will suffer minor cuts and swollen knuckles at most, along with some pain from compressing the nerves. Natural would be to find an object to break it with. I have seen a woman try to break such a window with a fire extinguisher and fail. Natural would be to strike dead center. But if I do that, the small elasticity of the window will dramatically reduce the shear force and only my hand will be hurt. Natural would be to aim at the surface. But if I do that, hard wired reflexes will start to slow my hand down before impact to avoid overextending it, and the blow will not be strong enough to break the window, again hurting my hand. Natural would be to hesitate to use full force from the expectation that striking a hard surface will cause injury. But I know I have the strength to break the window if I apply full force in the right place. I know that hesitation will cause failure to break the window. I know that either the window or my hand will be damaged, not both, so I must make it be the window. And I bear the window no malice. I have no fight or flight response. I do not feel a threat. I do not seek to cause harm to the window.

Those are intellectual knowledge that I use to override what nature has provided (which is otherwise sensible).

When I am expressing sympathy for the coworker, I know what facial expressions to make, what tone of voice to use, what words to say, when to say them, and so on and so forth. I give a credible impression of sympathy that passes the cursory inspection of watercooler talk or a conversation at lunch. But I do not feel sympathy for his plight. On my scale of problems, cutting a vacation short- when one has been taking a vacation every year- ranks as a minor nuisance that doesn't call for sympathy. I do, however, feel sympathy for the homeless people who are afraid to go to sleep in the extreme cold this year. It is not that I lack the faculty, but rather that the former scenario doesn't cause a natural response, while the latter does.

Again, I am using intellect and discipline to effect a goal, instead of saying "shut up, you spoiled twat."

So, too, with universality.

I can employ universality in an intellectual exercise. I can choose to behave according to the outcome of an intellectual exercise. But it is not morality that regulates my behavior in that case. Rather, it is my intellect that does so. Morality is a seperate mechanism that is built into the human mind. It does not support universality, as evidenced by much research.

Using my intellect consciously, I can determine what would be the correct course of action for a person with a morality that is different from my own morality. For instance, I am sufficiently familiar with the Qu'ran to say what some Muslim should do in a given situation, most of the time. And I can choose to act in accordance with that. I can even choose to act as a Muslim should in the situation, even when doing so would be contrary to my own morality. That would cause guilt, however, because I had not acted according to my morality.

That should explain quite clearly that morality is seperate from an intellectual effort that looks like it.

And I posit that anything that the human faculty for morality cannot support is not morality.

Thus, what I outlined, is that there are a limited set of options allowed by the facts:
  • You can assert that morality is inherently universal. It is a fact that the human faculty for morality cannot support the principle of universality. Therefore, this assertion also asserts that humans are inherently incapable of being moral. Since it asserts that humans cannot be moral, it becomes pointless to discuss, and we must look for something meaningful that humans can be instead.
  • You can assert that morality is not inherently universal. In this case, humans can be moral. In this case, universal morality is not a requirement.
  • You can refuse to accept reality and believe that humans are something they are not. That is, according to the commonly accepted definition, a delusion: acting and thinking according to a demonstrably false belief. Delusions are by definition irrational.
My approach is to address what humans can be, and I refer to what humans can be as "moral."

The alternative is the third option, which is defined as being irrational.

·QED·

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Sure, that's pretty much what I said.  Also, I love how I'm being called a pompous ass and posuer for talking about this in real language, and everyone is all "Aswad is so smart" when you're just fucking piling on the useless jargony verbiage.


It is not "pretty much" what you said. It has superficial similarities. And I am actually not all that familiar with the jargon. Instead, I use the words or phrases which make sense to me as a layperson. Sometimes, those words are not in the active vocabularies of people who spend less time reading, writing and thinking about such things. That is easily remedied by asking me to clarify, or by using a dictionary, or both.

I have said before, and will say again, that it does not diminish my perception of a person to have them ask me to explain something I have said, or to rephrase it, or to clarify something about it. What does diminish my perception of a person, is when they do not do so, but instead dismiss the content of what I have said on the basis of prejudices against the manner in which I have said it, so long as I have been civil and have made an honest attempt at communicating clearly.

I do possess an above average vocabulary and intelligence, and I keep them both in shape by using them to the best of my abilities. I do not in any way, shape or form look down upon anyone who has a smaller vocabulary or less intelligence. I realize I sometimes come across as lecturing or the like, and that is not intentional, so I apologize when it is pointed out to me in a civil manner. I also realize that some people become unduly self-conscious when encountering someone who is better at something. I know that feeling well, as people are frequently good at things I am horrible at, but want to be good at. But I would never dream to hold it against others that they are good at these things, or ask them to make themselves less for me. Nor will I pretend to be less than I am. However, I would not seek to actively make others feel that unpleasant feeling by parading an advantage.

That, presumably, is why you get dismissed as pompous, whereas I am less frequently dismissed.

Not that it doesn't happen, mind you. But it is infrequent, and it is far more common that others simply don't have the time for the volume I tend to post, which I understand and do not take offense at, or at least no lasting offense (I am human like anyone else, after all). As I recall, Red is one of those who have said as much. I believe I did respond in a negative manner to that at the time, mostly because I enjoyed the exchanges, but those feelings were quickly replaced with understanding of her choice and the reasons for it.

That, presumably, is part of the reason I am lauded by some: I make an effort to remember that there's a human on the other side of the conversation, and to understand their motivations and intentions without ascribing malice to them, and to correct any negative emotional responses I may experience when there is no cause to assume malice.

I am not put off by your posting as some here are, but neither am I impressed by it.

Your arguments so far do not hold, but I am open to the idea that you may be able to demonstrate that your view is correct. If you will engage in rational debate, and be open to the idea that your views may also not be correct, then there is a discussion which can result in increased insight and understanding for all parties, and which can result in both parties being right at the end, from having adopted the stance that is shown to be correct in the course of the debate. I see little indication that such is likely so far, but I'm fine with an exchange of ideas and arguments, as well. The readers will form their own opinions.

See, I'm also invested in being right.

But the rational approach to being right is to discard one's point of view if it isn't the right one, and instead adopting the point of view which is right, whatever it may be. In that way, one can have the ego-wise gratification of being right with none of the baggage, because one is not seeking to demonstrate that one was right from the start, but rather seeking to be right or become right. That way, rationality and honesty can coexist with the gratifying state of being right. Again, I see little evidence of that line of thinking in your posts so far, and I would urge you to try it.

You may find, as I did, that you like that form of being right better.

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I don't accept this premise in so much as I can't tell what the fuck your actually saying.


I was saying that you can't demonstrate that a morality is true or false.

You can only demonstrate that it is consistent with itself, or that it contradicts itself.

Further, I said that the reason this is so, is that when you have stripped everything down to the smallest pieces of logic and ideas, you are left with parts that cannot be proved or disproved. The parts you are left with can be compared to some ideal, such as that forwarded by Kant. When comparing in that way, however, you are not determining truth. Instead, you are determining if the morality is approved by the ideal you compare it to. And that ideal is not objective. In fact, it cannot be objective. Some of the reasons for that were thoroughly covered by Wittgenstein. Others have been formally proven in advanced mathematics (when they were making models for black holes).

I hope that is clearer.

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I still have no idea what this is supposed to actually mean.


It means you have decided what a morality may be, on no other basis than how you think a morality should be. It also means that how you think a morality should be is a part of your morality. A part that deals with how to think about, and behave with regard to, other moralities. That is the part of morality which can contain such things as tolerance and the ability to see others' points of view as valid and so on. It is a part that Kohlberg wrote about as stage 5 of the moral development of humans, but he didn't generalize his ideas as I have done here, rather leaving his work incomplete.

Finally, I commented that this makes you no different from anyone else with a fixed, absolute system of morals that contains some notion of tolerance: you will accept as valid those moralities that are similar to your own, but reject the validity of moralities that differ much from your own. As an example, a Catholic will see the validity of the Protestant view, even if they don't agree with it, but the beliefs of a Satanist are beyond what they can tolerate, so they reject that as invalid.

As a moral relativist, I accept all moralities as equally valid to my own. That does not mean that I will sit idly by when someone acts in a way I will not put up with. It means that I will act according to my own morality, and others will act according to theirs. It means that when I meet a person who faithfully adheres to values I dislike, I will consider that person to be a highly moral person, and respect that about them, even though I don't like them overall. It means that I do not claim that any one morality I approve of is correct, while others are wrong.

As a moral relativist, I act according to my morals and the reality around me, while I judge the moral quality of others according to the morality they profess to adhere to. The two are seperate things. One is the situation I am in, where I act according to my own beliefs. The other is one specific quality of another person- the quality of being moral- that I see as being entirely specific to that person and that person's worldview and beliefs. Thus, when I judge the quality of being moral, I judge it in the context of the person, and since that person's morality is part of that person in my view (seeing as morality does not have a seperate, objective existence), I judge that quality according to that person's own standards. As such, I judge them the way they would judge themselves if they saw themselves from the outside and tried to be honest in their judgment.

quote:

Again, I'm the one being called a pompous poseur?


If you will be more specific in your implication that I have done or said something objectionable, I will duly address that implication. I was, for the most part, addressing claims you had made previously, with some additional commentary. If there was anything incorrect, distasteful, inappropriate or otherwise objectionable about that, I would appreciate if you could point it out to me in a more specific manner, so that I may address the problem.

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I dare anyone -- Elizabella, luscious, anyone -- to translate that paragraph into English and explain what he just said.  I doubt any of you can do it.


Elisabella did it, so your doubts are unfounded.

She simplified a couple of minor points, presumably for the sake of clarity, but clearly demonstrated that she fully understood what I meant by that passage.

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So...demonstrate how its false.


I have pretty much done so.

What remains is to adequately explain the demonstration to you.

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Maybe.  Its hard to say when you bury whatever it is you're trying to say under this sort of needless wordiness and complexity.


If and when you find something needlessly wordy or complicated, feel free to point out the relevant passage and the error you think I have made. I will be happy to explain the purpose of the exact wording used in any passage, or to admit fault if there is fault, and I will also be happy to explain anything that appears complicated in a manner that is more readily accessible (though, as a general rule, that will take more space than the version that appears complicated). There may also be cases where the complexity is because something is implicit, assumed to be known (based on your posting history, usually), or uses terms that carry with them a connotation or context that is not explicitly stated, and I will also be happy to make such things explicit in the interest of clarity, where necessary.

Also, someone noted that my habit of using long sentences and subclauses can be difficult to read.

That is partially an occupational hazard, and partially a consequence of English not being my native language. The Germanic languages have several words that require a full subclause or extensive rephrasing to express in English, and since I am a native speaker of Norwegian, the result will inevitably be that some ideas that are single words in my language become not only multiple words but multiple ideas in English, and accordingly I don't notice that reading the result is harder than what would be the case when a native speaker writes (since a native speaker "feels" the "size" of the words, and has them seperately in their mind, and can thus readily split the idea over several sentences where I have to think carefully about how the idea should be split).

If that aspect of my writing is a problem for you, let me know, and I will try to keep the answer to short sentences in Simple English with no nested subclauses and few single subclauses. If you prefer, I can also rigidly adhere to the Simple English syntax, grammar and vocabulary as per an up to date dictionary for that subset of the English language. It's not that I can't write accessibly, merely that it takes more effort to do so in some cases, and that I need to be aware of it. Language is a habit, too, after all.

Health,
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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 11:26:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

That's two very, very different interpretations of what Aswad said, which is precisely why I didn't respond to him at first. There are too many ways to interpret what he said, and to engage with all of those possibilities would be a labor beyond my interest.


Actually, they're not very different. They're worded differently.

One emphasizes brevity and the gist of what I said; the other emphasizes an accurate redition of what I said.

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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 11:40:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

I have to say one thing, I absolutely feel like an ass for my prior stance on the Gorean mentality I had, Aswad and especially Orion, thank you for your words and your opinions here, please accept my huge apologies. Elisabella as well. Mea Culpa. It's an ignorant person that cannot learn from their mistakes, no? Oh and sorry, Kimveri too.


It is always encouraging when people see a new perspective or discover that something is different than they thought. I, for one, would like to compliment you on that. It is rare to see someone learn to look past a preconception. Please read the part I wrote about being right in my reply to Psychonaut, probably on page 45-46, if you have time, as I believe you may find it encouraging. And no need to apologize on my account, at least. My opinions of the Gorean lifestyles was far more negative than yours when I first arrived here. It is quite understandable.

You've brightened my day. Thank you.

Health,
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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 11:48:19 AM   
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I used to be on here but I've been away for quite some time. In the month that I've been back, I must say that this thread has been the most entertaining aspect of the whole site. It has at times been hard to keep up with since topics and conversations sometimes elevate and decline rapidly and gun related cat fights abound while the discussions sometimes actually get very philosophical and even touch upon the subject of Misogyny and BDSM from time to time. Some of you are very witty and some of you would argue with a fence post. That makes for excellent reading material. I'm not standing back and judging mind you. Did I mention that I had a time just keeping up? LoL  I did find myself wishing that I had studied French in school as there were parts there where I didn't have a clue. If someone had quoted something from John Donne in English or Cervantes in Spanish  I might have stood a chance. I believe that many current concepts as to how women are viewed are not only held because of scientific DNA and caveman reasoning if you will, but also because of the very strong and powerful role of women as portrayed through the Catholic Church in western society especially in Paul's assessment of women who should be submissive and of course silent in church. I maybe would  like to hear Mister Al-Aswad's thoughts on such an angle perhaps. I agree with the poster who said that points of philosophy are difficult to argue using science as a basis for arguing, but question why anyone would even want to do that. It is kind of like the apples and oranges thing to me. Anyway, this seems to be a very strong, willful, and somewhat knowledgeable group overall from what I've read on here so far and I am grateful to have read all of your posts.

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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 11:50:05 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aswad

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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

That's two very, very different interpretations of what Aswad said, which is precisely why I didn't respond to him at first. There are too many ways to interpret what he said, and to engage with all of those possibilities would be a labor beyond my interest.


Actually, they're not very different. They're worded differently.

One emphasizes brevity and the gist of what I said; the other emphasizes an accurate redition of what I said.

Health,
al-Aswad.



Yea, I thought he needed the gist and brevity as he said he couldn't undertand it.

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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 11:54:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterCsea

I used to be on here but I've been away for quite some time. In the month that I've been back, I must say that this thread has been the most entertaining aspect of the whole site. It has at times been hard to keep up with since topics and conversations sometimes elevate and decline rapidly and gun related cat fights abound while the discussions sometimes actually get very philosophical and even touch upon the subject of Misogyny and BDSM from time to time. Some of you are very witty and some of you would argue with a fence post. That makes for excellent reading material. I'm not standing back and judging mind you. Did I mention that I had a time just keeping up? LoL I did find myself wishing that I had studied French in school as there were parts there where I didn't have a clue. If someone had quoted something from John Donne in English or Cervantes in Spanish I might have stood a chance. I believe that many current concepts as to how women are viewed are not only held because of scientific DNA and caveman reasoning if you will, but also because of the very strong and powerful role of women as portrayed through the Catholic Church in western society especially in Paul's assessment of women who should be submissive and of course silent in church. I maybe would like to hear Mister Al-Aswad's thoughts on such an angle perhaps. I agree with the poster who said that points of philosophy are difficult to argue using science as a basis for arguing, but question why anyone would even want to do that. It is kind of like the apples and oranges thing to me. Anyway, this seems to be a very strong, willful, and somewhat knowledgeable group overall from what I've read on here so far and I am grateful to have read all of your posts.


Thanks and welcome! I kind of enjoy the brain stretching myself! I look forward to your imput!

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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 11:56:21 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19


quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterCsea

I used to be on here but I've been away for quite some time. In the month that I've been back, I must say that this thread has been the most entertaining aspect of the whole site. It has at times been hard to keep up with since topics and conversations sometimes elevate and decline rapidly and gun related cat fights abound while the discussions sometimes actually get very philosophical and even touch upon the subject of Misogyny and BDSM from time to time. Some of you are very witty and some of you would argue with a fence post. That makes for excellent reading material. I'm not standing back and judging mind you. Did I mention that I had a time just keeping up? LoL I did find myself wishing that I had studied French in school as there were parts there where I didn't have a clue. If someone had quoted something from John Donne in English or Cervantes in Spanish I might have stood a chance. I believe that many current concepts as to how women are viewed are not only held because of scientific DNA and caveman reasoning if you will, but also because of the very strong and powerful role of women as portrayed through the Catholic Church in western society especially in Paul's assessment of women who should be submissive and of course silent in church. I maybe would like to hear Mister Al-Aswad's thoughts on such an angle perhaps. I agree with the poster who said that points of philosophy are difficult to argue using science as a basis for arguing, but question why anyone would even want to do that. It is kind of like the apples and oranges thing to me. Anyway, this seems to be a very strong, willful, and somewhat knowledgeable group overall from what I've read on here so far and I am grateful to have read all of your posts.






If it was my post your refering to, I actually said you cant be "right" or "wrong" Arguing philosophy, because it isn't scientific, therefore can not be proved or disproved.

Thanks and welcome! I kind of enjoy the brain stretching myself! I look forward to your imput!


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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 12:13:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: xssve

As I responded earlier, your 1:99 male:female ratio hypothetical is essentially accurate from a basic biological perspective, in term of simple reproductive capacity, but it is a bit more complicated than that - again, reduced to the simplest terms, males essentially contribute only semen, a mere pittance in terms of reproductive costs, whereas female reproductive costs are substantial.

In nature, there are two basic strategies that reflect this: r and K strategies - in r strategies, females reproduce in large numbers - typically, this is a strategy to offset high rates of attrition amongst those offspring, and large numbers are a way of ensuring that at least some fraction will survive to reproduce themselves.

K strategies, by contrast, entail fewer progeny, but rather than being cast adrift to fend for themselves from the moment of birth, they are allowed to further develop within a protected social space, and this usually includes both extended gestation (which increases the physical vulnerability of the gravid female), and extended childhood and adolescence - neoteny, which again, benefits from synergistic social arrangements, more resources and sublimation of autonomous utility in order to optimize and maintain the group vehicle.

Without all the gobbledygook, this means a dyad, a synergistic alliance of  male and female, the simplest most fundamental social arrangement, and some degree of social cooperation between them, divisions of labor, sublimation of aggression over resources or reproductive opportunities, etc.


Kudos for bringing up r and k type reproductive trade-offs; it's not a talking point I thought I'd see on a Collarme message board.

One small nit: it was the Toba super eruption you are referring to, I believe.

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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 12:39:49 PM   
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Yes. Toba was approx 70,000 years ago. Yellowstone approx 750,000 years ago. The National Geographic survey has suggested-not concluded that modern man comes from those who survived. I would like to point out that the evidence is not conclusive as there are small pockets of DNA in areas of the world which thus far deny explanation if that is indeed the case. Examples in point are the Basque and certain sw tribes of the United States. Interesting posts indeed.

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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 12:59:24 PM   
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Actually, there are a zillion posts on here so I can't be sure Luciouslips if I was relating more to your post or to the one who actually was trying to argue philosophy with science. LOL You did make an excellent point.

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RE: Misogyny and BDSM - 1/5/2010 1:00:41 PM   
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What did I say? 



Oh - yes, Toba, that is correct, thank you.

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