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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

i wrote this years ago, after i had been an Owned (non-Gorean) slave for about 3 years living 24/7 with my Master in NYC.  i'm posting it as i remembered it after replying to subtlebottomgirl's thread about getting past fears.  i'm not posting it as the "ultimate" list, just my experience and what i learned.  

1. Slavery is not all about you and what you want, nor what you fantasize it should be. It isn’t always fun, and sometimes is very, very difficult. Physical pain is the absolute least of the difficulties you will have to deal with.

2. No one, including your Master, will control you 24/7. The only 24/7 control that is possible is created in your mind.

3. The word “no” is not the worst thing you can say. The worst thing you can say is “WHY?” (***note: Saying “i don’t understand” is not the same as saying “Why?”)

4. No matter how much you may wish, there are no fairies or pixies that will come and clean your Master’s dirty clothes, scrub the toilets, make the beds, clean up the dust bunnies, pay the bills, do the taxes, take out the garbage, or ensure that there are always groceries in the refrigerator and a meal on the table. And no, these things will not be done for you, and no, they will not magically disappear, while you are being tied up, beaten, or fucked.

5. And no, asking your Master for a maid will not make number 4 go away either.

6. Being caged, fucked, tortured, tied up, and played with are pleasures and premiums that your Master will reward you with when he chooses. They will not be your daily life, no matter how much of a fantasy you may have in your mind about what being a slave means.

7. If you are a 24/7 slave without outside employment, the question “What do you do?” when asked by vanilla people in polite conversation is really difficult (and sometimes funny) to answer.

8. Your Master *will* find the way to motivate you to do what he wants – and no, it will not be the way that you want or enjoy either. Hiding the cane doesn’t work. Trust me on this.

9. The goal of slavery is not some mythical spiritual journey of elves and unicorns – it is learning to get over yourself, your inhibitions, your desires, your emotions, and your issues, and becoming what your Master actually wants you to be...even if you don’t like it and it is amazingly painful at first.

10. Just because you want it doesn’t mean it will happen. And trying to manipulate your Master into making it happen means that he will put it off even longer.

11. Number 10 includes sneaking him hints about diamond jewelry and a hot tub.

12. You will go where your Master wants to go, eat what he wants to eat, and listen to what he wants to listen to. If you’re a vegetarian, you will still go eat at steakhouses with him and eat whatever vegetables you can find on the menu - and endure the smirking waiter. If you’ve heard the same punk rock album 4 times in a row, you will still smile and act perky when he starts it for a fifth.

13. Always remember that the initial “rush” of being owned WILL go away. And once it’s gone you will still be with the same Master – so choose wisely.

14. Being mindful is much more important and necessary than being mindless. There is nothing wrong with being smart and assertive as a slave - just always remember the respect required by your dynamic.


The biggie:
15. The moment that will define your slavery is that first moment when he commands you to do something and you really, really, really, to the core of your being, DO NOT want to do that thing. What you do - at that moment - will determine what path you will continue down as a slave.

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ORIGINAL: osf

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

i wrote this years ago, after i had been an Owned (non-Gorean) slave for about 3 years living 24/7 with my Master in NYC.  i'm posting it as i remembered it after replying to subtlebottomgirl's thread about getting past fears.  i'm not posting it as the "ultimate" list, just my experience and what i learned.  

you're not gonna be liked around here

a comment on the mind,, if you own the body, you own the mind, make good use of both

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ORIGINAL: Underumam

Thank you Unique Raven...As one who is stepping into a new slave position, I can relate and appreciate your candor and frankness. I realize that your observations are primarily from a females slaves perspective, but the reality is almost identical from my point of view. Many begin this way of life with images of sexual slavery and all the crap that the internet shows us which are almost NEVER a big part of any slaves reality.

Thanks again for this thread.......

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven


7. If you are a 24/7 slave without outside employment, the question “What do you do?” when asked by vanilla people in polite conversation is really difficult (and sometimes funny) to answer.

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven


7. If you are a 24/7 slave without outside employment, the question “What do you do?” when asked by vanilla people in polite conversation is really difficult (and sometimes funny) to answer.

This is really something that anyone who is a stay at home wife or mother has to deal with, it doesn't matter what "lifestyle" you are in.

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven


7. If you are a 24/7 slave without outside employment, the question “What do you do?” when asked by vanilla people in polite conversation is really difficult (and sometimes funny) to answer.

This is really something that anyone who is a stay at home wife or mother has to deal with, it doesn't matter what "lifestyle" you are in.

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Also many men figured it out anyway somehow, many men i think can just sense when you have that air of slavery and/or submission about you.  Those were interesting conversations to tap dance around when confined next to a strange man for 3 hours on a plane, ha ha!

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

this slave has learned that:
 
there is no One-True-Way of slavery, only what resonates as true for the individual slave.  "real" slavery isn't limited to activites or relationships that are against one's will, contrary to one's natural inclination or by an act of force.

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ORIGINAL: yellowroses

However, I still get that warm and fuzzy feeling everytime I greet Him at the door when He comes home from work.

kim

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

this slave has learned that:
 
there is no One-True-Way of slavery, only what resonates as true for the individual slave.  "real" slavery isn't limited to activites or relationships that are against one's will, contrary to one's natural inclination or by an act of force.

Absolutely, and thank you for pointing that out.  There are lots of fun and wonderful things about being a slave, and it isn't about being forced to do things all the time - one is motivated to serve, not forced to do so.  These are just the things that i learned as realities vs. the fantasies that are so often portrayed, especially on the internet.  Thank you for your comments, and i really enjoy what you both post as well.

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7. If you are a 24/7 slave without outside employment, the question “What do you do?” when asked by vanilla people in polite conversation is really difficult (and sometimes funny) to answer.