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DrkJourney -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 1:31:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EbonyWood quote: ORIGINAL: DrkJourney I'll give you that one...I was trying to read that thread I kept dozing off...lol That damn thing grew by 3 pages while I was reading it. It was Joe the Penis thread. And the wimmin had knives. Mostly for each other. My way is better, DJ. hmmm....darn...might have to agree with ya on this one ok but they need to use choc pudding...jello just doesn't have the same effect...lol

lronitulstahp -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 1:31:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 boys, boys, would you rather we did some jello wrestling? I seem to recall a while back that we all thought that would be some big fun...but any color but red; it clashes with my hair and now, Aqua's.[;)] *In my best Edith Bunker...."Those were the daaayyyysssssss!!!!!"*

DrkJourney -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 1:32:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 boys, boys, would you rather we did some jello wrestling? I seem to recall a while back that we all thought that would be some big fun...but any color but red; it clashes with my hair and now, Aqua's.[;)] *In my best Edith Bunker...."Those were the daaayyyysssssss!!!!!"* ooook....now I'm a-skeerd....lol

AquaticSub -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 1:50:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EbonyWood Watching AquaticSub and SexyRed1 make up. Yeah this is good, real good. Start throwing bills, I'll make it better... [:D] quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 We never fought, but I can see how this could create some hot imagery for you...:) Two redheads... why do I want to start singing the doublemint commerical? quote: ORIGINAL: sexred1 boys, boys, would you rather we did some jello wrestling? I seem to recall a while back that we all thought that would be some big fun...but any color but red; it clashes with my hair and now, Aqua's.[;)] Ooo ooo, I like the blue flavor!!!! Someday I really do want to wrestle sexy women in jello...

AquaticSub -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 1:52:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EbonyWood I know you didn't, but all good soft porn has a suspension of disbelief. Now shaddup and bend her over. Yeah, real slow like...nice. I'm ok with this! And I'm pretty sure Val is too! [:D][:D][:D] quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 I hear ya...and to make one small adjustment, it would be best if she bent me over...not sure how she feels but this is your fantasy and I am just helping...I'm like that you know. :) Ya know... I'm willing to give new things a shot! [;)]

mnottertail -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 1:59:24 PM)
here this guys life is crashing around him and you're setting up fuckfests. love it. It's all about the kink, the idea, that's the big red one. Ron

EbonyWood -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 2:04:28 PM)
OK, I read back, being the sensitive guy I am. His missus is reading Story of O, not a big life crasher. Goes back to fuckfest.

mnottertail -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 2:22:08 PM)
LOL. Happy New Year, EbonyWood, hope to see you next year if the world doesn't end tonight. If it does, I'll catch you at that party. Ron

sunshinemiss -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 3:10:42 PM)
I find it hard to believe that there is absolutely no kink in anybody. I mean, come on... are you really saying, OP, that you don't enjoy a good throw down? Are you really saying that the idea of telling her to give you a blow job and no arguing isn't hot? Are you really saying that you don't pull her hair, bite her neck, throw a little swat on the ass? I'm not saying I think everyone ought to be a little shibari guru or a full 4 hour session of interrogation, but I think most people have some kink in them. I'm thinking Shemar Moore, Criminal Minds, sigh. Where was I? Oh yeah... You call her up, you say "baby, I want you to wear that sexy red bra under your blouse today. And a skirt. No panties. And you can't touch yourself. Have x ready for dinner at 6 p.m. And don't say a word when I get in the door until I tell you to." I guarantee you, she will be thinking allllll day about the no panties. And although she probably wouldn't touch herself anyway, the "order" is what makes that really hot. And being told to be quiet... purrrrrrrr.... So I need a shower now... or sumpin... mmm hmmmm. the hot sun...

EbonyWood -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 3:16:46 PM)
Same to you Ron. Be safe. I expect you to be less serious in '10. Excuse me while I kiss the sky. Jimmy It's the end of the Noughties!

EbonyWood -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 3:21:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss I find it hard to believe that there is absolutely no kink in anybody. I mean, come on... are you really saying, OP, that you don't enjoy a good throw down? Are you really saying that the idea of telling her to give you a blow job and no arguing isn't hot? Are you really saying that you don't pull her hair, bite her neck, throw a little swat on the ass? I'm not saying I think everyone ought to be a little shibari guru or a full 4 hour session of interrogation, but I think most people have some kink in them. I'm thinking Shemar Moore, Criminal Minds, sigh. Where was I? Oh yeah... You call her up, you say "baby, I want you to wear that sexy red bra under your blouse today. And a skirt. No panties. And you can't touch yourself. Have x ready for dinner at 6 p.m. And don't say a word when I get in the door until I tell you to." I guarantee you, she will be thinking allllll day about the no panties. And although she probably wouldn't touch herself anyway, the "order" is what makes that really hot. And being told to be quiet... purrrrrrrr.... So I need a shower now... or sumpin... mmm hmmmm. the hot sun... Would like to interrogate sunny for AT LEAST 4 hours. No, foot stools do NOT talk.

LafayetteLady -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 4:07:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss I'm thinking Shemar Moore, Criminal Minds, sigh. Ok, I don't care what kind of sex Shemar Moore wants, if he asks, demands, begs me, I'll give him what he wants. But back to the OP. While I don't disagree with those who say that it can be difficult to work out when one just can't get "into it," I disagree in this case. I get the sense from the OP that his wife doesn't seem to want D/s ALL the time. quote:* The only time that she is ever "in the mood" is when she reads the d/s stuff. This I think is the difference between them being able to work it out and not. If she wanted the full on D/s, Ron's suggestion may work, but probably not. Ordering people around all day at work doesn't mean someone can come home and do it. I'm sure we are all aware of the number of subs, male and female, who have managerial positions and order people around all day. So then why would anyone not think those people could easily just leave their "boss" hat on at home? When two people are apart for a long period of time, it isn't uncommon for them to fantasize about doing anything and everything with their absent partner. Nothing wrong with it at all. Wanting to try it now that he is home is fine too. The key thing is the above quote. She doesn't want it all the time. Only when she reads the books or comes across something that sparks her interest. I think if he tries what AquaticSub and I suggested first, the odds of success are higher. Everyone saying that along the way he might find things he enjoys being dominant about are most likely to stem from that. quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub But have an honest talk with your wife. Tell her that you intend to do every damn thing you can to fulfill her fantasies and then share some of your own that you'd like her to fulfill. If you do your best and it's just not your thing, then she needs to understand that you are doing what you can and, as long as you are putting out with her fantasies, she needs to return the favor, ya know?

Jeffff -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 4:23:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail do I make you wanna do a mercy blowjob, honey? pitful as I am? look at that I cant even spell pitiful right, that helpin any? If bad spelling gets a blowjob.... I should be empty by now. Jeff

sexyred1 -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 4:36:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub quote: ORIGINAL: EbonyWood I know you didn't, but all good soft porn has a suspension of disbelief. Now shaddup and bend her over. Yeah, real slow like...nice. I'm ok with this! And I'm pretty sure Val is too! [:D][:D][:D] quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 I hear ya...and to make one small adjustment, it would be best if she bent me over...not sure how she feels but this is your fantasy and I am just helping...I'm like that you know. :) Ya know... I'm willing to give new things a shot! [;)] Oh good, I was hoping to be the subblier of the two of us, LOL

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 4:47:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: persephonee Okay....quick poll......who here has had actual carnal knowledge of a person of whatever sex they orient toward in the last....say.....5 years? October 4, 2009. Oops. Am I the only one that answered that? ~crawls away all embarrassed and stuff~

lally2 -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 5:10:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 Even though I love Ron and some of the other answers, I will have to disagree simply because I experienced this same thing. I always had a Dom and then I got married. My wonderful husband was not a Dom, had never been a Dom, was not particularly interested in being one until he met me. He fell in love with me and I him and we tried like hell to make that part work. We even went to couples counseling. No matter how much you love someone if your sexuality is out of tune with theirs (and especially in the D/s realm) sometimes no amount of trying (and boy, did my husband give it the good old college try) will work. He did not want our marriage to end, but because of this disparate issue and a few others, I had to end it. So, I would counsel the OP to really look at their dynamic and in the end, people have to be true to themselves and their sexuality. I could have cheated, but did not, he could have looked for someone who did want D/s, he did not. We respected each other enough to end it instead of staying in a relationship which otherwise good, was lacking in such an essential area. Tough situation, I can so relate....now I will only deal with men who are and want to be, a Dom. im with you on this one SR. you can do the whole role play acting thing maybe once or twice or more, but in time itll lose its edge and if he isnt that way wired it isnt gonna feel right for him anyway. you cant roleplay youre whole marriage and anyway, it isnt just about sex. if she's reading 'O' then she's way deeper than just wanting rough sex. personally, for me, i have to know the guy wants to do those things for HIMSELF first and foremost. if shes the same it wont work for her either. i dont have anything helpful to suggest that people havent already mentioned. i wish you the best. x

Jeffff -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 5:15:07 PM)
You and SR maybe be missing something. Many man were raised to respect women and treat them like princesses. When we run into...... different thoughts... beyond the norm, it can take a while to get your head around it. While nothing can help the truly disinterested, the OP seemed to want to try. Ron's post was excellent advice. It is not unlike visualizing success. If you want it BE it, until you ARE it. Jeff

sexyred1 -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 5:19:11 PM)
Jefff, haven't I posted that I agree the OP should try? I am not missing anything..I merely stated an example from my own experiences. I am surprised that you would think I or Lally would not be supportive of the OP; we are, but we are also realists.

Jeffff -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 5:22:25 PM)
Ok... cool...:) Jeff

osf -> RE: Not quite sure how to continue... (12/31/2009 6:55:33 PM)
quote: personally, for me, i have to know the guy wants to do those things for HIMSELF first and foremost. if shes the same it wont work for her either. you mean it's about me?

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