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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
A little off topic, but I think it ties in nicely. For me, I think my super-ego kicks in the rationale that no one is perfect and knows that I must evolve and look beneath the surface in order to reach my ideal and goals. Also, my own personal desires might not mesh with hegemony. Maybe I think a little beer belly is cute. As a friend always says, why have a six-pack when you can have a keg! Ha ha! Maybe someone will find me adorable in a robe and slippers and my hair in curlers (sorry, I don't schlep... in fact, I'm not even sure what schlep means!), thinking I'm showing him a vulnerable side of me, one I share with no one else, and likes the result when I finish getting ready.

- LA

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ORIGINAL: stella41b

Hmm interesting..

Only the id, ego and super-ego was revised by Dr Eric Berne into his (correspondingly) Child, Adult and Parent ego states for Transactional Analysis which I have myself have revised further as Experience, Self and Character in my own theory of universal theatre. I now call it DTA - Dramatic Transactional Analysis.

You see to me living is nothing more than a preoccupation with relationships - with yourself, with other people, with inanimate objects, with abstract concepts, with the world in general. Relationships happen in cycles and are cyclical in nature. Your relationship with your place of work is cyclical, you turn up at the office in the morning, you work through the day, you go home in the afternoon whenever you can knock off and you expect a salary every month. Same too with your partner, right down to the jiggy jiggy and kinky stuff, it's all cyclical.

But all relationships require both language and communication. Therefore we have:

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Some people create pressure on others (and others are put under such pressure) to communicate in ways which suits their own style of communication. Another element of communication is domination and submission, control and power, which occurs to some degree in most transactions between people. In fact some people seek out such communication styles and even form intimate relationships on the basis of such transactions and relationship cycles.

This is from my book 'You Me Them'..

Therefore to me your 'D/s disposition' is found in all three ego states because it's part of who you really are. It doesn't matter whether this was something natural which always existed within you or developed as a result of an experience in the past - it's still a part of you.

Now let's see how this works by way of an example. Let's take spanking for example. You have a male submissive who into spanking. He likes to be spanked. This need often manifests itself when he's insecure, or in a stressful situation and there are a lot of guys who in this situation will be looking for Madame Whiplash or Miss Parker Stern HeadMistress. This is quite normal, when we feel insecure or stressed we tend to reach out for the familiar even if it means going back to past or redundant relationship cycles. This is also why a straightforward bare bottom spanking doesn't always cut it for Mr Spanko, as he often needs to be taken back to the past (back into his Experience ego state or id) and given some traditional domestic discipline or a schoolroom scene, where he can go back into Character (the super-ego) as the naughty little boy who is being dealt with, and this hits the button and fulfils that need for discipline and gives him reassurance and self-confidence. Quite a few sissy maids go through a similar sort of process but in a different way.

Similarly as a dominant or submissive you slip into Character (super-ego) for scenes and play but the need comes from your Experience (id) and is very much related to Self (ego). It's all part of you, and all the three ego states are linked to each other to form a whole.