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osf -> early mistakes (12/31/2009 6:46:25 PM)
what were the relationship mistakes you made after you found out about bdsm mine was my first submissive , being new and not confident i screwed it up by not being forceful enough

RealSub58 -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 6:58:44 PM)
why are you always around here?? retired and not retread yet?? ooooooohhhhhhhhhhh ~~~~ that is what you are doing getting retread !

littlewonder -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:05:34 PM)
using bdsm as a crutch instead of actually going through a grieving process.

stella41b -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:13:04 PM)
Thinking it would be easier to find someone the more experienced and knowledgable I became.

osf -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:13:09 PM)
i thought this would be helpful to newbes and i'm glad to see you're into the spirit of things i'm not referring to you stella

itsmeinLV -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:15:39 PM)
Getting emotionally attached to people (and a situation) I should not have gotten myself attached to...

osf -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:16:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RealSub58 why are you always around here?? retired and not retread yet?? ooooooohhhhhhhhhhh ~~~~ that is what you are doing getting retread ! i have a farm and there's snow on the ground, if you must know

UniqueRaven -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:17:45 PM)
Mistakes: - Thinking that the Internet held all the information i would ever need - Submitting to men that were in retrospect not wise (and sometimes dangerous) choices - Not being selective enough while searching for a prospective Owner/Master - Being too afraid of 24/7 TPE to choose someone who was as strict and controlling as what i really needed

BitaTruble -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:20:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf what were the relationship mistakes you made after you found out about bdsm mine was my first submissive , being new and not confident i screwed it up by not being forceful enough Mistaking cruelty for dominance.

LadyPact -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:21:18 PM)
I can't answer your question. I don't consider anything I've done in My relationships as making mistakes. Poor judgment a time or two, perhaps. At the same time, I've learned from My experiences and it's made Me the person that I am today.

osf -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:23:05 PM)
what i don't understand is how women who call themselves submissive can act this way to somebody they do not know. don't they realize men are reading this and judging them on their actions a little more politeness goes a long way in projecting a desirable appearance what kind of dominant man do they think wants a woman that acts like that, one wonders

amaidiamond -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:25:05 PM)
Mistaking obsession for control, being with an abuser not a Dom

littlewonder -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:26:24 PM)
osf, not all subs are here to impress anyone. Not everyone is here to search for a man. Some of us are simply here to waste time. Some of us are already taken and not really interested in what others think.

sexyred1 -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:26:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf what i don't understand is how women who call themselves submissive can act this way to somebody they do not know. don't they realize men are reading this and judging them on their actions a little more politeness goes a long way in projecting a desirable appearance what kind of dominant man do they think wants a woman that acts like that, one wonders What do you mean, "act this way"? Are you saying if subs give a differing opinion or a strong opinion they are less than desirable? You know, osf, there are actually men who prefer smart spirited women. Even if you do not prefer that type, don't put down the men who appreciate those women.

LadyPact -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:27:45 PM)
what i don't understand is how males who call themselves dominant can act this way to somebody they do not know. don't they realize females are reading this and judging them on their words a little more politeness goes a long way in projecting a desirable appearance what kind of submissive female do they think wants a male that acts like that, one wonders I know Christmas is over and all, but if anybody out there can't see where Dickens mocked Scrooge when the ghost of Christmas past used his own words against him, showing him exactly his own regrets, well..... I just give up.

UniqueRaven -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:28:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble Mistaking cruelty for dominance. i would argue that there is a certain degree of cruelty contained in some Dominants, especially sadists. Outright cruelty, no, unless that's what punches your ticket. But one of my favorite yin/yang statements about what i need from a Dom is his "love and cruelty." Just thinking about what you've said. Not trying to hijack a thread that i'm sure is going to go south anyway. [:D]

osf -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:28:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble quote: ORIGINAL: osf what were the relationship mistakes you made after you found out about bdsm mine was my first submissive , being new and not confident i screwed it up by not being forceful enough Mistaking cruelty for dominance. one of the hardest lessons for a new dom to learn is accepting service i was too gentlemanly and always wanting to help her when she knew instinctively that that's not the way it should be, she knew instinctively what i had yet to learn

osf -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:30:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: osf what i don't understand is how women who call themselves submissive can act this way to somebody they do not know. don't they realize men are reading this and judging them on their actions a little more politeness goes a long way in projecting a desirable appearance what kind of dominant man do they think wants a woman that acts like that, one wonders What do you mean, "act this way"? Are you saying if subs give a differing opinion or a strong opinion they are less than desirable? You know, osf, there are actually men who prefer smart spirited women. Even if you do not prefer that type, don't put down the men who appreciate those women. the snide backhanded attitude

itsmeinLV -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:31:56 PM)
Hear, hear! [:D]

sexyred1 -> RE: early mistakes (12/31/2009 7:34:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: osf what i don't understand is how women who call themselves submissive can act this way to somebody they do not know. don't they realize men are reading this and judging them on their actions a little more politeness goes a long way in projecting a desirable appearance what kind of dominant man do they think wants a woman that acts like that, one wonders What do you mean, "act this way"? Are you saying if subs give a differing opinion or a strong opinion they are less than desirable? You know, osf, there are actually men who prefer smart spirited women. Even if you do not prefer that type, don't put down the men who appreciate those women. the snide backhanded attitude You know how you always say no one gets your humor? Well perhaps the "snide backhanded attitude" is that person's attempt at humor, but you don't appreciate it. Think about it.

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