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LafayetteLady -> RE: An Intelligence Fetish? Really? And is it shallow? (1/3/2010 5:25:49 PM)
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Firstly, Merriam Webster also defines "fetish" as an object of irrational reverence or obsessive devotion. Kinky sex practices don't have the market on the term.
I think that quibbling over whether or not something someone finds highly desirous qualifies as a fetish really has no purpose. I don't say I have a shoe "fetish," I say I'm a shoe whore (even though all my beautiful shoes are just for looking at now). I do say that I have a pajama "fetish" because I absolutely adore all my comfy jammies and they make me happy. I would live in pajamas 24/7 if I could. But no they don't turn me on. However, I would say that I have an obsessive devotion to my pajamas.
As others have already stated, "intelligence" can be defined in many ways. My man and my "psuedo" son are really intelligent when it comes to mechanical things. The man took apart his father's lawn mower when he was 4 and put it back together and yes, it worked. The "psuedo" son is pretty much the same.
When I was in school, I never had to put forth effort for my grades. I got easy "A's" and rarely even read the material. My mother didn't do anything "special" to bring that out in me, it just is. I had one friend in school who had to take tons of notes and spend hours going over the material to get the same grades as me. It isn't that one of us was more intelligent than the other necessarily, we just had different ways of processing the information. Just like many people can spend hours studying and still bomb on a test. Simply because they are poor at testing.
The OP's friend who easily maintains her body (yep we call those girls "skinny bitches) does have genetics on her side more so than any upbringing. If you don't have to work at maintaining your weight, then it is ALWAYS going to be your genetic makeup.
Can someone "make" themselves smarter? Of course. The statement that people with a learning disability can't make themselves more intelligent is offensive. A learning disability isn't a measure of intelligent, but a way of processing information that has shown to have occurred often enough that it now has a formal label and thankfully, a method for helping people with those various learning disabilities has been developed to help them reach their potential. The methods for someone with dyslexia is not the same as the method for someone with ADHD. Hell, there are about 24 different forms of dyslexia, so each of those methods needs to be a bit different.
Around here there seems to always be quibbling over words. People need to define "master," "dominant," "submissive," "slave," "fetish," "consent," etc. The list goes on and on, but for what point really? Even terms that one would think are universally accepted as having only one meaning within BDSM, have so many varying degrees that the term will only serve to let someone know in a general manner what the other has an interest in. Someone looking for "edge" play still needs to define which "edge." Someone sees someone who says they like watersports has to ask if they just want to piss on or be pissed on by someone or if they are looking for someone to ingest it.
If I see someone write in their profile they have a fetish about something, I'm not going to analyze whether or not they are using the term to my liking or to which dictionary definition they mean "fetish." If during discussions they tell me that they can't get aroused or orgasm unless all the conditions of that particular fetish are met, we aren't going to be compatible.
For the most part, the term "fetish" has come to mean something that someone really likes. In the medical use of the term, which seems to be what most here would like to apply, "fetish" does indeed indicate one's need for something outside of societal "norms" in order to be sexually stimulated and will typically interfere with their life needing treatment.
fetish
One entry found.
Main Entry: fe·tish
Variant(s): also fe·tich \ˈfe-tish also ˈfē-\
Function: noun
Etymology: French & Portuguese; French fétiche, from Portuguese feitiço, from feitiço artificial, false, from Latin facticius factitious
Date: 1613
1 a : an object (as a small stone carving of an animal) believed to have magical power to protect or aid its owner; broadly : a material object regarded with superstitious or extravagant trust or reverence b : an object of irrational reverence or obsessive devotion : prepossession c : an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression
2 : a rite or cult of fetish worshipers
3 : fixation
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